#37: Ghosted After Play? Swingers Etiquette.

18+ LISTENERS ONLY

Beyond Vanilla is an adults-only podcast discussing relationships, ethical non-monogamy, sexual health and other mature topics. This episode contains frank discussions about adult experiences and is intended for listeners aged 18 and over.

You meet someone in the lifestyle. You have a great time. You stay in touch afterwards, talk about meeting again... and then suddenly, nothing.

Have you been ghosted? Should they have told you they weren't interested? And what actually is the etiquette after you've played with someone?

This week, we're answering a listener's question about feeling snubbed by a previous play partner who appeared keen to meet again, but the promised second meet never materialised.

Amy and Emily discuss the sometimes awkward world of after-play etiquette, communication and expectations. Does sharing an experience with someone mean you owe each other anything afterwards? Is it kinder to simply say you're no longer interested? And how do you deal with feeling rejected when they're still very much active in the lifestyle — just apparently not with you?

We also talk about not taking every rejection personally, why a great experience doesn't necessarily mean there'll be another one, and how clearer communication could save everyone a lot of unnecessary overthinking.

Plus, we answer another listener question about choosing lifestyle clubs and what we'd recommend looking for when deciding where to go.

Another honest, judgement-free conversation about the bits of the lifestyle nobody gives you a handbook for.