Vex of Four Chambers - Burnout, Lactation and Leaning into Despair

Meet Jane Grey, Dominatrix and Co-Founder of the Scene and Unscene events. Listen in as Jane opens up about how validation, agency and recognition, drivers behind her acting career, influence her approach to domination; about her plans for the Edinburgh Fringe Festival; and how acting school shunned female sexuality. Eva Oh and Jane discuss the place of acting in a session, if they might be able to submit and how they've tried to escape the ego through the names that they've chosen. We hear about cultural theatrics and how they could shape a Dominatrix's ability and the different ways these two Dominatrices structure their businesses. A very thorough episode of the #teakink Podcast. Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:00:23) - Jane Grey - Dominatrix, Event Organiser and on a Good Path (00:02:20) - How The Scene and UnScene Events Came About (00:09:15) - The Scene Difference, the Bartenders Bar for Kink (00:14:00) - Authenticity as a Purpose (00:16:10) - How Acting and Drama School Shuns Sexuality (00:20:15) - Validation, Agency, Recognition and the Similarities in Acting and Domination (00:25:10) - South East Asian vs British Theatrics and Social Cohesion (00:27:35) - Growing Star Quality in Professional Domination through Improv Classes (00:29:00) - Moving Around and Growing Adaptability (00:30:35) - Anaesthetising the Ego for Joy (00:32:00) - The Stage vs The Session vs Being a Woman, Is There a Difference? (00:36:30) - How to Go From Personal Kinkster to Professional Dominatrix (00:38:30) - The De-Centring of Our Names - 'Oh' and 'Jane Grey' (00:44:30) - Finding Our Version of Dominance, Visually (00:46:05) - Eva Craving Submission? (00:50:20) - Our Visit to the Edinburgh Fringe Festival and Jane's Show Plans (00:54:50) - Who Do We Tell About Our Job? (00:57:00) - Jane's Subscription Model (01:00:30) - Eva's Cis-het Male Clients vs Her Femme Friends (01:03:50) - The Evolution of Eva's Business Model (01:04:50) - Jane's Plans with the WMH&I Branding Agency, Show Writing and Event Planning (01:09:00) - Eva's Plans on Labours of Love

18 Feb 1h 12min

Biomedical engineer and sex tech entrepreneur Isabella Sandak-Lewin joins Eva Oh on the #teakink Podcast to break down the gaps in medicine’s understanding of female sexuality. From the forgotten science of the female orgasm to the struggles of innovating in sex tech, Isabella shares her journey of developing a wearable sex toy and a diagnostic tool for BV. They explore the orgasm gap, cross-dressing, pole dancing at Cambridge, and the link between sexuality and personal freedom. Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:23) - Isabella Sandak-Lewin - Biomedical Engineer and Sex Tech Entrepreneur (01:53) - The Forgotten Interaction of Body, Medicine and Sexuality (05:40) - Medicine Forgot the Female Orgasm (10:15) - The Orgasm Gap (12:40) - Isabella's Wearable Sex Toy (18:13) - Isabella's BV and More Diagnosis Tool (24:40) - Adolescence, Ballet and Eating Disorders (29:30) - Cross-Dressing and How Women and Men are Perceived (34:00) - How Isabella Claimed Her Sexuality (38:35) - Fem Tech and Sex Tech Struggles (40:00) - 'Coming Out' About Sex Tech (45:00) - The Link Between Sexuality and Personal Freedom (50:00) - Pole Dance, Cambridge University and Castration (58:35) - COVID and Saying Yes

11 Feb 1h 3min

MJ has been on a deep and fast ride into sexuality since an accident catalysed a self-investigation in 2019. She has since brought forth the Joyride Sex Parties and Socials, studied with the Institute for Sexuality, and has plans for expanding the world of sex tech. Join MJ and Eva Oh for a #teakink episode through MJ's discoveries, sex doll brothels, Irish sexuality, the sexual concerns of cis-het men, boundaries and pleasure.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:23) - Meet MJ of Joyride Sex Parties and Socials(02:00) - Taking it to Ireland(03:50) - Queerness at Joyride's Centre(08:10) - An Accident as a Sexuality Catalyst(12:55) - Sex Tech and Sex Doll Brothels(14:40) - The Future of Joyride(16:30) - Irish Storytelling(17:10) - Irish Sexuality(18:35) - Merging Sex Tech and the Physical(23:00) - Cis-het Men Healthy Porn Habits, Erectile Dysfunction and Loneliness(28:05) - The Viscerality of the Sex Party Dancefloor(29:00) - Safeguarding and Freedom in Clubs in Berlin vs London(32:50) - The Laboratory Berlin and the State of Queer Cruising(34:00) - The People Behind Joyride(35:30) - The Kink Coalitipn(37:00) - What Actually is a Sex Party?(42:00) - Why MJ Stays Out of the Playspace(49:00) - Berlin Porn Film Festival and the Venus Convention(51:00) - Sexual Education?(53:10) - Pleasure

4 Feb 55min

This week on the #teakink Podcast, Eva Oh sits down with Mathilde Friis, curator and PhD researcher of art, sexuality, and sex work. We follow Mathilde into her early days, researching in a sex shop, and delve into the creative process behind sex work. We discover the contradictions in how society commodifies creativity while stigmatizing sex, and explore topics like slut-shaming on social media and the range of artistic interpretations of sex work. Mathilde also reflects on purity, danger, cultural etiquette, and why sexuality continues to spark controversy, challenging societal notions of monstrosity and taboo along the way. Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:23) - Mathilde Friis, Curator and PhD Researcher on Artwork, Sexuality and Sex Work (01:40) - Mathilda's Interest in the Contradictions of Sexuality (03:40) - Doing Research in a Sex Shop (05:12) - Slut Shaming Research and Social Media (06:00) - Returning to Sexuality after a Commercial Art Gallery (08:00) - The 'Working Girls' Exhibition (10:15) - The Creative Practice of Sex Work (17:00) - How Society Allows us to Define and Commodify Creativity (20:30) - Sex Worker Honesty and Range in Artistic Interpretation (24:15) - How to Work with Sex Workers When You're Not One (31:00) - Purity, Danger ad Cultural Etiquette (35:00) - Why Does Sexuality Attract Controversy? (39:10) - What is Considered a Monstrosity in Current Society? (40:18) - Commodifying the Space Around Sexuality but not Sex Itself, on Meta (43:40) - Mathilda's Ambitions for Art and Sexuality

28 Jan 48min

Eva Oh visits Dubai and is reminded of her first trip there in a previous life before her career as a Dominatrix. A life that included research work in Afghanistan, time at the United Nations and perhaps a thread that is still very consistent. A thread of curiosity, naivety, fearlessness and navigating the edge of life to feel out what could be. Watch this #teakink episode for an insight into Eva’s life before becoming a Professional Mistress. Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:23) - I’m In Dubai, Reflecting on a Previous Life(01:20) - My Hunger for Information, RSS Feeds and Innovation Journals(03:25) - Questioning and Fearlessness(04:35) - Dubai, A Digital Come Alive(05:50) - Working in Afghanistan(08:40) - My Life in My Own Hands(12:20) - Feeling the Foreign(15:20) - Navigating the Edge(19:30) - The Intrigue and Dangers of Professional Domination(21:30) - Dangers and Opportunities(22:20) - A Food Fetish(24:50) - Have I Changed?

21 Jan 26min

Ali Bushell, therapist and Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner, joins us on the #teakink Podcast for a deep dive intotherapy, kink, and self-discovery. From his work with sex workers to exploring fetish in therapy, Ali shares insights on topics like power, violence, and the parts of ourselves we exile. We unpack shadow archetypes of therapists, the brain as a sexual organ, and the complexity of integrating the self through practices like Vipassana and IFS. Ali's book, 'The Sex Party Handbook': https://shorturl.at/dZeF6 Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:23) - Meet Ali Bushell, Therapist and Internal Family Systems Practitioner (00:40) - How We Met, Ali's Sex Worker Outreach (03:12) - How Sex Workers Can Find Therapists (14:20) - Defining Sex and the Brain as a Sexual Organ (16:05) - Kink in Therapy (24:30) - Power and Violence (26:20) - An Extreme Example? Is it ok That I Enjoyed What I Enjoyed with My Father? (31:00) - Exiled Parts of Ourselves (33:00) - What is Therapy, to Ali (37:50) - Shadow Archetypes of Therapists: Savers, Narcissists and Robots (39:20) - Vipassana, Hearing Voices and Integrating the Self (44:50) - How Ali Found Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Uses It (49:40) - You Can't Un-Kink (52:09) - Sex Negativity and Turning the Lights Off (53:50) - The Kinsey Scale, How Homosexual or Heterosexual are We?

14 Jan 56min

A New Year Begins on the #teakink Podcast. Indulge in a flashback episode, where Eva Oh looks back through the seasons. Their highs and tears, special interviews, the most popular episodes and where it may all go from here. Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:23) - Happy New Year! Podcast Flashback Time (02:20) - The Experiment of Season 1, My First Experiences as a Dominatrix (06:24) - The Storytelling of Season 2 - Slave m, Klub Verboten, My Worst Relationship Ever (11:30) - Season 3 - Major Highlight Episode, Would a Sex Worker Date You (13:32) - Answering Your Questions Through Season 4 (14:41) - Season 5, Interviews That Took Us Far (16:40) - The Format Now (20:00) - Wishing You A Sweet New Year and Always, Thank you for everything

31 Dec 202420min