Choosing a Process vs Choosing a Result (Why Most People Stay Stuck)

Choosing a process vs choosing a result is one of the most overlooked reasons people stay stuck in anxiety, OCD, and mental health struggles for years.

In this episode of The Restored Minds Show, licensed therapist Matt Codde, LCSW breaks down why trying tools, techniques, and processes without deciding on a clear outcome keeps people cycling — and what actually creates lasting transformation.

If you’ve tried ERP, mindfulness, ACT, coping strategies, books, or programs but still feel like nothing truly sticks, this episode will help you understand what’s missing.

Rather than focusing on eliminating symptoms, Matt explains why recovery and transformation begin with choosing an identity and a destination — and then building the structure, skills, and support that align with that result.

🧭 What You’ll Learn in This Episode

✅ The difference between choosing a process vs choosing a result

✅ Why eliminating symptoms is not the same as creating mental health

✅ How identity drives behavior, not willpower

✅ Why “trying things” keeps people stuck in cycles

✅ How clarity of outcome makes the right process obvious

✅ What it actually takes to create sustainable mental and emotional health

This episode is for anyone who feels like they’ve been doing “all the right things” — but still isn’t getting where they want to go.

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⏱️ Timestamps

00:00 – Why people stay stuck for years

01:10 – Choosing a process vs choosing a result

03:00 – Why removing symptoms isn’t an outcome

05:30 – Identity, beliefs, and mental health

08:00 – Why “trying things” doesn’t work

11:00 – How deciding the result changes everything

14:10 – The process follows the decision

⚠️ DisclaimerThis content is for informational purposes only and should not be considered medical or psychological advice. For personalized support, consult a licensed professional.