Why Trying to Stop Overthinking Makes You Overthink More (And What Actually Works)

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How much time did you spend this week analyzing why you do the things you do?

Reading about attachment styles, scrolling Instagram therapists, listening to podcasts about nervous system regulation, journaling about why you can't stop overthinking?

Now—how much time did you spend actually not overthinking?

Yeah.

Here's the thing nobody tells you:

All that analysis? All that learning? All that trying to stop?

That's not the new pathway. That's the old one.

You're standing on the old road—the one with all the potholes—staring at the potholes, trying to understand the potholes, researching how potholes form.

And you think you're building a new road.

But you're not. You're just making the old road more familiar.

I recorded a whole episode about this because I keep seeing the smartest, most self-aware people (my people—energy managers like you) trying themselves into the GROUND.

Trying to stop overthinking.
Trying to set boundaries.
Trying to not be so hard on themselves.

The trying IS the problem.

In this week's episode, I explain:

• Why 80% of your time is spent hardwiring what you don't want (and you don't even realize it)
• The spray bottle metaphor that'll make you go "oh shit"
• What it actually looks like to get on the new pathway (real client story that'll probably make you cry a little)
• How to flip the ratio so you're spending 80% of your time being calm AF instead of trying to be

Calm AF Life: Regulated is coming soon. This is where you will shift the identity from knowing how to regulated to REGULATED.

In the meantime, get the Daily Reminders private podcast that you can listen to on repeat that will recalibrate your nervous system (not just add to your tool collection).

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