Why Am I Like This? | Glennon Doyle and Abby Wambach

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- How to boost productivity, empathy, and focus, while reducing burnout. From the godfather of Emotional Intelligence.  If you have any degree of ambition, one of the things you probably think about is how to perform at your best, or somewhere close, every day. How to keep your energy up. How to get into flow. How to stay focused and productive. How to play well with others. Daniel Goleman— his friends call him Danny—-has been thinking and writing about optimal performance for decades. He’s perhaps best known for his book, Emotional Intelligence. He’s a Harvard trained psychologist who also wrote in the New York Times for a while. And in his youth, he spent many years studying meditation in Asia, alongside many of today’s most intellectual meditation teachers like Joseph Goldstein and Sharon Salzberg. He’s got a new book called Optimal: How to Sustain Personal and Organizational Excellence Every Day, co-written with Cary Cherniss. In this episode we talk about: How to train your mind for optimal states How to reduce burnout How to develop and deploy empathy in a work setting How to give feedback A productivity hack that involves only doing the easy stuff The 4 parts of emotional intelligence—and how to get better at each And the future of EI in a world of AI This episode kicks off the latest installment of our occasional series, Sanely Ambitious. Over the next two weeks, we will be posting episodes on: how to focus in the midst of a pandemic of distraction, how to fail well, and when to quit. It’s a great lineup.  Daniel Goleman’s online Emotional Intelligence Program Related Episodes: A Radical Approach to Productivity, Self-Compassion Series | Jocelyn K. Glei #494. How to Speak Clearly, Calmly, and Without Alienating People | Dan Clurman and Mudita Nisker The Science of Emotional Intelligence | Daniel Goleman #523. A Masterclass in Handling Yourself When Things Suck | Tsoknyi Rinpoche and Daniel Goleman #436. Brené Brown Says You're Doing Feelings Wrong Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/daniel-goleman-716

15 Jan 20241h 7min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. ---- The author/podcaster talks about her nonnegotiables at a delicate time in her life. Glennon Doyle is an author, activist, and the founder of Together Rising. She hosts the We Can Do Hard Things podcast and wrote the #1 New York Times bestseller Untamed, a Reese’s Book Club selection, which has sold nearly three million copies.  Photo Credit: Alexandra Hedison In this episode we talk about: The concept of embodiment Undoing harmful deep conditioning around hustle and diet culture The role of Internal Family Systems in Glennon’s life Related Episodes: You Don’t Have to be Miserable While Doing Important Work | adrienne maree brown How To End The War With Your Body | Sonya Renee Taylor The Anti-Diet | Evelyn Tribole Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/ Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

12 Jan 202447min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Plus, provocative and practical ideas about actually enjoying exercise, the real relationship between weight and health, the problem with weight loss, the morality of food, feeding your kids, and who "the real bad guy" is. Virginia Sole-Smith is the bestselling author of Fat Talk: Parenting in the Age of Diet Culture and The Eating Instinct: Food Culture, Body Image and Guilt in America. She also writes the Burnt Toast newsletter, hosts the Burnt Toast Podcast, and frequently contributes to The New York Times and other publications. In this episode we talk about: The actual connections between health and body size The severe limitations of many of the most popular approaches to weight loss Nuanced strategies for disentangling from diet culture How to exercise without a hidden agenda of trying to wrench your body into a specific shape The idea that food doesn’t have a moral value The relationship between men, exercise, food, and diet culture How our kids are getting caught up in diet culture, and what parents can do about it What Virginia's smartest critic would say about her contentions Her take on Ozempic Related Episodes: Dharma teacher Cara Lai on mindfulness and exercise Jud Brewer on “The Hunger Habit” Evelyn Tribole on “The Anti-Diet” Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/virginia-sole-smith

10 Jan 20241h 14min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Dr. Jud breaks down how habits work and how to change them. Plus, insights on stress, boredom, mindfulness, pleasure, satisfaction, and contentment. Judson Brewer M.D., Ph.D., is an internationally renowned addiction psychiatrist and neuroscientist and a bestselling author. He is a professor in the School of Public Health and Medical School at Brown University. His new book is called The Hunger Habit: Why We Eat When We’re Not Hungry and How to Stop. In this episode we talk about: The scientific evidence behind Dr. Jud’s approach  The difference between satisfaction and contentment The difference between hedonic and homeostatic hunger Why changing behavior may not require you to dig into your past “Unforced freedom of choice” The “bigger better offer” The “pleasure plateau” Habits vs. addictions “The hunger test”  The Buddha’s advice on eating Whether or not we can still eat gummy worms Related Episodes: Dr. Jud’s anxiety Q&A Dr. Jud on anxiety as a habit Dr. Jud on addiction and bad habits Evelyn Tribole on intuitive eating Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/jud-brewer-hunger

8 Jan 20241h 13min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Have you already bailed on your resolutions? Where are you on your other life goals? This episode is a master class on sticking with it, no matter what. Bryan Stevenson is a public interest lawyer who has dedicated his career to helping the poor, the incarcerated, and the condemned. He is the founder and Executive Director of the Equal Justice Initiative, based in Montgomery, Alabama—an organization that has won major legal challenges eliminating excessive and unfair sentencing, as well as reversals, relief, or release from prison for over 140 wrongly condemned prisoners on death row. He is the author of the bestselling memoir Just Mercy, which was made into a feature film, and the subject of an HBO documentary, True Justice. He is also a MacArthur “Genius,” a graduate of Harvard Law School, and a recipient of over 50 honorary doctoral degrees from institutions like Yale, Princeton, and Oxford University. In this episode we talk about: Bryan’s “non-negotiables,” including exercise, music, and mindfulness The necessity of “proximity” How he manages fear, anger, and hatred How he cultivates hope and faith in the face of overwhelming odds Related Episodes: Father Gregory Boyle on Conquering Hatred with Love Other guests in our “Non-Negotiables” series, including Jon Kabat-Zinn, Esther Perel, and Bill Hader Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/bryan-stevenson

5 Jan 20241h 3min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Chödrön also talks about how to deal with difficult people, set boundaries, and keep a sense of humor in the face of our human foibles and failings. Pema Chödrön was born Deirdre Blomfield-Brown in New York City. In her mid-thirties, Ani Pema met and studied with Lama Chime Rinpoche, becoming a novice nun in 1974 in London. She received ordination from His Holiness the Sixteenth Karampa during that time. Pema first met her root guru, the teacher with whom she had the most profound connection, Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche, in 1972, and she studied closely with him until his death in 1987. In 1984, at the behest of Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche, Ani Pema moved from Boulder, Colorado to Cape Breton, Nova Scotia to be the director of Gampo Abbey. She currently teaches throughout the United States and Canada and continues her studies and meditative retreat under the guidance of Venerable Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche. In this episode we talk about: How to deal with difficult people and set boundaries Having a sense of humor about our own foibles and failings  Keeping a sense of ok-ness in the face of whatever happens  Why coming from a place of love doesn’t preclude us from getting angry or standing up for what we believe in Keeping a sense of humor when we’re setting intentions or taking a vow so we don’t set ourselves up for failure The actual language of the Bodhisattva vow and why admitting how vast and impossible it is to achieve can actually be empowering Why putting others first doesn’t mean leaving yourself out of the equation  How healing yourself can affect your relationships with other people and create a virtuous circle  Taking a "one person at a time" approach to suffering Related Episodes: The Dalai Lama’s Guide To Happiness Full Shownotes:https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/pema-chodron-2024

3 Jan 202459min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Kabat-Zinn on the nitty gritty practicalities of starting a practice, being fully present with no agenda, and letting go of “the story of me.” Jon Kabat-Zinn, PhD, is professor of medicine emeritus at the University of Massachusetts Medical School. Back in the 1970s, he came up with something called Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction, or MBSR, which is a secular way of teaching Buddhist meditation. He’s written many books, including Full Catastrophe Living; Wherever You Go, There You Are; and Coming to Our Senses. His latest book is called Mindfulness Meditation for Pain Relief. In this episode we talk about: The nitty gritty practicalities of starting a practice How he’s learned to be more relaxed about his practice—including advocating for meditating in bed   How to practice being fully present with no agenda  How investigating your motivations—something most people don’t do— can help you be more mindful  How to practice letting go of “the story of me” Related Episodes: Tripping Out with a Legend: Jon Kabat-Zinn on Pain vs. Suffering, Rethinking Your Anxiety, and the Buddha's Teaching in a Single Sentence Jon Kabat-Zinn | Meditation as a Love Affair Jon Kabat-Zinn, Creator of Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/jon-kabat-zinn-2024

1 Jan 20241h 6min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- The star of SNL and Barry discusses how he channels his anxiety into his work. Plus, an imitation of Joseph Goldstein. Bill Hader has made the transition from being a master of stand-out characters and impressions on eight seasons of Saturday Night Life to becoming a true multi-hyphenate by creating, directing, writing, producing and starring as a burned-out assassin trying to break into Hollywood as an actor in HBO’s award-winning and critically lauded dark comedy, Barry. In this episode we talk about: How Bill deals with anxiety His panic attack on live television His love of directing and the importance of having the right collaborators Full Shownotes:https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/bill-hader Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

29 Dec 20231h 2min