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This episode is sponsored by Anonymous who is fond of Shalom Task Force & 18Forty. In this episode of the 18Forty Podcast, we speak with Channah Cohen, a researcher of the OU’s study on the “Shidduch Crisis.” Channah helps us unpack the two sides to this crisis—“Crisis of Process” and “Crisis of Experience”—and considers some potential solutions to the frequent cruelty of the current culture. Also in this edition, we hear the first-hand perspectives of a series of single Orthodox men and women. In this episode we discuss:What really is the Shidduch Crisis?How can we improve the experience of looking for love in the Orthodox world?What do we make of our messy, non-linear life stories while we’re still living them?Tune in to hear a conversation about the highs and lows of being single in Orthodox Judaism today—and what we can do to treat unmarried community members with friendship and humanity.Interview starts at: 9:49Channah Cohen has held several positions in the OU, including an Applied Researcher for the Center for Communal Research, a Project Manager for the Department of Community Projects and Partnerships, and a Torah Educator for the Jewish Learning Initiative on Campus. Channah majored in Psychology at Yeshiva University’s Stern College for Women, and was chosen for the Murray Adler Leadership and Vision Award. She completed a master’s degree in Adult Learning & Leadership at Teachers College, Columbia University, and is studying coaching at the School of Positive Transformation. Channah is interested in the intersection of religious education and psychology, and strives to learn and teach means of spiritual living that are resonant with the human experience. She lives in Silver Spring, MD with her husband and three children. References:“A Polite Request for Basic Sensitivity” by Dovid Bashevkin“We Are Not a ‘Crisis’: Changing the Singlehood Narrative” by AnonymousHarry Potter and the Methods of Rationality by Eliezer YudkowskyThe Lion Tracker's Guide To Life by Boyd VartyBittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole by Susan CainBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/18forty-podcast--4344730/support.

3 Jan 20231h 43min

This episode is sponsored by Anonymous who is fond of Shalom Task Force & 18Forty. On this episode of 18Forty, we explore the world of Jewish dating. We spoke to insiders and experts from the Chassidic community, “Yeshiva Orthodox” community, and Modern Orthodox community, looking at the commonalities and differences between each community’s approach to finding and building loving relationships. Each community emphasizes different dynamics and difficulties of the process of dating, and by considering them together and independently we can gain a greater understanding of the pressure points around love. How a community approaches dating is a test case for so many of a community’s values and vulnerabilities. In this episode, you’ll hear from representatives of each community that are intimately involved with the project of communal norms around dating, and be asked to think about your own assumptions and hopes for love. In this interview, we discussed:How does each Jewish community approach dating, from shadchans to dating apps and everything in between?What does a community’s approach to dating tell us about the Jewish approaches to love and commitment?What can we learn from the dating practices of communities that are different from our own?Interviews start at 10:31Dr. Yosef Sokol, one of our representatives from the yeshiva world, is a psychologist and the lead researcher of the recent study on the data behind the “shidduch crisis.” We also speak with Dr. Isaac Schechter, another author of the study, Dr. Efrat Sobolofsky, director of the YUConnects matchmaking-and-education program, and Dr. Devorah Mansdorf Agami, an endodontist who met her husband on JSwipe.References:Rabbi Mordechai Lightstone“Examining Average Age at First Marriage within Orthodox Judaism: A Large Community-Based Study” by Yosef Sokol, Naomi Rosenbach, Chayim Rosensweig, Chynna Levin, Shifra Hubner, and Isaac SchechterBikur Cholim of Rockland CountyARRC Institute YUConnectsJSwipeBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/18forty-podcast--4344730/support.

27 Dec 20222h 22min

In this minisode of the 18Forty Podcast, we reflect upon a year beyond words (and numbers). At every stop of the process in the wild journey that has been 18Forty, we’ve been motivated by our fantastic community members who have pushed us to ask deeper questions, to be more honest with ourselves, and to think more sharply and profoundly about what it means to be a Jew today. We’ve grown with you and for you, and we’re so thankful to be able to provide everything we can for you all.More than anything, organic growth inspires us—people finding out about 18Forty from a friend who can’t stop thinking about a recent interview they listened to, articles and podcasts shared in Whatsapp groups and discussed around Shabbos tables across the world, with feedback streaming in from every corner of the Jewish world.To another year of more growth, curiosity, and asking better questions—for everything, thank you.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/18forty-podcast--4344730/support.

26 Dec 202211min

This episode was sponsored by Anonymous who is fond of Shalom Task Force & 18FortyIn this episode of the 18Forty Podcast, we sit down with Zahava Moskwowitz, host of the Singled Out podcast. Zahava shares insight into the challenges of singlehood, debates the pros and cons of pictures on shidduch resumes, and brings us into the world of singlehood in the Orthodox community.What does market information asymmetry relate to dating?How do men and women experience the struggles of dating differently?What are the biggest controversies behind shidduch resumes?Do we have more than one soulmate?Tune in to hear a conversation on the challenges that lie beneath the surface of dating in the Orthodox world. Interview starts at 20:51References:Singled Out Podcast by Zahava Moskowitz“The Market for "Lemons": Quality Uncertainty and the Market Mechanism” by George AkerlofThe Office“Younger Siblings Getting Married First” on the Singled Out Podcast by Zahava Moskowitz“The Truth about Health” on the Singled Out Podcast by Zahava Moskowitz“The Truth about Soulmates” on the Singled Out Podcast by Zahava MoskowitzBridesmaidsSefer Akedat Yitzchak by Rabbi Yitzchak AramaMarry Him, The Case For Settling For Mr. Right by Lori GottliebHilchot Teshuva by MaimonidesBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/18forty-podcast--4344730/support.

20 Dec 20222h 6min

This episode is sponsored by Esther & Jerry Williams in honor of all those who support Shalom Task Force.If you are in crisis please reach out to the Shalom Task Force Hotline at 888-883-2323.On this episode of 18Forty, we have a deeply moving conversation on the topic of red flags in relationships. We speak with Esther Williams and Dr. Shoshannah Frydman from Shalom Task Force, and one person who extricated herself from an abusive relationship. The dynamics of relationships, whether healthy, unhealthy, or anywhere in between are complex, and we set out to better our understanding of the signs of relational abuse. Whether or not you have personally struggled with the issues we discuss here, we are all better off when we are more informed about the what and why of relational health, so tune in now.In this interview, we discuss:- What are the signs of an unhealthy relationship?- How can we foster understanding and awareness of the dynamics of healthy and unhealthy relationship dynamics from an earlier age?- What are the steps one can take to extricate themself or heal from a challenging relationship?First interview starts at 10:35The Shalom Task Force, Inc (STF) is a non-profit community organization that aims to combat and prevent domestic violence and foster safe and healthy relationships and families. The STF focuses on helping those in the Jewish community that may not have access to traditional services and that need culturally sensitive programming. The STF runs a free, anonymous hotline that helps individuals find the services they need, provides assistance through legal services, supportive counseling, and referral information, and offers prevention and psychoeducational workshops, trainings, and community programs to increase awareness of relationship abuse and promote healthy relationships.Dr. Shoshannah Frydman, PhD, LCSW is the executive director of Shalom Task Force. Dr. Frydman is a trauma-informed therapist and advocate who has worked in the field of domestic abuse and family violence in the Jewish community for close to 20 years. Dr. Frydman co-chairs the UJA Taskforce on Family Violence, and was recently appointed to the New York City Mayor’s Office to End Domestic and Gender-Based Violence COVID-19 Response Group. Dr. Frydman previously served as the managing director of Family Violence and Social Services at the Met Council. Dr. Frydman received her MSW from the University of Maryland School of Social Work and her PhD at the Graduate Center of the City University of New York/Hunter College Silberman School of Social Work.Esther Williams is the President of the Shalom Task Force and a past board member and executive vice president of the Orthodox Union.References:Shalom Task Force“Dealbreakers Talk Show #0001” on 30 Rock18Forty – Teshuva Series National Domestic Abuse HotlineThe Patient“The Quick Shift: Orthodox Jewish Women's Early Marital Sexual Experience” by Shoshannah D. Frydman “Tradition and Transition. Orthodox Women's Experience with Kallah Classes and Early Marital Intimacy” by Shoshannah D. Frydman The VowThe Greatest Average American by Nate BargatzeThis Is UsThe NCSY boxShalom Task Force Guides and Educational MaterialsI'm so Confused, Am I Being Abused? Guidance for the Orthodox Jewish Spouse and Those Who Want to Help by Lisa G. TwerskySpeak by Laurie Halse AndersonWhy Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy BancroftInvisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship by Lisa A. Fontes No Visible Bruises: What We Don’t Know About Domestic Violence Can Kill Us by Rachel Louise SnyderBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/18forty-podcast--4344730/support.

13 Dec 20221h 47min

This episode was sponsored by Jerry and Esther Williams in honor of 18Forty and the Shalom Task Force. In this episode of the 18Forty Podcast, Dovid Bashevkin dives deeply into the world of dating. As we explore the realm of relationships, Dovid uses his own journey to help us find the proper framework for balancing one’s romantic, religious, and professional identities. How can one stay connected to their religious self while simultaneously evolving? What’s Dovid’s best advice for dating and marriage? Why are we afraid to commit to no? How can we ensure that the years ahead are the best years yet? Tune in to hear a conversation on love, commitment, and commitment to commitment. References:Shalom Task ForceThe Orchard: A Novel by David HopenTehillim 27:10“Evolving Religiously During Singlehood” on Singled Out Podcast by Zahava MoskowitzBambiGarden StateDovid Bashevkin on Twitter“Spending the Seder Alone” by Dovid BashevkinSolitude, A Philosophical Encounter by Philip KochCast Away18Forty - “Rav Moshe Weinberger: Can Mysticism Become A Community?” “Bashert: My One and Only?” on YUConnects CandiDate Podcast“The Paradox of Choice” by Barry Schwartz“The Howard Stern Show: Actor And Comedian Aziz Ansari Visits The Show”“Signed, Sealed, Delivered” by Dovid BashevkinBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/18forty-podcast--4344730/support.

8 Dec 20221h 29min

In this episode of the 18Forty Podcast, we talk to Rabbi Dr. Yosef Bronstein. A deep thinker with scholarship and experience in many areas of Jewish thought, Yosef has a PhD in Talmud, an upcoming book on the Lubavitcher Rebbe, work editing at the Reshimos Shiurim on Kiddushin of Rabbi Joseph B. Soleveitchik, and countless lectures, classes, and students on Talmud, mysticism, and Jewish philosophy. Yosef joins us to talk about R. Avraham Yitzchak HaKohen Kook, whose thought on the history of halacha, the relationship between human and God, and the ascending evolution of Jewish thought are deeply fascinating. How do we make sense of change in our religious systems and laws, and the development of our traditions? Listen now to find out. In this interview, we discuss: - How does Rav Kook think about change in Jewish life and law from the Temple times until today? - How can we work through dissonance between our individual moral sensitivities and the halacha? - Can and should our relationship to Jewish people and law change over time? Yosef Bronstein received rabbinic ordination and a PhD in Talmudic Studies from Yeshiva University. He currently teaches halacha and Jewish philosophy at Michlelet Mevaseret Yerushalayim (MMY) and online for Yeshiva University’s Isaac Breuer College. Rabbi Dr. Bronstein is a beloved lecturer, writer, and teacher on topics of Jewish thought, and his book, Engaging the Essence: The Philosophy of the Lubavitcher Rebbe is forthcoming.Interview starts at 25:52Resources:“To the Process of Ideas in in Israel” (LeMehalech HaEideot BaYisrael) by Rabbi Avraham Yitzchak HaKohen KookJewish Thought: A Process, Not a Text by David BashevkinB’Rogez Rachem Tizkor by Dovid Bashevkin Iggrot HaRav Kook - Letter #90 by Rabbi Avraham Yitzchak HaKohen KookMoreh L’Nevuchei HaDor by Rabbi Avraham Yitzchak HaKohen Kook״Derech HaTechiyah״ in Ma’amarei Ha’Reiyah by Rabbi Avraham Yitzchak HaKohen Kook“Chacham Adif M’Navi” in Orot by Rabbi Avraham Yitzchak HaKohen KookIntroduction to Ein Ayah by Rabbi Avraham Yitzchak HaKohen Kook״Tzimaon L’Keil Chai״ in Orot by Rabbi Avraham Yitzchak HaKohen KookWhen God Becomes History: Historical Essays of Rabbi Abraham Isaac Hakohen Kook by Betzalel Naor Progressive Derash and Retrospective Peshat: Nonhalakhic Considerations in Talmud Torah by Rabbi Dr. Yaakov Elman Mevakshei Panekha: Sichot im Ha-Rav Aharon Lichtenstein, In Quest of Your Presence -- Conversations with Rabbi Aharon Lichtenstein by Chaim SabatoBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/18forty-podcast--4344730/support.

29 Nov 20221h 31min

In this episode of the 18Forty Podcast, we talk to Dr. Yonatan Adler about the intersection of halacha and archaeology. Yonatan Adler is a professor of archaeology at Ariel University in Samaria where he teaches about halacha in early Judaism as we see it through the lens of archeology. - Why do we view the past in light of the present and not the present in light of the past? - What does archeology tell us about the origins of the Jewish People? - Did ancient everyday Jews keep the Torah?Tune in to hear a conversation on the blueprint of creation, the invention of the term 'Judaism', and more. Interview begins at 23:15References:Rav Ari Waxman on TwitterTradition Magazine“Hazon Ish on Textual Criticism and Halakhah” by Tzvi A. Yehuda 18Forty - “Andrew Solomon: Far From the Tree” “Hazon Ish on Textual Criticism and Halakhah - A Rejoinder” by Shnayer LeimanExodus 23:2“The Role of Manuscripts in Halakhic Decision-Making: Hazon Ish, his Precursors and Contemporaries” by Moshe BleichIggrot HaRav Kook - Letter #423 by Rabbi Avraham Yitzchak HaKohen KookThe Origins of Judaism by Yonatan AdlerJurassic Park Judaism: The Genealogy of a Modern Notion by Daniel Boyarin “This is Water” by David Foster WallaceGreek and Latin Authors on Jews and Judaism by Menahem SternThe New Testament Josephus: The Complete Works by Flavius JosephusBook of LeviticusThe Zohar 2:161b:1The Jewish War by Flavius Josephus“The Archaeology of Purity: Archaeological Evidence for the Observance of Ritual Purity in Ereẓ-Israel from the Hasmonean Period until the End of the Talmudic Era (164 BCE – 400 CE)" by Yonatan Adler Drashos Beis Yishai - Essay #23 by Shlomo Fisher18Forty - “Tova Ganzel: The Judaism of the Prophets & the People” Psalms 73Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/18forty-podcast--4344730/support.

22 Nov 20221h 18min