Stop Imagining the Wedding, Imagine the Marriage

Relationship anxiety does not disappear once the dating stage ends. Sometimes it shows up as planning, comparison, excitement, or constantly thinking about the next milestone.

Lilly Wehman and Amelia Abernathy talk honestly about engagement anticipation, the pressure to seem like the “cool girl,” and how difficult it can be to stay present when the future feels close enough to imagine. They also share practical ways to slow down, communicate what is happening, and approach anxious thoughts with curiosity instead of criticism.

Key Topics

Why anxiety can continue in established relationships
Imagining the wedding versus imagining the marriage
Engagement anticipation and the discomfort of waiting
Planning as a way to manage uncertainty
The pressure to act chill or unbothered
The difference between validation and comparison
Staying present during relationship transitions
Communicating fears, expectations, and boundaries
Using journaling, mindfulness, movement, and friendships to slow down
Giving yourself grace when experiencing something new

Join the conversation:

What is something dating in your twenties has taught you about yourself? Share your thoughts and stories with us — we’d love to hear them.

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Connect:

Lilly Wehman: Millennium | LinkedIn
Amelia Abernathy: Millennium | LinkedIn

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