The Upsides And Downsides Of Living A More Examined Life | Matt Harris

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- The radical shift in perspective that can come when we change our question from “what’s wrong with you” to “what happened to you?” Dr. Bruce D. Perry, M.D., Ph.D. is the Principal of the Neurosequential Network and a Professor (Adjunct) at the School of Allied Health, Human Services and Sport, La Trobe University, Melbourne, Victoria Australia.  Over the last thirty years, Dr. Perry has been an active teacher, clinician and researcher in children’s mental health and the neurosciences holding a variety of academic positions. His work on the impact of abuse, neglect and trauma on the developing brain has impacted clinical practice, programs and policy across the world. Dr. Perry is the author, with Maia Szalavitz, of The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog, a bestselling book based on his work with maltreated children and Born For Love: Why Empathy is Essential and Endangered. Dr. Perry's most recent book, What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing (2021), co-authored with Oprah Winfrey, has been translated into 26 languages and has been on the New York Times Bestseller list for over 100 weeks after becoming #1 on the list in April of 2021. Related Episodes: The Art and Science of the World's Gooiest Cliche | Barbara Fredrickson How to Live with the Worst Things That Ever Happened to You | Stephanie Foo An Ace Therapist Gives Dan A Run For His Money | Dr. Jacob Ham Deep Genealogy | Spring Washam Deep, Provocative Success Strategies From the “Yoda of Silicon Valley” | Jerry Colonna Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/drbruceperry Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

27 Maj 20241h 16min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Radical advice on rethinking success, individualism, and the American dream. Mia Birdsong is a pathfinder, culture change visionary, and futurist. She is the founding Executive Director of Next River, a think tank and culture change lab for interconnected freedom. In her book How We Show Up: Reclaiming Family, Friendship, and Community, Mia maps swaths of community life and points us toward the promise of our collective vitality.  In this episode we talk about: How to build community What it looks like in her own life Mutuality vs reciprocity  How to work with resentment and rejection  The etymological connection between friendship and freedom  The transformative power of asking for help And why she thinks the idea of bootstrapping—or going it alone—is a kind of self-hatred Related Episodes: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make and Keep Friends | Dr. Marisa G. Franco The Many Benefits of a “Paradox Mindset” | Dolly Chugh. Ten Percent Happier Escape From Zombieland | Koshin Paley Ellison — Ten Percent Happier  An Uncomfortable (But Meaningful) Conversation About Race | Lama Rod Owens Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/mia-birdsong

22 Maj 20241h 6min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers --- The surprisingly common experience of near death experiences and what science still can't explain about them. Sebastian Junger is the #1 New York Times Bestselling author of The Perfect Storm, Fire, A Death in Belmont, War and Tribe, and In My Time of Dying. As an award-winning journalist, a contributing editor to Vanity Fair and a special correspondent at ABC News, he has covered major international news stories around the world, and has received both a National Magazine Award and a Peabody Award. In this episode we talk about: Junger’s near death experience and the impact it had on him The conclusions he came to after investigation the possibilities of an afterlife  The mysteries of quantum physics and what they might tell us about life and death How he believes we can all experience awe on a daily basis  Related Episodes: How Thinking About Death Can Improve Your Life | Alua Arthur Neil DeGrasse Tyson on Why Having a “Cosmic Perspective” Will Help You Do Life Better George Saunders on: “Holy Befuddlement” and How to Be Less of a “Turd” Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/sebastian-junger Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

20 Maj 20241h 11min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- How to find your voice when you need to be heard, learn when it's smart to choose silence, and communicate better with the people who matter most. Elaine Lin Hering is a former Lecturer on Law at Harvard Law School. She works with organizations and individuals to build skills in communication, collaboration, and conflict management. She has served as the Advanced Training Director for the Harvard Mediation Program and a Managing Partner for Triad Consulting Group. She has worked with coal miners at BHP Billiton, micro-finance organizers in East Africa, mental health professionals in China, and senior leadership at the US Department of Commerce. She is the author of the forthcoming book Unlearning Silence: How to Speak Your Mind, Unleash Talent, and Live More Fully. In this episode we talk about: How we learn silence and self-editing  How we often miscalculate the cost-benefit when it comes to speaking up or staying silent Elaine’s four steps to learn how to speak up and find your voice How we can unintentionally silence others, especially those closest to us, and what to do about it     Related Episodes: How to Speak Clearly, Calmly, and Without Alienating People | Dan Clurman and Mudita Nisker How to Call People In (Instead of Calling Them Out) | Loretta Ross Do You Feel Like an Imposter? | Dr. Valerie Young (Co-Interviewed by Dan’s Wife, Bianca!)   Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes   Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/elaine-lin-hering   Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

15 Maj 20241h 10min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- An acclaimed science writer on how to upgrade your mind by using more than your head. When you think about thinking, most of us think of it as a supremely solo pursuit. You’re in your head, concentrating and cogitating, all by yourself. But the science shows that if you want to improve your thinking, you need to get out of your head. Today we’re going to talk about a concept called “the extended mind.” Your mind isn’t just in your skull: it’s in your body, it’s in the people around you, it’s in your surroundings. The best thinking requires that you break out of what the writer David Foster Wallace called “the skull sized kingdom” and access these other resources. This may sound abstract, but our guest today makes it very practical. Annie Murphy Paul is an acclaimed science writer whose work has appeared in the New York Times, the Boston Globe, Scientific American, Slate, Time, and The Best American Science Writing, among many other publications. She is the author of Origins and The Cult of Personality, hailed by Malcolm Gladwell as a “fascinating new book.” Currently a fellow at New America, Paul has spoken to audiences around the world about learning and cognition; her TED talk has been viewed by more than 2.6 million people. A graduate of Yale University and the Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism, she has served as a lecturer at Yale University and as a senior advisor at their Poorvu Center for Teaching and Learning. Her latest book is The Extended Mind: The Power of Thinking Outside the Brain In this episode, we also talk about: How to use your surroundings to think better  My favorite of the three areas of this book – thinking with our relationships Why “groupthink” isn’t always a bad thing (OR you can say, the benefits of thinking in groups) What she called “extension inequality” – that this benefit of the extended mind isn’t available to all people Related Episodes: Ancient Secrets to Modern Happiness | Tamar Gendler Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/anniemurphypaul Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

13 Maj 202457min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Practical advice from a straight-talking former criminal and occasionally profane dharma teacher. Vinny Ferraro is the Guiding Teacher of the Big Heart City Sangha in San Francisco and has led a weekly sitting group for almost two decades. As a fully empowered Dharma Teacher thru Spirit Rock/IMS, he has taught residential retreats at Spirit Rock, Insight Meditation Society, and the Esalen Institute. Currently, he leads Spirit Rock's Year to Live course and teaches retreats and daylongs through Big Heart City and meditation centers across the country. He is a respected leader in developing and implementing interventions for at-risk populations. leading groups in schools, juvenile halls and prisons since 1987. He has led emotional intelligence workshops for over 100,000 youth on four continents. In this episode we talk about: Alignment Vinny‘s concept of “flashing your basic goodness” Noting practice The deep satisfaction in not seeking satisfaction Redirecting awareness Being an “empathetic witness” for yourself When to opt for distraction Not taking what’s not yours  Vinny’s ancestor practice What is the connection between seeing our family patterns and not taking what is not ours?   How loyal have we been to our suffering? Related Episodes: Get Happier Without Losing Your Edge | Kamala Masters Vitamin E: How To Cultivate Equanimity Amidst Political Chaos | Election Sanity Series | Roshi Joan Halifax Non-Preachy Ethics | Jozen Tamori Gibson Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/vinny-ferraro Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

8 Maj 20241h 6min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Actionable advice on working with one of the few socially acceptable vices. Whilst striving for perfection might seem logical on some level, it’s not actually attainable. And the research shows it can lead to burnout, stress, anxiety, depression, relationship problems, reduced productivity, and reduced resilience. Thomas Curran is a professor in the Department of Psychological and Behavioral Science at the London School of Economics and is the author of The Perfection Trap: Embracing the Power of Good Enough.  In this episode we talk about: The definition of perfectionism – it’s more than just high standards The 3 flavors of perfectionism The surprising findings on perfectionism and gender  Perfectionism VS imposter syndrome  The root of perfectionism  The variables that lead to perfectionism  Thomas’ critiques on capitalism and growth mindset How to actually implement mantras like “progress not perfection” and “embracing good enough” 4 elements to combat imperfectionism  The recipe for achieving inner abundance How to make good work without caring what other people think of you? And parenting and perfectionism  Related Episodes: Do You Feel Like an Imposter? | Dr. Valerie Young (Co-Interviewed by Dan's Wife, Bianca!)  How To End The War With Your Body | Sonya Renee Taylor. The Science of Failing Well | Amy Edmondson Dr. Mark Epstein On: How To Transform Your Neuroses Into “Little Shmoos” The Zen of Therapy | Mark Epstein  Weird Dreams, Family Relationships, and Collective Trauma I Dr. Mark Epstein Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/thomas-curran Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

6 Maj 20241h 11min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Talking creativity and sanity with one of the world’s biggest pop stars.   British-Albanian singer-songwriter Dua Lipa emerged as a global pop sensation with her captivating blend of sultry vocals, empowering lyrics, and infectious beats. Born in London in 1995 to Albanian parents, Lipa's musical journey began at a young age, inspired by her father's own musical career. She hosts the podcast Dua Lipa: At Her Service, and her latest album is Radical Optimism.      In this episode we talk about: What she means by radical optimism – and how it applied when she literally fell on stage How she resists the temptation to fully armor herself Her famous work ethic and packed schedule   Her non-negotiable daily practices, including meditation Her social media hygiene (specially, how to stay sane when nearly 80 million people follow you on Instagram alone) And we have a great conversation about creativity, including how she builds psychological safety with her team in studio and on tour Why she had to write 97 songs to make this one album And her concept of “writing herself into a good idea” – as she says, “You have to be shit to be good.”      Related Episodes: Bill Hader on Anxiety, Imposter Syndrome, and Leaning into Discomfort Pema Chödrön, Renowned Buddhist Nun, On Her One Non-Negotiable Happiness Strategy The Science of Hope | Jacqueline Mattis Hope Is a Skill | George Mumford Discomfort: A Counterintuitive Source of Hope | Sebene Selassie     Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes   Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/dua-lipa     Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

3 Maj 202458min