119: Your Attachment Style Isn't a Personality Type with Yolanda Renteria

This week, therapist and Attuned & Attached author Yolanda Renteria joins Amanda to unpack what attachment theory actually says—and why healing has a lot less to do with finding your label than social media wants you to believe.

In conversation, we tackle:

Why attachment styles aren't permanent personality types (and why that's actually good news)
The relationship skill everyone skips: staying through the discomfort of rupture and repair
Why setting boundaries can literally make your body feel like it's in danger
The surprising difference between attachment and attunement—and why one matters far more than chasing "secure attachment"
Why cutting everyone off keeps you from learning who you actually are
The uncomfortable truth about why caretakers keep choosing people who need rescuing
The question to ask instead of "How do I get them to change?"

About Yolanda:

Yolanda Renteria is a licensed therapist, relationship expert, and the author of Attuned & Attached. Her work focuses on helping people build healthier relationships through emotional attunement, attachment repair, and nervous system awareness. Learn more at yolandarenteria.com or follow her on Instagram at @thisisyolandarenteria.

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