EP52: Child to Parent Abuse

John is a highly experienced detective, having served with the Devon and Cornwall Police for over 28 years and retiring as Detective Chief Inspector in 2016. He was responsible for the prevention and investigation of domestic abuse, sexual abuse, child and vulnerable adult abuse. For the final four years of his police career he was the Force Lead for Domestic Abuse, Stalking and Harassment, Forced Marriage, Honour Based Abuse, Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) and Safeguarding Vulnerable Adults/Adults at Risk. He was a member of the Local Safeguarding Children Board and Safeguarding Adults Board. He is also an experienced Hostage and Crisis Negotiator and Coordinator. John is an accredited and experienced Senior Investigating Officer and has worked and led on a number of serious and protracted investigations up to and including murder and in the later part of his police career, a number of high profile investigations in health-care settings. John is a Domestic Homicide Review (DHR) Chair and has sat on five different DHR panels and is currently (September 2020) chairing six separate DHR's and a Child Learning Panel Review. Nationally, he was a member of the HMIC National Working Group for Domestic Abuse. He has also completed the accredited three day Karma Nirvana Honour Based Abuse and Forced Marriage training. As Director of AbuseFreeLife John provides expert consultation and designs and delivers bespoke training for clients. He has trained police officers and representatives from other organisations around the United Kingdom on Domestic Abuse, Coercion and Control, Multi-Agency Risk Assessment Conferences, Honour Based Abuse and Stalking. He has lectured and spoken at a number of events including Exeter and Plymouth University, at the Department of Health National FGM Conference, the National Caldicott Guardians Conference, the National Stalking Conference, Coercion and Control Conference and presented to the Isle of Man Government (Tynwald) as they deliberate a new Domestic Abuse Legislative Bill and most recently at the annual London Safeguarding Adults Board Conference 2020. John's website: www.abusefreelife.com Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you. Now mixing with survivor stories. Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries. Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk My website: www.jennifergilmour.com

4 Nov 20201h 14min

Fertility expert and abuse survivor, September Burton is a Champion for Women Survivors of Domestic Violence. After years of emotional, verbal, physical abuse and abuse of power - a common thread in the women she meets’ abuse stories – she has finally managed to break free. September started her career as a U.S. Navy personal chef to 4-star Admirals, stationed in Sicily, Italy. She has since shared her expertise and passion for nutrition as a recurring guest on KCMJ 93.9 radio show, ‘Happy News Now’ and developed a 6-week ‘Eating for Fertility’ nutrition plan for prospective parents. She is the Founder and CEO of “4-months-to-Fertile”, working with couples and mothers struggling with primary or secondary infertility and is the organizer of the first ever Colorado Fertility Conference. September is passionate about living a life of purpose, sharing her knowledge on the healing power of food, and freeing women from the debilitating shame and guilt that often accompanies domestic violence. "There is a magic that happens when women heal together. For every woman who speaks she empowers thousands of other women. Stand with me. Speak with me. Heal with me." Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you. Now mixing with survivor stories. Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries. Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk My website: www.jennifergilmour.com September's website: septemberburton.com

22 Okt 202035min

I speak with Deborah Crozier from A Positive Start CIC about their online counselling service, Deborah answers questions sent in by viewers. *Please note the free online counselling service offer has changed, please get in touch with Deborah directly about the current offers/fee's Deborah's Bio: I am the founding director and CEO at A Positive Start, a Social Enterprise based in the Borders, concerned with new solutions training, personal development & Person-Centred Counselling. I am passionate about helping people overcome the effects of trauma in their lives; supporting & empowering them to regain hope and possibility for the future so they can move forward and live the life they would choose for themselves. One thing I know for sure is, regardless of where you are coming from, or how hopeless things may seem; anything is possible with the right support and the right mindset - if only you can learn to believe in yourself and as a survivor of abuse, I know how incredibly difficult believing in yourself can be. A Positive Start CIC was established as a community interest company in 2017 as a platform to deliver services to support people who are looking to move their lives forward following trauma. Currently A Positive Start CIC & Just Cycle Ltd run joint projects that aim to support people recovering from trauma. Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you. Now mixing with survivor stories. Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries. Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk My website: www.jennifergilmour.com A Positive Starts website: www.apositivestart.co.uk

8 Okt 202031min

Destiny has requested to keep her name and her picture private, Destiny is using a pseudonym. Destiny is a survivor of many forms of abuse including physical, emotional, sexual, spiritual, financial, and many others when getting down to the bones of her experiences. Her journey of healing has led to her becoming a Certified Trauma Recovery Coach. As a survivor of abuse and a coach with a disability Destiny is passionate about the many aspects of disability, mental health, and abuse as well as the overlaps and interlinks. Her focus is spreading awareness of the many aspects which a disability makes something like abuse or healing from it different often difficult in some ways as well as the inaccessibility or non-existence of healing support available to those who are survivors with disabilities. Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you. Now mixing with survivor stories. Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries. Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk My website: www.jennifergilmour.com Destiny's website: powerfullypowerless.wordpress.com UK Support in relation to suicide: www.samaritans.org

17 Sep 202036min

I speak with Emma Jenkings from Mosaic Mediations, we discuss mediation and Emma answers your questions. Emma is a qualified workplace and employment mediator and runs her business Mosaic Mediation. After completing her Law degree in 2009, she went on to work at the Employment Tribunal as a Caseworker, Tribunal Clerk and Customer Service Officer. Emma found that she had a knack for resolving complaints or issues when they arose. She also witnessed the stress, financial pressure and emotional strain that so many people go through during the tribunal process. Emma believed that if situations were tackled differently at an earlier stage, the matter could have been resolved effectively, without resorting to the tribunal. At the beginning of 2016 Emma became a qualified workplace and employment mediator and started her business, Mosaic Mediation. Since then she has led and assisted in mediations for a wide variety of situations and work sectors, and has written a number of articles on conflict and communication. She has also presented talks on conflict prevention, assertiveness and conflict in the workplace. Alongside workplace mediation, Emma also provides 1:1 conflict prevention coaching, DISC personality assessments and corporate training on conflict and communication. Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you. Now mixing with survivor stories. Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries. Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk My website: www.jennifergilmour.com Emma's website: www.mosaicmediation.co.uk

3 Sep 202045min

Danielle is an Amazon best selling author who began writing in order to share her childhood experiences of sexual abuse. Having come to terms with her abuse in her 40s she embarked on a journey of healing and acknowledgement. She sought to encourage readers that as per the title of her best selling book, 'It's no secret, thriving after surviving' that they too could live their best lives after abuse and trauma, should they choose. Danielle joins me for an open and honest conversation. Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you. Now mixing with survivor stories. Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries. Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk My website: www.jennifergilmour.com Danielle's website: www.danielledowney.co.uk

20 Aug 202037min

I spoke with Detective Constable Anoushka Dunic from the Met Police East Area Gangs Engagement Team. We talk about exploitation and the common denominator within domestic abuse and gangs. Anoushka shares her career journey and talks about her experiences, she takes us through the signs of a young person being exploited. Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you. Now mixing with survivor stories. Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries. Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk My website: www.jennifergilmour.com

6 Aug 202037min

PART 2 In this episode we do something different, I chat with my husband about what it was like to be a relationship with a survivor. Rob met me just months after my relationship with my ex abuser had come to an end. Hear more about our story and how Rob got through it, shining a light on an area that I don't think has been covered before. Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you. Now mixing with survivor stories. Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries. Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk My website: www.jennifergilmour.com

17 Juli 202045min