Make Your Damn Bed25 Nov 2025

1621 || finding purpose at an all you can eat buffet

Finding your purpose in life is like finding your favorite food at a brand new "all you can eat" buffet. You arrive hungry and excited, and everything looks pretty delicious.

You try to fit a little bit of everything on your plate. You try tiny nibbles and some disappoint. Others surprise. Others are what you expect. And when it’s time to go back up and try new things you know a littttle more and lose a lil initial excitement so you grab a lil of the things you missed the first time and so on.

You keep tasting and trying. And you get pickier as you go. Recognize what isn’t salted enough for you. What isn’t spicy enough. What’s too spicy. You get more of what works and less of what doesn’t. Until eventually you get a full plate of all the things you love.

When you eventually get hungry again and return to the buffet line? You’ll know.

But you can’t be mad you didn’t know on your first plate.

Sure, you technically "wasted" room on the plate that could’ve been more mashed potato or whatever but you didn’t know you liked the potato that much and if you started with a big plate of mash you’d be so jealous everyone else took a bite of something you hadn’t tried yet. Now you know.

So when you go and get the cake you know you love the most, and return to the table to find your mom loving her portion of the cobbler, you’ve already tried it yourself. You don’t resent her for having cobbler you recognize you can get up at any time and get some. But right now you chose cake.

And you know, you can always change it up for yourself in the future.

The buffet of life is abundant. Don't get caught up in counting calories. Don't get caught up worrying about making the best choice. Don't get caught up optimizing your perfect meal. Instead, try things. Get curious... and then get picky.

Never forget: you have so many options.

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