Boundaries in Sex Work

Can you recall the terrorizing thrill of a teacher reprimanding you in front of the whole class, the sensation of your heart pounding in your ears, your cheeks burning from embarrassment? Good. Now, imagine someone voluntarily seeking that thrill, craving it. This episode, I’ll explain how I incorporate humiliation in my practice as a Dominatrix, as I breakdown why humiliation is so popular amongst submissives, and the different ways people engage with that emotion. I’ll also provide insights from my unique approach to domination, and how I use humiliation to potentially shatter individuals' self-perceptions. Experience the unexpected as I share personal experiences, including instances where I humiliate clients about their small penises at dungeons and nude beaches. More on Eva Oh, https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:15) - Welcome to My Sofa (01:00) - An Introduction to the Humiliation Kink (02:40) - Why is Humiliation So Popular, Societal Shame (05:40) - How to Use Humiliation, Taking Care (06:50) - My First Humiliation Session, Small Penis Humiliation (11:55) - Why is Small Penis Humiliation is Popular, Feelings of Inadequacy in the Pressures of Expectation in Society (15:45) - A Humiliation Session at the Nude Beach (21:45) - Why I Enjoy Humiliation, and How I Integrate It

14 Marras 202324min

The Season Finale! It’s been a raw ride of experiences, emotions, and lessons learned and I shared much more with you than I bargained for. Do I regret it? In this season finale I reminisce over what I’ve revealed - my turning into an AI, my sex party adventures, encounters with clients gone wrong and more… It’s been challenging but I hope my life's insights and my world have spoken to you, or at least inspired a little joy. Shall I do another season? More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:15) - How I Created the Podcast This Season (01:30) - Which Episodes Were Tough! (02:10) - What Did I Want From It? (03:00) - Leaving a Rating Really Helps! Thank you (03:15) - Why I Started This Podcast (04:50) - What Surprised Me (06:10) - Vulnerability and Community Support (07:58) - A Fun Opportunity to Investigate My Own Mind (09:40) - Major Motivations (10:40) - A Reflection on the ‘Arsehole Tax’ Episode and Money (13:15) - Getting to Share My History (14:20) - How Should I Move Forward? (15:30) - The Risks (18:10) - Thank You for Listening. See You Next Season?

7 Marras 202318min

What if the key to attracting wealth, in all its forms, is contentment rather than raw manipulation? In this episode I open up on what I've learned about honesty, assertiveness, observation and communication - to get what I want. More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:15) - Mind Tricks (01:15) - My Own Mind (02:10) - Contentment as a Tool, Over Ourselves and Others? (05:05) - My Values (07:30) - How My Family Factors In (09:20) - I Have What I Want (10:15) - People Are Drawn In (10:35) - How Being A Dominatrix Has Added To My Success (11:32) - How My Skills (With Manipulation?) Could Be Problematic (12:10) - Being Observant and Not Judging Too Soon (13:00) - Breakdown of the Ego Can Lead to Generosity (14:00) - Centring My Pleasure, with Less Attachment (15:40) - Understanding What You Actually Want (16:55) - Pandering to Ego as a Tactic? (19:25) - Figuring Out How My Assertiveness Fits in the World (21:15) - Bringing the Skills of the Dungeon into My Daily Life (22:25) - A Recap (24:35) - Choosing When to Use My Skills (25:55) - A Reflection on the #teakink Podcast

31 Loka 202326min

Can moving to a tropical paradise truly transform your life? I found myself drawn to Bali after a period of burnout, yearning for a slower rhythm amidst nature. I would travel overseas to see my clients and communities once a month. But my idyllic existence quickly gave way to a harsher reality when borders shut for COVID, and I filled the gap by launching myself into the local expat community. Venture with me as I discover a realm of sex coaches and their tantric swinger nights, lost start up founders and their cold plunges and a healthy mass of the generally dysfunctional. I also land myself in the midst of corruption, theft and a growing awareness of the injustice that underpins the islands existence; and spoiler alert, I eventually leave to find a kink community that satisfies what I am looking for, for now… More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:15) - Why Bali? (01:35) - My Jungle Home (03:05) - Healing a Burnout (04:00) - Naivety Against Corruption and Wealth Inequality (05:50) - Moving to Canggu (08:02) - The Exoticisation of the Other (09:00) - Running Away (10:15) - Misogyny and Safety (11:05) - Corruption (12:05) - Dysfunction (14:20) - The Bali Kink Community (16:25) - The London Kink Community (17:05) - What is a Life Coach? (17:50) - Sex Coaches (18:50) - Tantric Temple Swinger Nights (19:50) - Loneliness and Cold Plunges (20:10) - Start-up Founders and Finding Themselves (24:00) - Discovering What I Actually Needed (28:00) - I Just Want to Fit In?

24 Loka 202330min

For years, I lived a double life. My conservative, Christian mother knew nothing of my profession as a Dominatrix until a revelation seven years in the making unfolded, with surprising results. In this candid, personal episode, I share about the fear, the tension, and ultimately the liberation that came with breaking my silence. I explore the delicate dance of withholding the truth, the strain it put on my relationship with my mother, and the unexpected acceptance that emerged. Disclaimer: Some long pauses towards the end due to tears :) More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:15) - Coming Out to Mum About Being a Dominatrix (01:35) - Bible Study, Christianity, Conservatism (03:55) - Hiding My Job and What it Did to Our Relationship (04:40) - Why Did I Tell Her After 7 Years? (05:30) - Sex Worker Friendly Therapy (07:15) - Planning the Coming Out (08:30) - Executing the Plan, Not As Expected (10:04) - Mum’s Questions About the Job (12:15) - My Answers (16:16) - My Mother’s Insight, Humour and Compassion (20:15) - How The Coming Out Settled

17 Loka 202321min

Ever wondered how people respond to a woman who chooses an unconventional path for her livelihood? I once met a man so profoundly disturbed by my line of work, he became aggressive and then splurged on two million dollars worth of watches to soothe himself. What does it mean to face aggression and intimidation, not as a result of any personal wrong-doing, but merely from the threat your profession poses to societal norms? On this episode of the #teakink Podcast we explore the array of reactions I’ve received as a Dominatrix. We discuss how these responses are shaped by societal expectations and how I’ve learned to navigate them. This conversation serves as a deep reminder of how society struggles with open discussions around sexuality and the unique strength it takes to be a woman who doesn't back down in the face of such intimidation. More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:15) - Meeting Men Who React Poorly to Assertive Women(02:50) - Common Ways They React(03:30) - Why It is Unsettling for Them(05:00) - Two Million Dollars Worth of Ego Soothing(06:15) - Managing Society’s Sexual Hangups(07:45) - The First Time I Came Out at a Dinner Party(10:35) - Friends’ Reactions(12:15) - How I Handle Reactions, Then and Now(12:55) - The Job as a Filter(13:45) - From Disapproval to Understanding(15:35) - Women’s Reactions and Anger(17:10) - Society’s Suffering and Their Resulting Projections on my Job(21:45) - Puritanical Values That Go Unquestioned(24:20) - You Are Not Free. That is The Problem(25:25) - Meaning and Purpose

10 Loka 202326min

I, Eva Oh, have found myself at a crossroads - TV show proposals, brand collaborations, and even the prospect of becoming an AI companion have me reflecting on the trajectory of my unconventional career. On this episode I delve deep into the pros and cons; and why now, more than ever, there's a sudden interest in stories like mine. My choices today will reshape the narrative of my life tomorrow, and that's a responsibility I do not take lightly. So, come along as I contemplate the chaos and ponder over whether it's the right time for me - a Dominatrix - to step into the mainstream. More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:15) - TV Producers, Talent Managers and Agents Approaching (01:40) - Why Would a Sex Worker Say Yes? (02:20) - What Disgusts Me About the Idea (03:50) - My Words and Voice (05:05) - What I Enjoy About Interviews (06:30) - Why the Media are Interested in Representing Sex Workers Now (08:20) - How Should I Join the Narrative? (08:44) - From Dominatrix to Executive Producer (10:30) - Sex Workers Mistrust of the Media (11:10) - Seeing it as an Opportunity (11:55) - TV Hesitation vs AI Enthusiasm (12:30) - The Chaos of Sex Worker Meets Influencer Culture (14:25) - How Meditation Plays it's Part (15:25) - Embracing the Chaos (16:30) - Am I a Sell Out? (18:10) - Community and Personal Gain (18:55) - The Case for RuPaul’s Drag Race (22:55) - Am I Going to Regret This? (24:00) - Self-compassion

3 Loka 202326min

I’ve had some trouble working and playing with couples since I first started working as a Dominatrix in 2011. In this episode, hear the story of Fisting Bob, a regular at the dungeon I used to work in, and the strange turns our professional relationship took when I started getting letters from his wife. Follow me into the Piss Pit at Berghain with two dear friends of mine who may have rescued my faith in playing with couples. Find out more about the exploration of our desires and how the BDSM community can give space to the negotiation that can facilitate their satiation. Watch me rethink my past and maybe reframe the opinion that started this episode in the first place. More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:15) - What is a Relationship Unicorn? (00:52) - Meet Fisting Bob (07:06) - A Bad Decision? (15:13) - Exploring Desires and Negotiating Boundaries (16:59) - The Piss Pit at Berghain (24:00) - Reflections on Reacting and Seeking Reassurance (27:21) - Changing My Perception on Being a Unicorn

26 Syys 202328min