The Story You Carry Isn't the Whole Truth

Shame. The feeling of “I’m not enough,” or “I don’t deserve good things.” How does this pattern of thought shape our lives? And how do we intervene in this cycle of behavior? This week, Bridgette and Lindsey share how they’re reshaping harmful words and ideas into moments of significance. Hiding from shame doesn’t change us feeling it, but addressing it and knowing what to do next can greatly impact how we move forward.

Key Takeaways

• Shame differs from other emotions because it carries a continual weight rather than passing by.
• Continual feelings of shame can make us believe that we as people are failures rather than a single event or experience being unsuccessful.
• Understanding significance and its importance to categorizing experiences allows us to see a difficult situation as something needed despite the pain or as embarrassing.
• Narrative therapy and other therapeutic techniques can provide a means to separate painful experiences from our sense of self.
• As adults, understanding how to navigate confrontation, embarrassment, and challenging situations can aid in how we experience shame.

Resources Mentioned

• Dr. Brené Brown, “TED Talk: Listening to Shame”
• Volare’s Trauma-Informed Training Sessions

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