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Let’s talk about this Sydney and Maria conflict, because there are SO many nuances to this situation. At first glance the drama seems to be about something pointless (a comment Maria made challenging the idea of age 31 being “old”), but Episode 3 unveils many more layers. In this Bachelor recap, we unpack the use of the words “bullying” and other therapy speak, the power of “in” and “out” group dynamics, and how Maria and Sydney each handled (and mishandled) the conflict. We are SO excited and honored to be joined by the wonderful JENNA from DATE CARD, one of our absolute favorite Bachelor podcasts! Jenna analyzes the The Bachelor franchise from a queer feminist lens, and her critique (and hilarity) always blows us away. We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow Listen to DATE CARD wherever you get your podcasts and follow her on Instagram: @datecardpod

7 Feb 202445min

Joey’s Bachelor season is upon us, and we are actually super excited! After the season premiere and limo entrances, we have our initial thoughts on who we think Joey Graziadei is most compatible with among his cast of women—and what we think he’s going to struggle most with this season. It’s episode 2 of Joey Grazidei’s Bachelor season, and we have some new dating theories! We discuss our new frontrunner picks, why we love Maria Georgas flirting game, and what Joey is really looking for in a match—and it’s not what you think.We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos.Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

31 Jan 202435min

Joey’s Bachelor season is upon us, and we are actually super excited! After the season premiere and limo entrances, we have our initial thoughts on who we think Joey Graziadei is most compatible with among his cast of women—and what we think he’s going to struggle most with this season. We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

24 Jan 202436min

Even though Bachelor in Paradise is over, some of the couples (Eliza & Aaron B, Kylee & Aven, John Henry and Kat) are still going strong way after the finale. We discuss if we can see them working as a couple, why it’s so hard to date someone with too many expectations, and how everyone is deserving of love—yes even the “villains” who don’t end up learning anything from their past experiences.We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t.We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

9 Dec 202350min

Despite a happy ending engagement for Gerry and Theresa, it was Leslie’s pain that was front and center in The Golden Bachelor season finale. We felt deeply uncomfortable seeing her fall back into her old, ugly stories about herself and witnessing her enduring anger toward Gerry—but in this Golden Bachelor recap, we discuss why maybe that discomfort is okay. We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

2 Dec 202343min

We’re almost to the end of Gerry Turner’s season and it’s giving messy! In the Golden Bachelor Fantasy Suites episode, we see a surprising sex-positive side to Gerry—and we love the way he’s approaching intimacy. However, we don’t love that he’s telling Leslie she’s the one while staying open-minded and planning a future with Theresa. We discuss why it’s important for Gerry to have his guard up and how different Leslie and Theresa are. Theresa feels more like a stable, long-term relationship while Leslie feels more like trauma healing.Then we go to Bachelor in Paradise and analyze the remaining couples on the beach, why we want to save Rachel from the beach, and go over Katie and Blake’s closure convo.We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)

18 Nov 20231h 8min

In a move that surprised all of Bachelor Nation, Gerry Turner sent home Faith Martin after hometowns—but it was their emotionally raw reunion at the Golden Bachelor Women Tell All that we really need to talk about. Back on the beaches of Bachelor in Paradise, let’s just say that we’re starting to get tired of the messy and harmful patterns we’re seeing from several cast members while fan favorites like Rachel Recchia get left behind.In this episode 7 recap, we discuss why some of this season’s most chaotic and uninspiring couples—think Kat and John Henry, or Aaron B and Eliza—seem to be suceeding at love in spite of the controversies around them.We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

11 Nov 202346min

Golden Bachelor Gerry Turner is getting in his feels, and he can't stop saying I love you to his top three women - amazing in the moment but heartbreaking at the rose ceremony. We discuss how the hometown dates went, why meeting their families made things more serious, and if we think it's Theresa or Faith that he will end up sending home. Then we talk about what's happening on the beaches of Bachelor in Paradise, as Kat tries to beat Tanner to the punch with the break-up conversation and then quickly move on with John Henry. At the end, we dig into the disappointment of seeing Brayden and Rachel's spark flame out, and the Charity, Aaron B, and Eliza ex drama. We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

3 Nov 202343min