Triggers For Attraction And Arousal
Despite our own internal confusions, there are certain scientifically proven traits we do seek in mates that are more related to biological imperatives. We are subconsciously drawn to excitement and a...
28 Mars 202211min
Question Yourself. Question Others.
Immersing yourself in someone else’s equally valid reality is harder than it looks, and so we need to routinely test our own assumptions. We need to ask people questions and challenge our own assumpti...
25 Mars 20228min
It’s Okay To Be Uncertain
Confirmation bias is also the most prominent way that we fail to simply follow the evidence. If we perform research and keep an open mind, our task is simple: just follow the arrows where they point. ...
23 Mars 202212min
Why Bother To Understand People At All?
We’ve talked about analyzing and predicting behavior based on people’s emotions and values, but what about motivation? It turns out there are a few prominent and fairly universal models of motivation ...
21 Mars 202217min
The Problem Of Objectivity
Finally, we become great people-readers when we understand ourselves. We need to know what biases, expectations, values, and unconscious drives we bring to the table so we are able to see things as ne...
18 Mars 20227min
Confirmation Bias Is Seeing What You Want To Prove A Pre-Chosen Conclusion
The most glaring example of this is confirmation bias, wherein we are deaf and blind to evidence that doesn’t support what we think. In other words, we see what we want to see, and we can make a belie...
16 Mars 202210min
Signs That Your Listening Could Use Some Work
It’s important to avoid using language that triggers defensiveness. This includes things like “what’s wrong with you?” “I’m sorry you feel that way,” “whatever,” “you’re overreacting,” “you’re entitle...
14 Mars 202217min
How To Know What You Want (You Don’t)
We often think we know what we want based on singular experiences, stereotypes, or simple social pressures. But we are typically very, very wrong. In fact, most of the time, we are just making educate...
11 Mars 202214min
