How To Stop Worrying About What People Think Of You | Michael Gervais

How To Stop Worrying About What People Think Of You | Michael Gervais

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Why fear of other people’s opinions (FOPO) holds us back, and what to do about it.

Michael Gervais is a high performance psychologist and the host of the Finding Mastery podcast. His new book is called The First Rule of Mastery: Stop Worrying About What People Think of You.


In this episode we talk about:

  • A handy new acronym: FOPO, Fear of People’s Opinions
  • How the evolutionary roots of our desire for social acceptance work against us in the modern world
  • Why caring about what others think is not the same thing as worrying about what others think
  • The difference between a purpose-based identity and a performance-based identity
  • The anti-FOPO power of things like: imagination, journaling, meditation, social support, and considering your mortality
  • Why focusing less on yourself can be the greatest bulwark against FOPO


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