Reclaiming Me: Heal Your Childhood Attachment Wounds, People Pleasing, and Complex PTSD for Women14 Jan

E81: Midweek Reframe: Disorganized Attachment & Self-Compassion: Meeting Push-Pull With Kindness

What if the push-pull you feel in attachment isn’t a problem to fix—but a place where kindness is needed most?

For women with CPTSD and disorganized attachment, moments of closeness can bring both comfort and fear—often followed by shame. This Midweek Reframe offers a gentle pause to help your nervous system settle. Using a trauma-informed self-compassion practice inspired by Kristin Neff’s work, you’ll learn how to meet conflicting attachment needs with softness instead of self-judgment.

Experience a short, guided self-compassion practice designed for trauma-based attachment
Learn how soothing and grounding the body can reduce attachment-related shame
Discover how to hold longing and fear at the same time without forcing yourself to choose

Take a few minutes to press play and practice meeting your attachment patterns with safety, steadiness, and compassion.

Resources:

Free research-based assessments: ECR/ECR-R questionnaires, Short-Form ECR, and my People-Pleasing Style Quiz at cindypayne.com
Books: Attached by Levine & Heller, The Body Keeps the Score by van der Kolk, Parenting from the Inside Out by Siegel & Hartzell
The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook by Kristin Neff, PhD and Christopher Germer, PhD
Self-compassion practice: Kristin Neff – Self-Compassion
Communities and education: CPTSD Foundation

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Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?

This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.

Listen each week to learn how to:

• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.

• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.

• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.

Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships.

Work With Cindy

Ready for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com

Connect With Me

Send me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com

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