206: Hacking Your Way To Better Sexual Health For Gay Men– Dr. Judson Brandeis

Relationships are messy - gay or straight! So what happens when you have that candid conversation with your spouse, letting her know that your biseuxal, but you mutually decide that for the betterment of each other, your family, and your future to have a non-monogamous open marriage? What could go wrong? What could go right? Today's guest, and debut Author Wayne Scott, shares about his journey as a bisexual man, and how he and his spouse have navigate "The Maps They Gave Us - One Marriage Reimagined. In this podcast you'll learn: How to make your marriage or relationship, anything you want it to be Two lessons that have had the most profound impact on his relationship Why divorce should not be a social evil Tune in now & get your non-monogamy insights for making it work. About Wayne WAYNE SCOTT’s essays have appeared in numerous publications, including The New York Times, Huffington Post, The Sun, and The University of Chicago Magazine. His New York Times essay “Two Open Marriages in One Small Room” was adapted for the Modern Love podcast in 2021 and eventually “dutchified” for Modern Love (2022), a TV adaptation based in Amsterdam. Scott was also a Tin House Fellow in 2019. He continues to use his voice to inspire others to live and think outside of the bounds of normativity. Connect With Wayne Website Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

18 Huhti 39min

Financial uncertainty in 2025? Don’t panic—David Lester, TV money expert, coach, and author, is here to help! Known as "Your Money Gay Best Friend" (MGBF), David dishes out tough love, smart money moves, and a little fabulous flair to get your finances in check. Key lessons you'll learn: How to build a rock-solid money mindset Smart strategies for navigating financial uncertainty Why investing in FREE entertainment saves you more than just money Tune in now & get your financial glow-up! About David As Americans brace for financial uncertainty in 2025, David Lester, a proud and out TV money expert, financial coach, and two-time author, is here to help listeners tackle their finances with his signature blend of expertise, humor, and practical advice. Known as “Your Money Gay Best Friend” (MGBF), David tells it like it is—offering tough love and fabulous financial fixes to help everyone create their dream money mindset. With over 20 years of experience working with top financial institutions like Merrill Lynch and RBC, and media appearances on CBS, FOX, BNN, and more, David is a go-to authority on personal finance. He’s written I Heart Money and From Middle Class to Millionaire, and his insights have been featured in CNBC, VICE Money, HuffPost, and Entrepreneur. Recently, he taught “Art as an Investment” at Christie’s HQ in London, blending his expertise in alternative investments like art with traditional financial strategies. Connect With David Website Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

11 Huhti 53min

Connection. We all yearn for it in different ways - personally, professionally, and erotically. Plus, connection in so many other ways. Yet what happened for me over a 4-day Connect Retreat with Court Vox - Certified Intimacy and Sex coach, was surprising, intriguing, scary, exiting, and led me places I never would have imagined - in all areas of my life. Today I share my raw truths, experiences, and insights in this episode. You'll discover: The truth about what drove me to go to the retreat and what I had to release Where eroticism showed up where I least expected it What I am no longer afraid to do to fully in my erotic self About Rick Rick is a well-known culture disruptor in the LGBTQ+ community and world (in a good way), “closet buster (coming out coach),” and bold move coach for gay men (the gay man's life coach) – inspiring gay men to live life with no excuses, no fears, no apologies. Tapping into his 25+ years experience in personal development, and leveraging being a late bloomer, coming out of the closet at 36, he’s created a no B.S. approach for thriving as a gay man and father – personally and professionally. His writing has been featured in Huffington Post, YourTango, The Good Men Project, e-Harmony. He is a published author - Frankly My Dear I’m Gay  - and currently working on his second book. His love for podcasting (Life (UN)Closeted and 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk), has led him to publish over 900 episodes and counting. He is also a highly sought after speaker and speaker trainer. His mission is to inspire gay and bisexual men to fully embrace the truth of who they are for unapologetic living on their terms. He loves wine, his two grown daughters, and his husband, in that order but don’t tell the hubby where he fits in the pecking order. Connect With Rick Website Instragram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

4 Huhti 21min

COVID changed everything—our priorities, our beliefs, and the way we see ourselves. For celebrity hair colorist Corey Powell, it sparked a deeper calling: to help others in the LGBTQ+ community break free from the stories holding them back. After years of coaching clients from his salon chair, Corey took the leap to become a life coach, guiding the LGBTQ+ community toward living their most authentic lives. In this heartfelt conversation, Corey and I go man-to-man on: The power of pausing to create deeper connections What "mattering" truly means for yourself and others How to escape the autopilot of life and rediscover your purpose Tuning into the heartbeat of your soul to live authentically If you're a gay man over 40 ready to shed limiting beliefs and embrace your truth, this episode is for you. Let’s explore what’s possible when you stop holding yourself back. About Corey With over three decades in the industry, celebrity colorist Corey Powell has built a reputation for transforming more than just hair—he helps clients redefine their self-image. Trained under the legendary José Eber, Corey has worked with stars like Cameron Diaz, Reese Witherspoon, and Debra Messing, perfecting his signature blonding techniques. Beyond the salon, Corey champions self-worth and personal growth, particularly for gay men navigating life without a clear roadmap. Through his philosophy of creating a luxurious relationship with yourself, he offers practical steps for embracing confidence, singlehood after 40, and finding purpose in an ever-changing world. On 40+ Gay Men Gay Talk Podcast, Corey shares insights on self-expression, reinvention, and the power of showing up as your best self—inside and out. Connect With Corey Website Instagram Facebook Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

28 Maalis 34min

Life feeling a little too much lately? You’re not alone. But what if you could hit reset and find your calm—no matter what’s happening around you? Even if that means you relinquish your family upbringing, get ex-communicated from your church, and finally start living your truth as a gay man, as you always meant to be. Enter Chad Michael Hardy, author of Law of Zero, here to help you ditch the stress, drop the guilt, and reclaim your joy. What you’ll learn: Chad’s 5-step approach to finding peace, love, and balance How to break free from guilt and stop the overthinking spiral Why zero isn’t just a number—it’s a state of mind If you’re ready for less stress & more YOU, this episode is a must-listen! About Chad While the world today seems filled with upheaval and uncertainty, finding calm within the chaos can feel impossible. Enter Chad Michael Hardy – a new author who’s compelling and inspiring memoir/self-help story is especially timely in today’s polarized climate. While avoiding political discourse, he offers fresh ways to process personal stressors and find clarity in challenging times. Chad’s backstory: From gaining global fame as the creator of the controversial “Men on a Mission” calendar that led to excommunication from his faith and revocation of his BYU degree, Chad’s journey also includes embracing his identity as a gay man raised in a devout Mormon household. Now, Chad is channeling his unique insights into Law of Zero, his debut book that reached #2 on Amazon’s Gay & LGBTQ+ Bestsellers list (Gay & LGBTQ+) and #16 in New Age Self-Help in less than a week of debuting on January 7th. In Law of Zero, Chad blends his remarkable story with practical guidance to help others reset, recharge, and reclaim joy. His five principles - Find Awareness, Secure Alignment, Take Ownership, Release to Receive, and Engage Power - provide actionable tools to manage stress, rediscover balance, and live authentically. Connect With Chad Website Instagram Chad's Business Instagram LinkedIn Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

14 Maalis 47min

We all love a good adventure, but let’s be real—traveling as a gay man isn’t just about picking a destination; it’s about finding places where you can truly feel safe, seen, and celebrated. So, where in the world can you be your fabulous, free self without worry? This week, I’m joined by LGBTQ+ travel expert & Queer Adventurers founder, who’s here to drop all the tips on traveling smart, safe, and stress-free. What you’ll learn: How to spot red flags & know if a place is safe for LGBTQ+ travelers The best ways to maximize your travel budget while seeing the world Hacks to plan trips without the overwhelm – because travel should be fun, not stressful! Pack your bags, grab your passport, and tune in—this episode is your ultimate gay travel guide. About Lindsey Lindsey Danis empowers LGBTQ travelers to understand and advocate for their needs and plan incredible adventures while feeling seen, heard and supported. Lindsey writes regularly about LGBTQ travel for publications including AFAR, Condé Nast Traveler, TripSavvy, GayCities, and Longreads.  Lindsey is the founder of the LGBTQ travel blog, Queer Adventurers, which offers travel planning advice, money-saving travel tips, and destination guides written for an LGBTQ audience, with a focus on female and nonbinary people. Newsletter subscribers get LGBTQ travel trend updates and free resources on how to make the most of every trip.  Lindsey lives in the Hudson Valley of New York with her partner and two dogs. When not writing, Lindsey can be found hiking, kayaking, or cooking. Connect With Lindsey Website Queer Adventures Author Instagram Travel Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

14 Maalis 43min

How do you balance faith, sexuality, and life—without losing your mind? Finding the just right path to authenticity can feel overwhelming, even chaotic. But here’s the truth: authenticity is a journey, not a destination. And living your most fulfilled life as a gay, Jewish Rabbi (or whoever you are) is exactly the path you’re meant to walk. Joining the conversation today is Rabbi Steven Greenberg—author of Wrestling with God and Men: Homosexuality in the Jewish Tradition and founder of Eshel, an Orthodox LGBTQ+ advocacy and support organization. He’s here to share his wisdom on embracing all of who you are and aligning faith, identity, and purpose as a Jewish queer man. Key lessons you'll learn: What does authenticity mean to you and how to live and define it on your terms Keys for embracing your Jewish (or other faith-based self) with your gayness How to get support from Eshel if you desire it About Steve Rabbi Steven Greenberg is an educator, writer and speaker who has led the call for LGBTQ+ inclusion in the Orthodox world. He is the author of Wrestling with God and Men: Homosexuality in the Jewish Tradition, (University of Wisconsin Press) for which he won the Koret Jewish Book Award for Philosophy and Thought in 2005. Rabbi Greenberg is presently the Founding Director of Eshel, an Orthodox LGBTQ+ community support, education and advocacy organization and lives with his partner, Steven Goldstein, and daughter, Amalia, in Boston. Connect With Steve Website Facebook Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

7 Maalis 41min

HIV may be a lifelong journey, but it is not a death sentence. Yet, for Black gay men, that journey often comes with unique challenges—stigma, erasure, and systemic barriers that make living openly and authentically even harder. As we close out Black History Month, we sit down with Jordan J. Edwards - Deputy Director for the Normal Anomaly Initiative, whose candid and unfiltered approach will challenge you to see beyond limitations and embrace the power of your own visibility. In this episode, you’ll: Uncover the difference between representation and representing yourself—a game-changing distinction Learn why visibility is crucial in the fight for queer and Black liberation—and how you can take action Discover ways to ensure your story and existence aren’t erased by society This is a conversation about truth, resilience, and reclaiming space. About Jordan Jordan J Edwards (He/Him/His) is a Deputy Director for the Normal Anomaly Initiative. Through his passion and lived experience as a person living with HIV,  Jordan serves the Black, Queer plus community by developing curriculum, increasing opportunities for transportation, and linkage to care services for those living with HIV and those interested in PrEP. Jordan became a 2024 White House Rising Leader and a Greater Than HIV Ambassador through his development in the HIV sector. Connect With Jordan Website Jordan's Instagram The Normal Anomaly Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

28 Helmi 45min