"Why does criticism hurt so much?" Dr Julie on triggers and behaviour patterns

"Why does criticism hurt so much?" Dr Julie on triggers and behaviour patterns

Ever looked in the mirror and told yourself “I am enough” ...and not believed a word of it? Psychologist Dr Julie Smith reckons affirmations only work to boost confidence if – deep down – you already believe them.


In this chat with Fearne, Julie explains why your brain needs evidence, not mantras, to change your critical inner voice and build self-worth. She also talks through why criticism from others can hit so hard, and why the discomfort felt is often an echo of a much older wound. Julie breaks down how the patterns we developed in childhood keep replaying in adulthood.


Julie also talks about her breast cancer diagnosis, and how it tested everything she’d been teaching everyone else about fear, agency, and mental health.


Plus, what’s the simple therapy exercise that could change how you carry pain?


Dr Julie’s best-selling book, Open When, is available now in paperback.


If you liked this episode of Happy Place, you might also like:


Dr Julie’s first Happy Place episode


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