Ep. 427 - Why Self-Doubt Hits Right Before Your Quantum Leap (and What to Do About It)

What if the thing between you and your next quantum leap isn't more effort, but believing you're already worthy of what you want?

Jessica sits down with founder, podcaster, and TBMer Ellie to bust the biggest myth about confidence: that you either have it or you don't. Ellie shares how she built hers through finding Expanders, nervous system regulation, and taking aligned action just beyond her comfort zone.

You'll also hear how monthly reflection shows you the progress you're actually making, how Ellie held her price while selling her Amsterdam home when every part of her wanted to settle, and why "fractional" Expanders shift your beliefs one piece at a time.

If you've been overworking, doubting you're confident enough, or feeling tested right before a breakthrough, this episode is for you. Your next moment of expansion may come from regulation and surrender, not force.

Full show notes → https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast

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In this episode we talk about:

• How Ellie went from a stable upbringing in the Netherlands to pursuing entrepreneurship
• Using your astrology, human design, and Authentic Code to guide career and life decisions
• Finding Expanders when no one in your immediate environment reflects your desired life
• Curating social media specifically to normalize your manifestations
• Why fractional Expanders can be just as powerful as traditional role models
• Using connection and community to get into the orbit of your Expanders
• Separating your deeper purpose from a specific career title
• Vision boards, goal boards, aligned action, and Ellie’s quarterly manifestation practice
• Why ambitious people need to consciously recognize their progress
• The discomfort, limiting beliefs, and nervous system activation that can precede an up-level
• Knowing whether you need more action or more surrender
• Why confidence comes from repetition, self-trust, and tolerating discomfort
• Using body language, regulation, breathwork, and somatic tools to feel safer taking up space

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• Find our Be Seen Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Sleep DI, and all of our Regulation and Unblocking DIs)

Connect with Ellie!

• elliedewit_ on IG
• Listen to CareerYap podcast
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• Ellie’s substack: https://careeryap.substack.com/

HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips

(with exercises by Jessica Gill)

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The Expanded Podcast, from To Be Magnetic™ (TBM), is the leading manifestation podcast rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and energetics. Hosted by TBM’s Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill, with monthly appearances from founder Lacy Phillips, Expanded is where science and the mystical meet to help you manifest in the most grounded, practical, and life-changing way.

At TBM, we’ve redefined manifestation through Neural Manifestation™—our proven, science-backed method developed with neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart. This process helps you reprogram limiting beliefs at the subconscious level so you can create the life most aligned with your authenticity.

Each week, we take you inside the TBM practice to help you expand your subconscious to believe what you desire is possible. Through expert interviews, thought leader conversations, TBM teachings, and real member success stories, you’ll learn how to:
– Rewire your subconscious mind and step into your worth
– Heal your inner child and integrate shadow work
– Set boundaries, strengthen intuition, and reclaim self-worth
– Manifest relationships, careers, abundance, and experiences that align with your true self

With over than 40 million downloads and a global community in over 100 countries, Expanded has become the gold standard in manifestation content. Think of it as your weekly practice for expanding your mind, believing what you want is possible, and manifesting the life you’re meant to live.

Past guests include leading voices such as Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest.

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