The love story we didn't see | Bachelor recap: Joey’s fantasy suites, episode 9

We’ve been waiting all season for Jenn Tran’s season premiere, and it did not disappoint! The episode kicks off with Jenn’s intro package where she opens up about her Asian-American background, her passion being a physical assistant, and her history with toxic relationships. We start the night at a new mansion (!) where she meets her 25 men — and she gives her first impression to Sam McKinney and giggles with Thomas Nguyen, Dylan Buckor, Devin Strader, and others.Throughout this Bachelorette recap, we also dissect our early first impression of Jenn, our mixed emotions about her early standouts, her slow approach to physical intimacy and why that may be due to her upbringing, and then dig into our predictions for her season.We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

10 Juli 202452min

💞 As a special gift to the HTFL community, Dipsea is offering 30 days of FREE access to their steamy universe of hundreds of sexy audio stories. Head to this link for a new steamy Monday night replacement: dipseastories.com/heretofindlove Joey’s season was one for the history books.During the season finale, we speak about the beauty of Daisy and Kelsey subverting the inherently comparative and competitive dating model of the show, if we thought Daisy stole their thunder, and how we wish the show highlighted Kelsey’s incredible emotional intelligence to be there for her friend during her proposal day. We discuss our shifting feelings on Daisy, the refreshing narrative of sisterhood the show is featuring, and our happiness on Joey and Kelsey’s engagement. Then we gush over Jenn Tran’s history-making debut as the Bachelorette, if we think she’ll get married, and all of the things we can’t wait to cover. We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

27 Mars 202437min

💞 As a special gift to the HTFL community, Dipsea is offering 30 days of FREE access to their steamy universe of hundreds of sexy audio stories. Head to this link for the good stuff: dipseastories.com/heretofindloveThis was an emotional Women Tell All episode. Rachel opens up about the racist messages she’s been receiving, and it gives us all a lot to think about when it comes to the ways in which we all interact with popular media and create the culture we live in. Throughout this Bachelor recap we also talk about Jenn’s cycle-breaking story this season, our complicated feelings about Maria (spoiler alert: we weren’t impressed by her behavior at the WTA), and why we’re starting to get a little worried about Joey and Kelsey after what happened with that letter.We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLoveGet personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

20 Mars 20241h

Joey knew what he wanted this episode - and chaos was not it. In this Bachelor recap, we talk about why Joey sending home Maria was a good idea, and our speculations that Rachel might be next on the chopping block. We analyze his strong connection with Kelsey and how it feels slightly different to Daisy’s sweet albeit slightly underdeveloped relationship. In between, we discuss our favorite frontrunners for Joey and how much we missed Jenn’s potential hometown this week.We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)HUGE shoutout to Ashley of Ash Talks Bach for joining us for this Bachelor podcast!Follow @ashtalksbach literally everywhere:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashtalksbach/Twitter: https://twitter.com/AshTalksBachTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashtalksbachAshley’s Bachelor newsletter on Substack: https://ashtalksbach.substack.com/Watch the live recording of this Bachelor podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLoveGet personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow https://www.instagram.com/heretofindloveshow/

7 Mars 20241h 9min

You have to know someone to love them, but who is Joey really? In this Bachelor recap, we talk about why we think Daisy’s really not that into him and our surprise on Joey sending home Jenn who is actually super into him. We talk about Maria’s conflict styles and how they’ve been polar opposites the entire season - except for how they need their partner to show up for them. And why that quality may be Joey’s dealbreaker. Along the way, we discuss why Kelsey A is a perfect combination of what he’s looking for, plus our doubts that he’ll actually choose her. We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

29 Feb 202456min

Relationships are all about timing, and for Joey and Lexi, timing is not on their side. In this Bachelor recap, we talk about Lexi’s surprising decision to leave the show after learning that Joey wants a longer engagement and marriage before having kids - something that she can’t get on board with. We discuss the challenge of navigating differing timelines in relationships and why Lexi’s choice is so commendable. We also dig into what we’ve long surmised would be Joey’s greatest struggle as the bachelor: figuring out how to open up and put himself first. As these issues start to come to the forefront, which woman will be able to embrace Joey in all his struggles and imperfections? We have our thoughts… We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

21 Feb 202446min

We were rooting for you, Lea!!! Why?!This week’s two-day Bachelor special brought the demise of one villain and the rise of the next. Maria and Sydney went head to head in a two on one date, and we were disturbed and also just kinda saddened by Sydney’s behavior before she left. Then we get into the Lea of it all, including her squishy confrontation with Madina, her hard line with Maria, and why we’re both disappointed in her… but also sort of question the nature of the criticism she’s now facing. Along the way, we talk about the ways in which therapy can fail us, how age can affect the ways we show up to disagreements, and the importance of taking women’s pain seriously.We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

15 Feb 20241h 20min