I Never Gave Myself a Chance

What does it take to stop shaming yourself for drinking again? Sarah and Katie are trying to figure that out. It's easy to say that you need to change through compassion, self-love, and empathy, but putting that into practice is a much different story. Coach Hayley and Coach Cole use their training and their own experiences with drinking again to help Sarah and Katie use curiosity instead of blame and shame. Sarah discusses: Why over 100 days alcohol-free hasn't erased the fear that one bad day could send her back to hair of the dog Trusting the tools she's learned instead of the shame and blame she used to reach for first Bartending without missing the version of herself who used to drink through her shifts The intervention her sister and best friend staged, and why she couldn't hear it at the time Katie discusses: The "why" she keeps circling back to after relapsing months into a daily wine habit Reframing withdrawal agitation as her body healing instead of a sign something's wrong The 90 percent of her negative thoughts that turn out to be rumination, not fact Why being a "fixer" makes it harder to get curious about her own drinking pattern And more from both guests… Ready to take the next step? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/ Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning. Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/ Episode links: nakedmindpath.com More on this episode: https://thisnakedmind.com/podcast/stop-shaming-yourself-for-drinking-again-alcohol-freedom-coaching-ep-939/ Related episodes: Overcoming the Fear of Drinking Again | Naked Life Story | EP 741 – https://thisnakedmind.com/overcoming-the-fear-of-drinking-again-erins-naked-life-e741/ Progress Over Perfection, Learn to Embrace Self-Compassion | Alcohol Freedom Coaching | EP 730 – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-730-coaches-podcast-coach-ellie-with-lauri-m-tina-m/ Overcoming Shame and Embarrassment After Drinking | Reader Question | EP 722 – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-722-readers-question-overcoming-shame-and-embarrassment-after-drinking/ Follow on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357 Follow on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0UB06sNguPjVvgAYFBcR9I?si=b7568f24c21249ff This episode is sponsored by Instant Hydration, Quince, Shopify, Primal Queen, and Hungryroot: Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠⁠quince.com/naked⁠⁠ Shopify: Sign up for free trial at ⁠⁠shopify.com/mind⁠⁠ Hungryroot: Save 40% on your first order PLUS a free item at ⁠⁠hungryroot.com/mind⁠ CODE: mind Primal Queen: Get a free month of Primal Queen plus FOUR FREE GIFTS at PrimalQueen.com/⁠NAKEDMIND⁠ Instant Hydration: Save 40% on your first subscription order at instanthydration.com/nakedmind CODE: NAKEDMIND