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New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- The Queen of Drag discusses his new memoir, The House of Hidden Meanings, and makes Dan play an R-rated game. RuPaul Charles became famous in 1993 with the song “Supermodel.” Since then, he’s put out 18 albums, he’s been in more than 50 films and TV shows, including his global hit, “RuPaul’s Drag Race.” He’s put out four books, including his latest, the number one New York Times best seller The House of Hidden Meanings. He’s won fourteen Primetime Emmy Awards, and he won a Tony in 2022 for producing the Broadway show A Strange Loop.  In this episode we talk about: His daily spiritual practices Talking to his inner child The challenging family he grew up in His incredible business idea for a daytime disco for the over-40 set His definition of wealth, and why he says he’s always been rich, even when he had no money And he ropes Dan into a game of Dirty Charades – which gets a little spicy, so heads-up if you’re listening with kids around or have sensitive ears Other resources mentioned:  RuPaul’s Allstora book shop and book club Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life by Dr. Susan Forward with Craig Buck Related Episodes: A Star, Utterly Unguarded | Brett Eldredge How to Deal With Emotionally Immature People (Including Maybe Your Own Parents) | Lindsay C. Gibson There’s No Part Of Your Life You Can’t Make More Awesome | Jeff Warren Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/rupaul-2024

3 Juli 20241h 21min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Plus her definition of the oft-dismissed yet game-changing notion of self-love. We caught up with Abby Wambach at a really interesting time. She’s experiencing grief, for reasons we’ll let her explain. And for the first time in her life, she’s grieving while sober—which, in itself, is an interesting story, which she will also tell. As you know, we only talk to famous people on this show if they’re willing to really go deep. And it’s why we call this recurring series Boldface. And Abby is bolder than most. We also talk about: moving from external to internal validation, her definition of self-love (a concept in which Dan have a lot of interest, because it’s both cheesy and life-changing), the one question that changed her life, how every experience can turn into something positive, and on a related note, why getting arrested for drunk driving was one of the best things that ever happened to her. Abby Wambach is a two-time Olympic gold medalist, FIFA World Cup Champion, and six-time winner of the U.S. Soccer Athlete of the Year award. She is the author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Wolfpack. And, together with her wife Glennon Doyle and sister Amanda Doyle, co-hosts the award-winning, critically acclaimed We Can Do Hard Things podcast.  Related Episodes: Doing "The Work," Byron Katie Glennon Doyle is Rethinking Her Relationship to Social Media, Hustle Culture, Intuition, Her Body, and Her Parents Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/abby-wambach

1 Juli 202451min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Emotionally immature people can wreck your life. One of our most popular guests returns to teach you how to make sure they don't. Description:  Our relationships are the most important variable in our health and happiness, but they may also be the most difficult. This is especially true when those closest to us turn out to be emotionally immature people. Lindsay C. Gibson is a clinical psychologist and bestselling author who specializes in helping people identify and deal with emotionally immature people, or EIP’s. Her first appearance on our show was one of our most popular episodes of 2022. Now she’s back to offer concrete strategies for handling the EIP’s in your life, wherever you may find them. Her new book is called Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People. In this episode we talk about: A primer on the cardinal characteristics of emotionally immature people (EIP’s), how to spot them, and why you might want to What Lindsay means by “disentangling” from EIP’s, and how to do it What often happens to your own sense of self when you’re in relationship (or even just in conversation) with an EIP  How to interact with an EIP  How to prevent brain scramble when you’re talking with someone who isn’t making any attempt to understand what you’re saying   How she reacts when she comes across EIP’s in her everyday life Whether it’s possible to have some immature characteristics without being an EIP Handling your own emotionally immature tendencies   Whether or not EIP’s can change The limits of estrangement Why she encourages “alternatives to forgiveness” Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/lindsay-gibson-791 Book Mentioned: Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People Other Resources Mentioned: Lindsay’s first appearance on the Ten Percent Happier Podcast Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

26 Juni 20241h 13min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Today’s guest, Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson, gives advice for dealing with emotionally immature people— whether they are your parents, boss, spouse or childhood friend, she offers practical tools to help navigate these difficult relationships.    Description:  Emotionally immature people (EIP’s) are hard to avoid and most of us, if not all of us, have to deal with them at some point in our lives. These interactions can range from mildly annoying to genuinely traumatic, especially if the emotionally immature people in question are our own parents, which is true for an awful lot of us.   Today’s guest, clinical psychologist Lindsay C. Gibson, gives advice for dealing with emotionally immature people, whether they’re your parents or not. She has written a sleeper hit book on the subject called, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents.    In this episode we talk about: The signs of emotional immaturity Whether or not I’m emotionally immature What happens to children who are raised by emotionally immature parents, including their signature coping strategies Why adult children of EIP’s turn to healing fantasies, and how to let them go How to cope with emotionally immature parents as an adult What role compassion should and should not play in your relationship with EIP’s How to heal   Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/lindsay-gibson-2022-rerun   Books Mentioned: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents Who You Were Meant to Be: A Guide to Rediscovering Your Life's Purpose Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries and Reclaim Your Emotional Autonomy Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidence Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents    Other Resources Mentioned: Lisa Feldman Barrett   Help Dan out and take our audience survey — we’ll thank you with 10% off all merch at shop.danharris.com! The survey is available at tinyurl.com/tphpod.   Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

24 Juni 20241h 7min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- A self-described “silly man” tells us about what’s really important in life.  Ted Danson has an acting career spanning over four decades. He rose to prominence in the 1980s with his iconic portrayal of Sam Malone in the long-running sitcom "Cheers," earning him critical acclaim and multiple awards. Danson's charisma and acting prowess have since led him to a myriad of diverse roles, including his Emmy-nominated performances in "Damages" and "Fargo." Most recently, he starred in the existential comedy “The Good Place.” Beyond his acting career, Danson is also celebrated for his environmental activism and philanthropy, demonstrating a commitment to making a positive impact beyond the screen. His next venture? A podcast with his old “Cheers” buddy, Woody Harrelson. In this episode we talk about: meditation marriage hypochondria grief what he means when he calls himself a joy junkie what he learned from being on the TV show “The Good Place” and that time he did shrooms with his fellow cast members on “Cheers” Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/ted-danson Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

21 Juni 20241h 2min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Practical tips to stop judging yourself, chill out about exercise, and start taking better care of your body – from a Buddhist teacher who learned the hard way. Description:  It’s an urgent question for so many of us: Can we exercise, can we take care of our bodies, without being driven by shame, self-loathing, or noxious comparison to other people? Our guest today has a unique perspective on this. Cara Lai is a former social worker and psychotherapist who is now a Buddhist teacher. She also used to be a marathoner. But in the last few years, her body has undergone some radical changes, leading her to some hard-won, fascinating, and deeply useful insights about how to strike the balance between taking care of your body and staying sane. In this episode we talk about: Practices for that moment when you’re getting out of the shower, see yourself in the mirror, and engage in a festival of self-judgment The surprising things that happened when Cara was forced to stop exercising A counterintuitive mindfulness practice suggestion for those with exercise routines When and why you should purposely do things you know are bad for you Why we often resist ‘being in our bodies,’ why that’s OK, and how to lower the bar on this contemplative cliché–without giving it up A body-related Buddhist practice she finds to be totally not useful Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/cara-lai-787 Other Resources Mentioned: The Upside of Desire | Cara Lai The Anti-Diet | Evelyn Tribole Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

19 Juni 20241h 5min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- What if one of the often overlooked keys to being productive is being lazy? That’s the case you will hear made today by Brother Pháp Hữu, a very impressive young zen Buddhist monk. Brother Pháp Hữu is a senior Dharma teacher in Thich Nhat Hanh’s International Plum Village Community and abbot of Upper Hamlet, the monks’ community in Plum Village Monastery, a practice center founded by Thich Nhat Hanh in southwest France. Born in Vietnam, he emigrated to Canada as a child. He began training with Thich Nhat Hanh at the age of thirteen when he first entered the monastery to become a monk. Thich Nhat Hanh gave him the name Chân Pháp Hữu, which means “True Dharma Friend.” For more than ten years, he accompanied Thich Nhat Hanh on his international teaching tours as his attendant and assistant. Today, Brother Pháp Hữu is deeply committed to building community and continuing Thich Nhat Hanh’s legacy, bringing his teachings in particular to businesspeople, families, and young adults. Brother Phap Huu is passionate about basketball, music, and developing new approaches to teamwork, leadership, mentoring and coaching, and is a beloved co-host—with journalist, leadership coach, and workshop facilitator Jo Confino--of the Plum Village podcast, The Way Out is In. In this episode we talk about: The origin and purpose of something called Lazy Day What doing nothing looks like in practicality Why doing nothing is so hard for people How you can integrate the wisdom of lazy days into your life, even if you can’t carve out a whole day How laziness in and of itself can be productive and how it allows for a re-examination of our own happiness. And The geopolitical case for being vs. doing Related Episodes: The Buddha’s 8-Part Manual for a Good Life | Brother Pháp Dung How to Suffer Well | Brother Pháp Dung This Episode Will Make You Stronger | Sister Dang Nghiem Six Buddhist Strategies for Getting Along Better with Everyone | Sister True Dedication 3 Buddhist Strategies for When the News is Overwhelming | Kaira Jewel Lingo A Buddhist Recipe for Handling Turmoil | Kaira Jewel Lingo Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/br-phap-huu Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

17 Juni 20241h 3min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- On this show, we talk a lot about ways to stop the interpersonal and intrapersonal violence of obsessing about thinness. Today’s episode, though, is a bit of a departure… because this whole dynamic and debate has been deeply disrupted by the advent of Ozempic and other new weight loss drugs, which are technically called GLP1s. This is a controversial and touchy subject, to say the least.  Journalist and best-selling author Johann Hari discusses his latest book Magic Pill: The Extraordinary Benefits and Disturbing Risks of the New Weight-Loss Drugs. He believes drugs like Ozempic are the equivalent of the invention of the iPhone – and will impact all of our lives, whether we like it or not, and whether we take them or not. And in Magic Pill, Hari – who somewhat ambivalently takes Ozempic himself – marinates in the complexity of all of this.  This is Hari’s third time on the show. He has come on before to discuss his books on distraction and depression—entitled Stolen Focus and Lost Connections. This is the latest episode of our Get Fit Sanely series. This is the third time we’ve done Get Fit Sanely, and in this go-round, we’ll be covering longevity, exercise, and the Buddhist case for laziness.  Related Episodes: Get Fit Sanely Playlist Why You Can't Pay Attention - And How to Think About It | Johann Hari Fighting Depression with Social Connection | Johann Hari Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/johann-hari-2024

12 Juni 20241h 9min