The Weight of Shame: Gay, Latinx, and Finding Your Way Back to Yourself – Lucas Saiter

There are those life moments when you realize, "This just isn't working!" For some it's when they realize, "I'm gay and I just gotta stop pretending to be straight." For others, its "I'm killing myself trying to carry this team and I hate it." Regardless of the situation, suddenly you realize the opposite of what you thought you wanted, desired, or are trying to be is no longer attractive. And, that's when the real talk starts...with yourself and others.Michael Testa, author of When Opposites No Longer Attract, shoots straight with us about discovering and using those empowering moments to move yourself into your destiny in a whole new way.About MichaelMr. Michael J. Testa is a cum laude graduate of the University of Pittsburgh and a 34-year veteran of the Information Technology industry with 23 years in Information Technology staffing and recruiting. In addition to his career in Information Technology staffing and recruiting, Mr. Testa has experience in IT software development and management in banking, manufacturing, distribution, and public utilities. He has worked for Mellon Bank (BNY Mellon), Fisher Scientific (ThermoFisher Scientific), and KCS Computer Services Inc. In 1997, Mr. Testa formed Testa Consulting Services, Inc. (Testa). Testa has become a leader in the Information Technology staffing industry and is a longstanding member of the Pittsburgh Technology Council and the TechServe Alliance.Mr. Testa is the immediate past president of Equality Pennsylvania and a former board member of TechServe Alliance and PBS station, WQED. In 2009, Mr. Testa created GLEC Pittsburgh, a professional LGBT networking group. In 2018, he was one of the founders of the Three Rivers Business Alliance (3RBA), which is a subchapter of the National LGBT Chamber of Commerce(NGLCC). (GLEC Pittsburgh has since merged into 3RBA.)Mr. Testa is a proud father of two sons. He recently authored a book about his coming out experience called “When Opposites No Longer Attract.”Connect With MichaelWebsiteHey Guys, Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here!Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologiesP.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/You can also listen to the podcast on… <img src="https://rickclemons.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/RadioPublic-300x81.jpg" height="81"...

6 Maalis 202020min

Relationships are not easy...right? Yet, sometimes relationships cause one or both partners to wander into the land of infidelity or lackluster connectedness. On the other hand, some relationships wander into the realm of an open relationship. All of these scenarios can lead to insanity, or a better outcome, when you take the time to breathe, think logically, and realize that both partners get to have a voice and a perspective in what is best for them as individuals and as a couple. Here's a few insights and suggestions for when you are potentially facing an infidelity or open relationship conversation to help you keep your sanity. Also here's the Values Assessment that was referenced in the show - Click Here! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

28 Helmi 202012min

He went from being a youth pastor to a conversation with his Dad about his destiny, to now running a highly successful online business, all because he focused on building his destiny. Now he has a brand new book out, The Successful Speaker - 5 Steps For Booking Gigs, Getting Paid, and Building Your Platform - which is fully aligned with his mission and business to help speakers be successful.Grant Baldwin has done what a lot of people aspire to do, create a life built on freedom and flexibility. But it wasn't without challenges. Today he shares his insights for staying focused, building confidence, and overcoming paranoia.About GrantGrant Baldwin is the founder of The Speaker Lab, a training company that helps public speakers learn how to find and book speaking gigs. Through his popular podcast The Speaker Lab and flagship coaching program Booked and Paid to Speak he has coached and worked with thousands of speakers. As a keynote speaker, Grant has delivered nearly one thousand presentations to over 500,000 people in 47 states and has keynoted events for audiences as large as 13,000.Grant has also been featured in national media including Forbes, Inc., Entrepreneur, and Huffington Post.He now lives near Nashville, Tennessee, with his wife, Sheila, and their three daughters.Connect With GrantWebsiteFacebookTwitterInstagramHey Guys, Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here!Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologiesP.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/You can also listen to the podcast on…

21 Helmi 202031min

It's Valentine's Day. The day of either a lot of pressure, loads of love, or screw this who cares. Regardless of how you feel about Valentine's Day, there's one thing most men forget to do...LOVE THEMSELVES. I know you've heard this before but cut the crap and take a listen to why this really should be your #1 priority on Valentines Day!Hey Guys, Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here!Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologiesP.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/You can also listen to the podcast on…

14 Helmi 20204min

I woke up this morning, chatting with a friend, and then she said, " I got nothing!" She was referring to a time when she was doing a Facebook Live and she admitted to her viewers that she had nothing to say. I loved it. And you should too. You should love when you've got nothing, and let go of the pressure and just be with the NOTHING. Here's a short little bit of insight to help you through those got nothing moments.Hey Guys, Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here!Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologiesP.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/You can also listen to the podcast on…

7 Helmi 20205min

Relationships are tough. Relationships are wonderful. Either way, as men we tend to get confused about what to do when the relationships get tough. We either let our egos screw everything up, clam up, or blow up, or give up. That's not the best formula...just ask Chuck Chapman...relationship therapist, coach and all around nice guy. He's giving us some easy tips for making your relationship rock, in the right way.About ChuckAbout Chuck Chapman Chuck Chapman is a Licensed Psychotherapist, Certified No More Mr. Nice Guy Coach and student of self-development. Chuck has built his private practice by helping others recover from toxic shame and overcoming their Nice Guy Tendencies. He is a contributing writer for The Good Men Project frequent contributor to many popular online publications. Chuck is the grateful father of Christina a gold medalist in Special Olympic, husband to Jennifer, a Speech Pathologist, and step-father to three amazing adult children who keep him humble by frequently beating him at every board-game in their extensive collection.Connect With ChuckWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedInHey Guys, Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here!Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologiesP.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/You can also listen to the podcast on…

31 Tammi 202021min

Do you ever feel like are living in a box? Maybe it's not a box of your own choosing? Yet, you are choosing. We all choose to get boxed in. Now it's time to choose better. Get the F*CK out of that box and start living your life. Here's some tips on using the box to build a better life as a 40 Plus Guy.Hey Guys, Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here!Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologiesP.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/You can also listen to the podcast on…

24 Tammi 20207min

Do you find yourself feeling penned in, marching to, to many drums, and never feeling free? Maybe it's time to drop the structure and create your F*CK YEAH life. But you gotta UN-STRUCTURE in order to do that. Here's the keys to un-structuring without screwing up your life, but getting yourself on track to less stress, peace of mind, and more success in life.Hey Guys, Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here!Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologiesP.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/You can also listen to the podcast on…

17 Tammi 20207min