The Science of Happiness: Five Simple Strategies for Reducing Anxiety and Increasing Connection  | Sonja Lyubomirsky and Harry Reis

The Science of Happiness: Five Simple Strategies for Reducing Anxiety and Increasing Connection | Sonja Lyubomirsky and Harry Reis

What it really means to feel loved, and why many people who are loved don't feel it.

Sonja Lyubomirsky is a preeminent happiness expert and Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of California. Harry Reis is one of the world's leading experts on relationships and Dean's Professor in the Department of Psychology at the University of Rochester. They are the authors of: HOW TO FEEL LOVED: The Five Mindsets That Get You More of What Matters Most.

In this episode we talk about:

  • What it really means to feel loved, and why many people who are loved don't feel it
  • An antidote to loneliness
  • A broader definition of love beyond romance
  • Why feeling loved may be the true key to happiness
  • How feeling loved is more in your control than you think
  • The "relationship seesaw": lifting others up to feel loved yourself
  • The power of curiosity, listening, and reciprocity
  • Why dropping emotional armor is necessary for real connection
  • Practical tools for feeling more loved
  • Tips on asking better questions and showing real enthusiasm
  • Why genuine curiosity, reciprocity, and emotional pacing deepen connection more than performative listening

Related Episodes:

Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here

Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here

Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok

Subscribe to our YouTube Channel

Thanks to our sponsors:

LinkedIn:  Spend $250 on your first campaign on LinkedIn ads and get a $250 credit for the next one. Just go to linkedin.com/happier.

Leesa: Go to leesa.com for 25% off mattresses, plus get an extra $50 off with the promo code Happier, exclusive for our listeners.

ZipRecruiter: To try ZipRecruiter for free, go to ZipRecruiter.com/tenpercent.

FitBod: Get 25% off your subscription or try the app free for seven days at fitbod.me/tenpercent.

To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris

Episoder(1033)

Rich Roll On: How To Pursue Health Without Becoming Unhealthy; How To Establish Motivation & Momentum; And Why People Hate Vegans

Rich Roll On: How To Pursue Health Without Becoming Unhealthy; How To Establish Motivation & Momentum; And Why People Hate Vegans

Simple and realistic strategies from an ultra-endurance athlete. Rich Roll is a vegan ultra-endurance athlete and full-time wellness & plant-based nutrition advocate, podcast host, public speaker, and...

9 Jun 20251h 28min

How To Get a Fluffy Hippocampus with Wendy Suzuki | Get Fit Sanely Listener Picks

How To Get a Fluffy Hippocampus with Wendy Suzuki | Get Fit Sanely Listener Picks

We asked listeners to tell us about some of their favorite episodes from our Get Fit Sanely series, and we'll be bringing you some excerpts of those episodes on Fridays this month. Today, we're hearin...

6 Jun 202514min

Easy, Evidence-Based Hacks for Fitness | Marielle Segarra

Easy, Evidence-Based Hacks for Fitness | Marielle Segarra

Including: "exercise snacking," prioritizing play, and overcoming "revenge bedtime procrastination." Marielle Segarra is a reporter and the host of NPR's Life Kit, the award-winning podcast and radio ...

4 Jun 202559min

Peak Performance at Any Age | Christiane Wolf (Dharma Teacher/Doctor/Ultramarathoner)

Peak Performance at Any Age | Christiane Wolf (Dharma Teacher/Doctor/Ultramarathoner)

Beyond the cliché: listening to your body. Christiane Wolf, MD, PhD is a former physician and internationally known mindfulness and Insight (Vipassana) meditation teacher. She is the author of "Outsma...

2 Jun 20251h 15min

How To Take Care of Your Body Without Losing Your Mind

How To Take Care of Your Body Without Losing Your Mind

Editor's Note (March 2026): This episode contains a brief reference to Peter Attia. Since this episode was published, documents released by the Department of Justice have revealed Peter Attia's connec...

30 Mai 202546min

Sebene Selassie & Jeff Warren On: How Friendship Helps Your Meditation; Vulnerability vs Oversharing; And Advice for People Pleasers

Sebene Selassie & Jeff Warren On: How Friendship Helps Your Meditation; Vulnerability vs Oversharing; And Advice for People Pleasers

An often overlooked secret to improving your meditation practice. Sebene Selassie, an author and meditation teacher. She writes the popular newsletter remind me to love and her first book is called, Y...

28 Mai 20251h 13min

What Distraction Does to Your Brain—and How To Regain Cognitive Control | Adam Gazzaley

What Distraction Does to Your Brain—and How To Regain Cognitive Control | Adam Gazzaley

Distraction is making you anxious and sleepless. Here's how to fix it.   Adam Gazzaley, M.D., Ph.D. is the David Dolby Distinguished Professor of Neurology, Physiology and Psychiatry, and Founder & Ex...

26 Mai 20251h 13min

A Simple Guided Meditation from Dan | Live from the Renegade Sangha

A Simple Guided Meditation from Dan | Live from the Renegade Sangha

We asked not too long ago in the chat on our Substack community – which you can find at DanHarris.com – about what kinds of things you'd find useful as Friday bonus episodes, and one of the things we ...

23 Mai 202513min

Populært innen Helse

fastlegen
lydartikler-fra-aftenposten
rss-gukild-johaug
hvordan-har-du-det-mann
psykodrama
leger-om-livet
relasjonspodden-med-dora-thorhallsdottir-kjersti-idem
foreldreradet
bak-fasaden-en-reise-i-livet-med-sykepleier-ine
morten-ramm-lar-kakla-ga-til-du-sovner
rss-garne-damer
rss-skravla-gar
hjernesterk
rss-lopedrommen
rss-femihelse
g-punktet
hormonelle-frida
klimaks
treningsprat
rss-sunn-okonomi