Jane Grey - Authenticity, Validation, Business Models and Anaesthetising the Ego for Joy

Is marriage the pinnacle of success—or just more unpaid labor dressed up in paperwork? In this final Sex Work VS miniseries episode, I get personal about my own marriages and question what we’re really chasing when we romanticize commitment. Sex work gave me the distance to see it differently: the self-absorbed oxytocin highs, the cultural expectations, and the silent costs of being a “good partner.” If you’ve ever second-guessed the path laid out for you, this one’s for you.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:21) - Sex Work VS Marriage(02:05) - Paperwork and More Unpaid Labour(03:10) - My Marriages(04:20) - Unpack Marriage as a Measure of Success(08:20) - Sex Work Has Given Me Freedom from the Cycle(11:08) - The Miniseries Recap: Self-absorbed Oxytocin Rides VS Regretting a Life(14:20) - Thank You Sex Work!

8 Jul 15min

What’s the difference between being paid for your emotional labor and giving it away for free? In this episode of the Sex Work VS miniseries, I explore how sex work reshaped my approach to relationships. From unreciprocated efforts with cis-het men to the gratitude that comes with being paid, I reflect love, and raising my standards. We’ll talk about oxytocin, one-sided coaching, the myth of romantic stability—and why financial independence feels far more secure. This isn’t about giving up on intimacy. It’s about knowing your worth, and deciding who (or what) deserves your time.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:21) - Sex Work VS Relationships(01:05) - The 'Natural' Progression, Dating to Relationship?(02:15) - What I Would Need from a Relationship(03:40) - The Societal Expectation of Having a Relationship(07:10) - Being Taken for Granted(09:10) - The Advantage of Paid VS Unpaid Emotional and Sexual Labour(10:30) - One-sided Efforts when Engaging with Cis-het Men(13:25) - Improving My Standards, Does it Help or Hinder(15:40) - Getting Paid for the Usual Coaching of Men(16:40) - The Exchange of Money Encourages Gratitude(20:40) - Honing the Art of Relating and the Benefits of Getting Paid for It(23:15) - Relationship Stability is not a Given, your Financial Independence can be(24:50) - Do I Want to Spend My Life on Unworthy Pursuits and People?(25:50) - Falling in Love as a Skill Learned through Sex Work(26:55) - Friendships with Sex Workers as the Gold Standard(27:45) - The Need for Reciprocation(28:55) - What Cis-het Men Could Offer if Not My Gold Standard, Money and Connections

1 Jul 30min

Dating apps. New relationship energy. Getting paid for your time. In this first episode of the Sex Work VS miniseries, I explore how sex work reshaped my expectations of dating, romance, and emotional labor. From valuing my time to filtering partners like my client applicants, I unpack why I still date—and what I refuse to give away for free.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:21) - Sex Work VS Dating(01:20) - A Changed Dating (App) Landscape, but Similar Motivations?(02:50) - The Emotional Benefits of Both(04:50) - How Getting Paid Taught Me About My Value and Gave Me Choice(06:30) - Why I Still Date (for free); Entertainment and Aesthetic(08:42) - How I Keep Dating Relevant in a Frivolous Culture(11:05) - My Dating Application Process(13:55) - The Disadvantage of Unpaid Dating Labour(15:15) - Oxytocin, New Relationship Energy and Infatuation(17:00) - The 'Neatness' of Getting Paid(17:40) - Wasting My Resource and Being Valued(20:00) - A Cis-Het Lens Focus, for now

24 Jun 20min

Welcome to a new miniseries exploring what sex work has taught me about dating, relationships, and marriage. I'm calling it Sex Work VS... Can you guess which is in the lead? Stay tuned.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:21) - A New Miniseries on Sex Work vs Dating, Relationships and Marriage (01:30) - Sex Work Has Taught Me the Pros and Cons

17 Jun 2min

People often ask Eva Oh how her partners “handle” her job — but maybe the better question is: Would a sex worker date you? In this flashback episode of #teakink, Eva explores how sex work can sharpen communication, boundaries, and emotional intelligence — and why those who work in it may have higher standards, not lower ones. This episode sets the stage for an upcoming miniseries on sex work, dating, and marriage.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:18) - Would a Sex Worker Date You?(01:00) - Unfortunate Case Studies(05:11) - Sex Work and Elevated Communication Skills(06:30) - Do You Deserve the Empathy?(08:55) - How Sex Work Has Changed Me(14:49) - Understanding Society’s Shortcomings(16:25) - A Better Case Study(18:00) - “I Never Thought I Could Have a Relationship Like This”(19:50) - How and Why Monogamy Was Constructed?(22:14) - Why I’ve Become So Picky, What I Deserve

10 Jun 24min

In this episode of #teakink, Eva sits down with Kyron Kruger — performer, provocateur, and latex-drenched shapeshifter — to talk evolution, ambition, and the kink of it all. Kyron shares how he got started, what latex means to him, and how he navigates the sex industry as a cis man. They unpack everything from gatekeeping to dealing with trolls, the Eva-Kyron dynamic, and their big creative dreams — including fetish film, Europe, and beyond. This is Kyron Kruger, for now.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:21) - The Origins of Kyron Kruger(03:55) - Latex(05:00) - A Fluid Evolution(10:10) - Challenging the Trolls(11:20) - Plans for Europe(12:50) - Advice on the Hustle(16:40) - Is there space for Gatekeeping(20:15) - Being a Cis-Man in the Sex Industry(23:20) - The Eva-Kyron Dynamic?(25:50) - Fetish Film Dreams and Plans(30:30) - Eva's Asia-Australia Plans(31:30) - A Wrap on Kyron Kruger, for now...

3 Jun 33min

Megan Prescott joins Eva Oh on #teakink to discuss the complexities of growing up in the public eye, navigating OnlyFans, and confronting internalized shame. She shares her journey from child acting to stripping (badly), how sex work became a financial lifeline, and why society struggles with women owning their sexuality. Megan also breaks down the fight for sex work decriminalization in the UK, her role as Chair of National Ugly Mugs, and the real dangers of the Nordic Model. Plus, the tabloid obsession with nudes, funding her Edinburgh Fringe show, and the unexpected freedom of her autism diagnosis.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:21) - Megan Prescott and her Character, Molly(02:00) - The Issues of Child Acting, as a Child Actor(08:00) - How OnlyFans Started Paying the Bills as not a Good Stripper(14:15) - Internalised Shame and How Society Distances Women from Themselves and Their Sexuality(17:30) - The Contradictions of Denying Sexuality as a Valuable Commodity(24:00) - Megan on Becoming the Chair of National Ugly Mugs(28:30) - What the Decriminalisation vs Legalisation of Sex Work Means in the UK(33:40) - The Dangers of the Nordic Model(34:30) - Amnesty's Support of Decriminalisation(37:40) - Nudes, the Tabloids and Funding Her Edinburgh Fringe Show(42:10) - The Liberation in Megan's Autism Diagnosis(43:55) - Sex Work as an Education and of Intrigue, and the Fear and Confusion in Society(49:00) - Marriage as Sex Work(50:05) - Megan's New Podcast

27 Mai 51min

Eva Oh welcomes Aranja—kink, power, and psychedelics coach, trauma therapist, and death doula—to #teakink for a deep dive into the intersections of kink, psychedelics, and death. They explore the role of a death doula, the unexpected parallels between kink and mortality, and how slowing down the dying process changes everything. Aranja shares insights on guiding clients through psychedelic experiences, the challenges of kink coaching, and the lack of resources around trauma in these spaces. Plus, a discussion on a potential kinky death retreat and Eva’s first encounter with a dead body.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:21) - Aranja, Kink, Power and Psychedelics Coach, Trauma Therapist and Death Doula(05:20) - Discovering the Role of the Death Doula(09:45) - Bringing All Aranja's Roles Together?(11:05) - Can You Combine Kink and Psychedelics?(13:35) - The Similarities Between Kink and Death, Humility and Letting Go(15:45) - The Berlin Death Festival and the Cultural Practices of Death(18:45) - Slow Down the Death Process(21:50) - Eva's First Experience with a Dead Body(24:45) - A Kinky Death Retreat?(26:20) - What is Psychedelics Coaching?(28:30) - The Dangers and Expectations of Psychedelic Clients(32:50) - The Concerns of Kink Coaching Clients(39:30) - Kink, Trauma and Structuring Engagement as a Coach or Dominatrix(45:02) - The Lack of Resources Around Kink and Trauma(46:40) - How Kink is a Container for Sidelined Emotions and Experiences(51:30) - What Aranja Studied to Bring Together These Roles(53:00) - Aranja's Plâns and Eva's Sacrificial Session

20 Mai 54min