What exactly is Gerry looking for? | Golden Bachelor & Bachelor in Paradise 2023 episode 5 recap

Hurricane Kat hits the beach and it causes some *big* waves. Sean takes a page from Kat's book of non-empathy and talks to Jess, inadvertently setting off a chain of events that causes the truth to be revealed... and how he's been painting Rachel as more into him than she is. In this Bachelor in Paradise 2023 episode 4 recap, we talk about why Rachel and Sean's fight went off the rails and what he could've done differently. It mostly involves just being honest and not having to put someone else down to make himself seem more desirable.We then get into Golden Bachelor and our nuanced take on the Kathy and Theresa dynamic. We think Kathy was in the right but came across badly with her tone, and how Theresa wasn't innocent but came across like a victim because of Kathy's "zip it" comment. We then share our frontrunners of his season. We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

21 Okt 20231h 3min

The Kat and Brayden breakup conversation featured classic examples of defensiveness, right-or-wrong thinking, and (dare we say) a litttttttle hint of gaslighting. In this Bachelor in Paradise 2023 episode 3 recap, we dissect their breakup conversations in depth and talk about why things got so ugly so fast - and how we can all avoid or at least better manage these types of conflicts in our own dating lives. We also double click into the nuances of Theresa and Kathy's conflict in The Golden Bachelor episode 3, and we were surprised with how much we ended up empathizing with *both* women. We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

14 Okt 202356min

Golden Bachelor and Bachelor in Paradise are giving whiplash with the wholesomeness and chaos, and we are here for all. Of. It. In the episode 2 recap, we discuss Gerry Turner's earnest enthusiasm for dating and how cute it is... and our hope he doesn't get hurt too badly in a vulnerable process designed to hurt many people. Then we dive into the love triangles on the beach between Mercedes, Eliza, and Aaron B + Will, Aven, and Kylee and the nuances of early dating. We discuss what it means to be honest when you're still exploring other people, and how to set mutual expectations. We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLoveGet personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

7 Okt 202346min

The newest season of Bachelor in Paradise is already bringing the mess, and it's only week one. In this episode 1 recap, we break down what happened between Olivia, Will, and Kylee. The two of us differed in whose side we took in this conflict, sparking a fascinating discussion on the meaning behind a kiss, what we owe the people we hook up with, and the secret to no-drama dating. We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

30 Sep 202342min

The Golden Bachelor season premiere is finally here! In this episode 1 recap, we dig into the ways the ladies of this season are challenging stereotypes about older women and rewriting the narrative of aging as a woman. We also discuss Gerry's back story, the tragic passing of his wife, and which women he has the most chemistry with. We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL!(Note: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)

29 Sep 202331min