The Gottmans: “Contempt DESTROYS Your Immune System” - Are You REALLY Listening to Your Partner??

The Gottmans: “Contempt DESTROYS Your Immune System” - Are You REALLY Listening to Your Partner??

In this episode, Dr. John and Dr. Julie Gottman, world-renowned relationship experts and founders of The Gottman Institute, share their research-based insights into what truly makes relationships work. With over 50 years of research on marital stability and parenting, they dive deep into key issues like how contempt can destroy your immune system, and why certain toxic behaviors—like criticism and stonewalling—are major red flags in relationships. They also debunk common myths such as "Never go to bed angry" and explain how empathy and emotional intelligence are critical to lasting love. The Gottmans provide practical advice on how to manage conflict, heal from childhood trauma, and create deeper emotional connections. Whether you're navigating daily disagreements or looking to rebuild trust after betrayal, this conversation is filled with valuable takeaways to help you strengthen your relationship and build a healthier, more fulfilling partnership. Find the Gottmans here: The Gottman Institute - https://g2ul0.app.link/H16ipH9ywNb Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/CJZlSOczwNb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Topics: 00:00 - Intro 02:02 - Do People Still Believe In Marriage Today? 09:23 - What Defines A Successful Marriage In Modern Times? 13:09 - What Percentage Of Couples Are Truly Happy In Their Relationships? 15:47 - Inside Paul’s Matchmaking Process On MAFS (Married At First Sight) 17:51 - Are Successful Couples Less Exciting? The Truth About Stability 21:24 - What Is The Love Lab And How Does It Work? 22:38 - Shocking Discoveries From The Love Lab: What Science Says About Love 26:18 - The Power Of The 'Six Second Kiss' In Relationships 29:38 - Do The Gottmans Use Their Own Research In Their Marriage? 32:51 - How Important Is Sex For A Healthy Relationship? 37:46 - Why Date Night Matters More Than You Think 40:37 - The Ingredients Of A Perfect Date: How To Get It Right 43:03 - Paul's Ultimate First Date Test: Does It Predict Success? 45:52 - The Key Principles Of A Successful Marriage Revealed 49:46 - The Top Reason Couples Fight And How To Avoid It 50:45 - The Different Conflict Styles In Marriage: Which One Are You? 55:27 - Is Conflict Good For Your Relationship? Here’s The Answer 57:22 - How Important Is Compatibility In A Relationship? 58:40 - The Questions You Should Ask To Truly Understand Your Partner 01:06:16 - How To Resolve Conflicts And Strengthen Your Relationship 01:08:57 - Should You Stay With A Partner Who Won't Resolve Conflicts? 01:11:10 - Tinder Ad: How Modern Dating Apps Are Changing Relationships 01:12:12 - The Four Horsemen Of Relationships And Why Contempt Is The Worst 01:14:47 - When Is It Time To End A Relationship? Key Signs To Watch For 01:16:24 - What Is Flooding In Relationships And How To Manage It 01:18:46 - How To Self-Soothe When You’re Emotionally Overwhelmed 01:21:17 - Should You 'Never Go To Bed Angry'? The Real Answer 01:22:22 - Can You Rebuild Trust After Infidelity? Here’s How 01:28:33 - How To Know If Your Relationship Is Failing: Warning Signs 01:31:26 - What’s The Most Memorable Relationship Conversation You’ve Had? 01:35:00 - Outro 01:35:28 - Paul’s Final Takeaways On Love And Relationships Sponsored by: Tinder - https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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