Your Anxiety Toolkit - Practical Skills for Anxiety, Panic & Depression30 Marras 2018

Ep. 77: Managing Perfectionism and Learning To Be Good Enough (with Kim Foster Carlson)

Managing Perfectionism and Learning To Be Good Enough (with Kim Foster Carlson)

Welcome to another episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast! This week, we talk about all things anxiety and mental health.

Today, I am excited to share with you our guest, Kim Foster Carlson. Kim Foster Carlson is an award-winning broadcast journalist in San Francisco Bay and the author of the book Good Enough: How to Overcome Fear of Failure and Perfectionism To Live Your Best Life.

There is not a day in my office where I don't see the debilitating anxiety that is caused by perfectionism. Perfectionism can prevent us from trying new things, paralyze us when we have to perform, and can cause us to be very hard on ourselves. In today's podcast, Kim addressed many of the factors that might cause perfectionism, as well as some super helpful tools to manage it. The difficult part is that we are constantly being bombarded by unrealistic expectations from our family, our social media accounts, from magazines and from our society's expectations.

In this interview, Kim and I talk about perfectionism, fear of failure, anxiety and procrastination.

Kim shares her history of being an athlete and how perfectionism and the fear of failure caused her to be very hard on herself.

Kim also shares her story of going to therapy and realizing that perfectionism was the cause of her anger, anxiety and poor coping strategies. She shared how this was triggered by stressors related to parenting and she was so open about how she got through some very difficult times. Kim details many mindfulness skills that helped her along the road to becoming a "recovered perfectionist."

One tip that I loved from today's episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit was Kim's example of Steph Curry, a professional basketball player. Kim emphasized the importance of "finding the joy" (Steph Curry's phrase) in everything we do by practicing gratitude and by verbally thanking someone every day. I just loved this idea and this is a tool I am going to adopt myself.

I hope you enjoy this week's episode.

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