138-A healthy self-confidence - Buddhism in daily life

A healthy self-confidence

You are not self-confident at all - what could be the reason for that? We build up self-confidence as children. If you don't make your experiences in time and put them into practice, you will fall short as an adult.

Self-confidence can be reduced to a very simple formula: How do we perceive ourselves? How do we think other people see us, how do they "find" us, what do they think of us. If you are not convinced of yourself as a person, you will quickly be "undercut", you will feel rejection where there is none, you will become more and more insecure, and your mental problems will grow into a serious disorder.

Are you insecure? Do you doubt yourself? Do you think that you "screw up" everything, that you can't do anything right? Then it is time to think about your self-confidence. According to Buddha, however, it makes no difference whether we doubt ourselves or are convinced of ourselves, because according to the great teacher, everything comes as it must.

However, the main part of Buddhists are so-called "feel-good Buddhists", who first have to be introduced to the teaching, so they should first "feel-good" before they go deeper into the teaching.

But how does "one" become self-confident, can self-confidence also be learned? YES! First of all, we have to look at ourselves, as Buddha also exemplified this to us, look behind the "scenes", and believe me, to analyze oneself, this can be very difficult. Because "you" can only get an increased self-confidence if you are relentlessly honest with yourself, don't fool yourself anymore, only then can you really grow. And above all, it doesn't help to pick on yourself, things are the way they are, you are in no way to blame for it (perhaps from previous lives), but it comes as it must come, everything is predetermined.

We have to accept ourselves as we are, something else would not make sense. But for this we must know ourselves exactly, how are we knitted, how are our circumstances connected? And can we then draw stability and self-confidence from the fact of honesty?

Start with your strengths, what are you good at? Everyone has things that come easily to them and things that are difficult. So, what comes easily to you? Can you even appreciate your advantages?

Have those around you ever praised you? And if so, for what? In the next few days, you will continue to read here on the topic of "self-confidence".

Anyway, the way is the goal!

And because I see no basis for it, I dwell in security, fearlessness and self-confidence

- Buddha - honorary name of Siddharta Gautama - 560 to 480 before the year zero

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