The one tool I use with every single client

If you've ever found yourself doing the same thing around food over and over again and hating yourself for it, this episode is for you.

You already know the pattern. You eat your kids' leftovers. You raid the vending machine at the office. You press the f*** it button and wonder why you can't just stop.

And every time it happens, the voice in your head says the same thing: I shouldn't be doing this. What is wrong with me?

Here's what's actually wrong: you're looking through the wrong lens.

In this episode, I'm sharing the one tool I use with every single client and it's not a meal plan, it's not a food diary, and it's definitely not another rule to follow.

It's curiosity.

And it changes everything.

In this episode I cover -

• Why shame keeps you stuck. There's a lot of shame wrapped up in how we eat, secret eating, guilt about portions, beating yourself up for what you did or didn't have. Shame is not information. And it keeps you cycling through the same patterns on repeat. We're swapping the shame lens for something that actually helps.

• What curiosity actually means in practice. Acting with curiosity isn't a vague concept. Instead of I shouldn't be this hungry, it's what's actually going on for me right now? It's treating your cravings, your habits, and your patterns as information rather than character flaws. Because that's exactly what they are.

• The client who struggled every time she went into the office. She'd arrive starving, eat her lunch at half ten, hit the vending machine on the way home, and feel terrible about it. We looked at it through curious eyes, the long commute, the resistance to being there, the fear of being judged and suddenly it all made sense. The solution wasn't willpower. It was understanding. She goes into the office now and it's not a big deal.

• The client who ate her kids' leftovers every single night. She knew she did it. She hated that she did it. She couldn't stop. When we looked with curiosity, her childhood beliefs about food waste, the fact that she fed the kids before herself and was genuinely hungry and it stopped being a character flaw and became a puzzle with an obvious answer. Once you can see it, you can do something about it.

• Black and white thinking and how curiosity blows it open. About 90% of my clients are either on track or off track, good or bad, right or wrong. When you remove that frame and treat everything as neutral information, the whole world opens up. You're no longer failing. You're just gathering information.

• The difference between a conscious decision and the f* it button. Having a second dessert because you actually wanted it and thought it through? That's different to having a second dessert and then writing off the entire next week. Curiosity is what sits between those two things. It's the pause. It's the what's going on here? before the behaviour takes over.

So next time - act with curiosity…..

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