UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone21 Okt 2025

433. Coaching Hotline: How to Not Take On Other People’s Pain

In this week's Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions that get to the heart of managing our emotions and taking action despite resistance. The first listener struggles with guilt when their actions unintentionally cause someone they love pain. The second listener is trying to build a consistent thought work routine, but often doesn’t feel like doing it and avoids the work.

Through hearing my answers to these questions, you’ll learn why it's not your job to manage or fix others’ emotions, and how taking responsibility for them only adds unnecessary guilt and keeps you stuck. You’ll also discover how to change your relationship with the “I don’t want to” thought and how successful people show up and take action regardless of their feelings.

Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/433

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