What to Do When You Feel Unseen, Unloved & Like a Low Priority in Your Marriage?

Have you been feeling overlooked, devalued, or unseen by your spouse? Does is feel like your marriage is running on autopilot, where someone or something else always seems to take priority over you? What do you do when you feel like you’re coming in second place in your marriage, or as I call it, “playing second fiddle.”

I open up about with wisdom straight from my new book, Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples, specifically taking you into the story of Jacob and Leah from the book of Genesis. If you’ve ever felt undervalued, overlooked, or like you just can't win your spouse’s affection—this episode is for you.

Plus, I'll unpack key conversation starters you can use to reconnect with your spouse and discuss these feelings in a healthy, constructive way. And, I’ll close out with a special prayer to cover you and your marriage.

Here’s what you’ll hear in this episode:

What “playing second fiddle” looks like in marriage today
Lessons from Jacob and Leah: How God values those who feel unseen
How insecurity shows up—in-laws, kids, friends, or “ideals”
Why your worth and purpose can’t come from your spouse alone
Two powerful conversation starters to cultivate security and intimacy
A prayer for healing, unity, and renewed value in your marriage

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