Post Pandemic Socializing: Dipping Your Toes In The Water
It's been fantastic seeing folks again and dipping my toes back into the world. But even in the 'before' times I needed quiet time by myself to regenerate and get back into the social whirl. After a year of near solitude, going slowly seems the path of wisdom. First published ib 1step2life.com on April 12, 2021.
18 Apr 20213min
Keeping What’s Good About This Crazy Year
One of the things that has been so frustrating about lockdown is that it is so clear that disabled people and folks in pain could have been served better. My son now (finally) has good days every week and good hours every day. But he doesn't have the same good hours every day. And they sure as heck don't line up with a school or work schedule. . If COVID has taught us nothing else, it's taught us that work and school can be a lot more flexible than they have been. It's time to ask for a change. For disabled people. For caregivers who need to be able to adjust their work so they aren't making decisions about leaving a sick or endangered child at home and earning a paycheck. Or between sending them to school not knowing if they can make it through the day or keeping them home so they don't get called away from work. . I always recommend this exercise because it focuses my mind. Try it. First published by 1step2life.com on April 12, 2021.
12 Apr 20216min
Challenge Support & Love
When your child is hurting, all you want to do is wrap them in cotton wool and protect them in every way you can. But what if that's not what they need? From Challenge, Support, & Love by 1step2life.com.
8 Apr 20214min
How Do Doctors Build Trust?
Many people who live with persistent pain, chronic illness, long COVID or other medically complex conditions have strong feelings about doctors. Some of those feelings are good. Others . . . . not so much. This episode talks about some of the things doctors do to help build trust and why it's so important. From How Doctors Build Trust, published by 1step2life.com
1 Apr 20213min
When Your Child Says They're In Pain - BELIEVE THEM!
Believing your child in pain builds your relationships and helps them keep going because they know you have their back. Discusses the importance of trust for building and maintaining your relationship, gaslighting, how doubt forces kids to act out their pain to be taken seriously, and attachment style. You can check out the original essay and many other resources for people in pain and their parents here.
30 Mars 20219min
Supporting Parents of Teens & Children In Pain
The 1step2life app was designed by me - a developmental psychologist whose son lives with severe chronic pain. Even though I'm an international expert on parenting, I knew that everything I was doing was undermining my relationship with my son. Ironic, no? 1step2life was designed for parents and other caregivers trying to support the people they love who are living with pain. This podcasts talks about how it works and why it does what it does. You can read the original blog on our website.
18 Mars 202110min
Balancing Challenge & Support
Kids thrive when they experience the maximum of challenge and the maximum of support and feel your unconditional love. In this podcast, I talk about psychologist Urie Bronfenbrenner and findings on what really helps kids thrive.
15 Mars 20219min
Quieting Your Inner Voices So You Can Hear What They Say
Sometimes our distress at our child's pain is so overwhelming that it can drown out theirs. When that happens, we can increase their distress because we do the wrong thing and doing 'meet their needs. This is a podcast of an essay first published on the 1step2life website for people living with chronic pain and those who love them.
11 Mars 20213min
