183: Do rewards improve motivation? Can parents 'toughen' up their kids?

183: Do rewards improve motivation? Can parents 'toughen' up their kids?

"I'll do it, but not because you told me to" is a common humorous refrain in movies & TV shows. In this show, we explore where this emotion comes from. First, by reviewing a famous study that found that kids spend less time drawing if you tell them that they'll get a good student award for drawing a good picture, compared to if you just let them draw without telling them anything. Then, Dr. Lisle answers the following questions: 1. With regard to the ego and pleasure traps, if you want to instill a sense of motivation, do you set goals and fundamentals that solicit a stress response as opposed to soliciting an anxious or depressive response? How do you decide on a goal or the fundamentals that can begin the process of getting you out of the ego/pleasure trap? Is it a matter of deciding what is 10% better than what you are currently doing? 2. Can parents toughen up their children, including infants, so that they don't cry as much, by pampering them less? In other words, is there evidence that you can make infants cry less or make young children less sensitive or whiny be letting them have to deal with a little discomfort rather than helping them out all the time? 3. When you talk about narcissists you usually discuss those who come across as highly disagreeable. But it seems some can be very charming. Can you explain the charming narcissist and how to spot one? 4. Why does my anxiety and feelings of regret tend to peak at night but dissipate throughout the day?

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393: Can You Talk Your Way Out of the Friend Zone? (Part 2)

393: Can You Talk Your Way Out of the Friend Zone? (Part 2)

Can you talk your way out of the friend zone? Evolutionary psychologist Dr. Doug Lisle says no, because there is nothing you said that put you there. A woman's brain runs one of the most sophisticated...

29 Syys 33min

392: The Friend Zone: What Her Brain Is Calculating

392: The Friend Zone: What Her Brain Is Calculating

Is the friend zone real, and can you get out of it? Evolutionary psychologist Dr. Doug Lisle explains what is actually happening when a woman sees you as "just a friend," and why it has nothing to do ...

26 Syys 35min

391: Part 3 - Dr. Lisle's New Book: Sherlock Holmes and the Secret of Life Interview Part 2 of 3

391: Part 3 - Dr. Lisle's New Book: Sherlock Holmes and the Secret of Life Interview Part 2 of 3

Dr. Doug Lisle wraps up the three-part series on Sherlock Holmes and the Secret of Life by explaining why almost no one has ever filmed a real, unscripted therapy session, why he chose to tell this bo...

10 Syys 32min

390: Part 2 -  Dr. Lisle's New Book: Sherlock Holmes and the Secret of Life Interview Part 2 of 3

390: Part 2 - Dr. Lisle's New Book: Sherlock Holmes and the Secret of Life Interview Part 2 of 3

Dr. Doug Lisle continues the story of Sherlock Holmes and the Secret of Life in part two of this three-part series. He breaks down the book's central claim: that every feeling and action, from depress...

10 Syys 33min

389: Dr. Lisle's New Book: Sherlock Holmes and the Secret of Life Interview Part 1 of 3

389: Dr. Lisle's New Book: Sherlock Holmes and the Secret of Life Interview Part 1 of 3

Dr. Doug Lisle announces his new book, Sherlock Holmes and the Secret of Life, more than a decade in the making. In the first of a three-part series, Dr. Lisle traces the book's twisting 12-year path:...

10 Syys 33min

388: Why Can't I Let Go When He Sends Me Mixed Messages?

388: Why Can't I Let Go When He Sends Me Mixed Messages?

A listener has spent a year chasing a high-profile CEO who disappears for weeks, resurfaces warmly, and never quite commits. She knows the math doesn't add up, so why can't she walk away? Dr. Doug Lis...

12 Elo 51min

387: The Black Sheep of a Genius Family

387: The Black Sheep of a Genius Family

She grew up in a family of surgeons, a Google computer scientist, and a NASA astrophysicist, and she became a flight attendant who wanted to be a housewife. Now her genius-level family calls her the f...

22 Heinä 33min

386: How to Handle Bad Advice Without a Fight

386: How to Handle Bad Advice Without a Fight

What do you say when a friend or family member recommends horse-assisted coaching, family constellations therapy, or the latest protein fix for your problems? Evolutionary psychologist Dr. Doug Lisle ...

10 Heinä 45min

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