118: Aging as a Transman – Sex and all that jazz – Buck Angel!

As a 40+ gay man, he's now living his most authentic life being the ANKRBOY he'd never dreamed hed be in this way. During the height of the HIV/AIDS epidemic, his life and career was shattered because of one innocent move out in public. But that didn't stop him from rising to the top of his now delicioous 40+ gay life. Joining us today on the podcast is three-time Emmy® award-winning anchorman and best-selling author - ANKRBOY - turned actor, Mark Pettit, to share his journey of coming into being himself in a world hellbent on telling him he would never work again because of his sexuality. In this episode you'll Hear the moments that most impacted Mark's life to help him live his truth Unlock hatred that existed and still exists towards the LGBTQ+ community Learn how live your truth, anything is possible About Mark Mark is a three-time Emmy® award-winning TV news anchorman and best-selling author turned actor. In his new, heart-wrenching memoir, ANKRBOY (a #1 bestseller on Amazon), Pettit reveals what it was like growing up as a young, closeted TV newscaster trying to make his way during the height of the HIV/AIDS epidemic. His first book, A Need to Kill, also went to #1 in three categories on Amazon. Pettit has worked in journalism for more than 30 years on both the national and local level. A former anchorman at CNN, Pettit also worked as an anchor and investigative reporter at WXIA-TV (NBC), KMTV-3 (CBS) in Omaha, and at CBS46 News (WGCL-TV) in Atlanta (Now "Atlanta News First"). As an actor, Mark has appeared in a number of hit TV series including "True Detective," "Mindhunter," "Mr. Mercedes," "Sweet Magnolias" and "The Game." Pettit is also Executive Producer and appears in the horror film "The Curse of La Patasola" which is airing now exclusively on STARZ and will soon be available worldwide. Connect With Mark Website Instagram LinkedIn YouTube

19 Heinä 202445min

From finding himself on the streets at a young age to thriving in the military, this former Boy Scout found his wings, gave back to his country, and literally and figuratively learned the power of finding his own gay wings to thrive beyond the chains of sexual abuse victimhood. You're invitied into an intimate conversation where Ron Hunter, author of Angel Finally Found his Wings: A True Story Of Finding Trust, Hope, Faith, And The Power Of Love, shares himself, his story, and his wisdom for thriving beyond your circumstances. Learn how... His will to trust finally got reawakened The ability to go beyond is within each of us Loving yourself is the key to getting your own wings to fly About Ron Ron Hunter was raised in abject poverty in Brooklyn, with 21 siblings, by a schizophrenic mother in and out of mental institutions, and a dad who died when he was just six years old. A local Boy Scouts leader took an interest in young Ron and then violated the family trust, stealing the innocence of a 12-year-old boy. Ron was then blackmailed by this man and forced into prostitution in Times Square. Rather than be labeled a victim, Ron asserts that he is a survivor and is now an active advocate to give voice to others. He reveals this story in a moving and inspiring memoir, Angel Finally Found his Wings: A True Story Of Finding Trust, Hope, Faith, And The Power Of Love. He is a lover of life, a survivor of sexual abuse, and a person of profound faith in the miraculous. Ron resides in Roaring Gap, North Carolina with his husband, Scott, and has a second home in St. Petersburg, Florida. Connect With Ron Website Facebook Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

12 Heinä 202439min

Yes sir, I'm a farm boy. Yes sir, I'm ready to serve my country. No sir, I'm not gay or do drag - but your not supposed to ask and I'm not supposed to tell. Taking us on his journey to stand up for who he is, virgin author, Jay Claypool shares his life and story about growing up on a rural farm in Georgia and keeping his life as a gay man and drag performer hidden through the "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" years. Learn how... His strong conviction to himself kept him going Authenticity has helped him know who he is as a human Uncover his motto of giving people their human rights About Jay Jay Claypool is a 20-year United States Air Force veteran, and freshman author originally from Augusta, Georgia. As a young drag performer, and frequent night-club fixture, Jay strives to be a source of inspiration to anyone with wild ambition, who also may be doubting their sexuality, individuality, and artistic freedom, specifically within the ranks of the military. He currently lives in Washington DC, with his Navy veteran husband Douglas. Connect With Jay Instagram Facebook Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

5 Heinä 202450min

Is gay romance dead? Do you feel like no gay man has a romantic bone left in his body? Well grab your beach chair, your Speedo, and sunscreen and get ready for your next summer read. Steamy, passionate, and full of sizzling romance, author C. Travis Rice (Christopher Rice) shows how ghosts of gay men's past can lead to an happy ending. In this candid, heart centered interview, Christopher shares how and where he gets in inspiration as well as digs deeper into the heart of who we are as gay men and how we need our elders and each other in such a deeper way, now more than ever to support our community. In this episode you'll Learn about Christopher's sparks of inspiration for his books Hear his heart-felt philosophy and how we can better embrace one another in the gay community Understand how our "healthy gay aging generation" is sparking romance as a desire in relationships About C. Travis Rice CHRISTOPHER RICE is A New York Times bestselling author who writes under the pen name C. Travis Rice and delivers the fourth book in his Sapphire Cove series titled: SAPPHIRE DAWN. He is the recipient of the Lambda Literary Award. He is the Amazon Charts and New York Times bestselling author of: A Density of Souls; Bone Music, Blood Echo, and Blood Victory in the Burning Girl series; and Bram Stoker Award finalists The Heavens Rise and The Vines. An executive producer for television, he also penned 2 novels with his mother, Anne Rice: Ramses the Damned: The Passion of Cleopatra and Ramses The Damned: The Reign of Osiris. Together with his best friend and producing partner, New York Times bestselling novelist Eric Shaw Quinn, Christopher runs the production company Dinner Partners. Among other projects, they produce the podcast and video network TDPS, which can be found at www.TheDinnerPartyShow.com. He lives in West Hollywood, California, and writes tales of romance between men under the pseudonym C. Travis Rice. Connect With C. Travis Rice Website Instagram X-Twitter

28 Kesä 202433min

Happy Pride. That's what today's guest said over the pounding beat of his DJing life for many years. The thrill, the fun, the drugs, the sex. It all made him feel desired and alive...so to speak, until it didn't. Then he woke to the truth that to be desired and loved, he had to do that to and for himself. Dr. Wade Maggert, brings his Buddhist sensibilities and practical awakened self to this candid conversation about his life, then and now, and shares how during this Pride Season, you can find yourself when you simply look within. About Wade Dr. Wade Maggert, esteemed mental health expert and advocate, harbors a past as vibrant as his current professional pursuits. Before his doctoral days, the world knew him as DJ Ra, spinning tracks in the most electrifying gay nightclubs across global capitals. His journey through the highs of fame was a prelude to personal transformation. Encountering the consequences of an intense lifestyle led him to therapy, revealing the scars of an anti-gay upbringing. Embracing self-love marked the beginning of his dedication to mental health, inspiring a profound shift from electrifying dance floors to empowering lives in the LGBTQ+ community and beyond. With a Master of Social Work from UNLV and a groundbreaking PhD in Depth Psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute, Dr. Maggert has pioneered research into the depths of the masculine psyche. As an educator and a seasoned practitioner, his mastery extends from academia to the frontlines of mental health advocacy. His specializations in advanced therapeutic techniques have revolutionized treatment paradigms. At the helm of three VA mental health programs and at the heart of his private practice, Dragonfly Psychotherapy, Dr. Maggert is a trailblazer for trauma and addiction recovery within the LGBTQ+ community. Beyond his professional prowess, he is a Zen Buddhist adept, weaving the tranquility of meditation into his therapeutic approach and sharing his wisdom at the Houston Zen Center. Dr. Maggert's life's work is not just his occupation, but his offering to the world. Connect With Matt Website Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

21 Kesä 202445min

From the moment he was a young man, he knew, and was taught - no one is going to hand you anything and you have to go out and get it yourself. And as a Jamaican-American man that is exactly what he did. He's gone out and fiercely pursued his dreams and lived his life authentically. Author and Fashion Designer, Kadeem Alphanso Fyffe shares is thoughts on how you stay and the game of your life to create your own way into your destiny as a gay man. In this episode you'll discover... How his toughest challenges brought him to is greatest strengths The one phrase that always moves him from failure to success What one thing you must do every day to feel fulfilled About Kadeem Kadeem Alphanso Fyffe, is a Jamaican-American fashion designer. His label, KADEEM ALPHANSO FYFFE | NEW YORK, specializes in made-to-order event wear and RTW for the contemporary woman. He studied womenswear design in Milan, Italy at Istituto di Moda Burgo, and is a gradaute of Parsons School of Design. Fyffe has worked for esteemed brands such as Michael Kors, Burberry, and Marc Jacobs - his work has been featured in numerous major publications, including in USA Today, People, and Cosmopolitan; his LGBTQ+ advocacy work landed him on Out Magazine’s 2020 Out 100 List. Additionally, Kadeem is the author of Threading the Needle: A Fashion Designer's Guide to Successfully Launching Your First Collection. Connect With Kadeem Website Instagram LinkedIn Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

14 Kesä 202447min

There's a stereotype about gay men that all we want is sex, partying, and drugs. For some that might be true. For others we just enjoy the occasional dip into that space. But what happens when navigating the drinking, drug, partying way of being becomes blurred and we don't realize that we're on the verge of addiction? Joining me today to unpack this question is Michael Pezzullo, licensed Marriage and Family therapist, known as The Weho Therapist. We have a candid and supportive conversation about navigating sex, drugs, and alcohol during this pride season. About Michael Michael is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. He earned his Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University and a Bachelor’s Degree in media and communication from New York University. He works in private practice in West Hollywood, CA. In his practice, Michael works heavily with the LGBTQIA+ community--with a specific focus on gay men. He also has extensive experience treating substance use disorders. Michael has specialized experience treating those who struggle with “chem-sex”—the addictive process of using substances to heighten sexual arousal. He also created and facilitated an LGBTQ+ identity group for Impulse United, a global HIV advocacy nonprofit. Michael works from an attachment perspective while treating couples. He is certified in several trauma therapy modalities including: trauma-focused cognitive behavioral therapy, attachment-focused EMDR and ketamine assisted psychotherapy. Michael was born and raised in the heart of New York City: Hell’s Kitchen. He now lives in West Hollywood with his husband and their two dogs. Outside of work, Michael is heavily involved in the local LGBTQ+ recovery community and is an avid plant collector. Connect With Michael Website Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

7 Kesä 202451min

Men, muscle and masculinity. It seems to be that constant tug-of-war in our male psyche. Then add to the mix being gay, and suddenly we're a mess. Whether you're a muscle chaser, worshipper, or it's not your thing, there is that swole that happens in your loins when you feast upon a man, regardless of how you land on the muscle spectrum. Taking a deep dive into muscle, men, and masculinity, virgin, first-time author Michal Andor Brodeur helps us kick off Pride Season with the question - is that a muscle or are you just happy to see me - LOL. Enjoy! In this episode we Explore why muscle has become such a gay pursuit Uncover the balance between masculinity and muscle Debate whether muscle makes you more of a man About Michael Michael Andor Brodeur has been the classical music critic at the Washington Post since 2020. Previously, he held editorial and staff-writer positions at the Boston Globe and Boston’s Weekly Dig. His essays, humor, and criticism have also appeared in Nylon, Thrillist, Entrepreneur, Medium, McSweeney’s Internet Tendency and other publications. He has also released 5 music albums under different monikers, most recently writing and performing electronic music under the name New Dad. His newest book is "SWOLE: The Making of Men and the Meaning of Muscle," released May 28. Connect With Michael Website Facebook Instagram X - Twitter Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month...

31 Touko 202446min