Why Your Past Doesn’t Define You | Tobie Gonzalez (Replay)

Tobie Gonzalez joins Lisa to discuss why past trauma doesn’t define your future, the importance of taking care of the next generation, and how to not live in the shadow of your partner. [Original air date: 09/19/18] SHOW NOTES: Tobie’s story [2:00] Why we perceive the same things differently [3:37] Past trauma shapes who you are [[4:41] Ways to overcome your fears [6:45] You can control your brain [8:26] Effective parenting strategies [9:00] Impacting the lives of thousands of children [10:32] Having difficult conversations with your kids [13:10] Teaching your kids the right values [14:23] Falling in love with Tony Gonzalez [16:27] Finding your place in a relationship [18:00] Why it's important to speak your mind [19:44] Surprise people with your identity [21:22] Why being resilient makes you stronger [22:53] What is your definition of love? [24:10] Freeing yourself from toxic relationships [25:03] Finding the right partner for yourself [28:14] Why it’s important to be independently codependent [30:00] Every relationship is uniquely beautiful [32: 42] Having an alter ego can be beneficial [33:30] Finding joy in every moment [36:51] DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins: https://amzn.to/2pfJChP Shadow Buddies: https://bit.ly/2MHNVvR Baby2Baby: https://bit.ly/1y6BQ9s FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh FOLLOW TOBIE GONZALEZ: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2NiDR1A If you purchase an item using these affiliate links, Impact Theory may receive a commission. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa now to grow your business–no matter what stage you’re in. Sign up at https://lastbottlewines.com, use code LISA to save 10%, and find out why Last Bottle is the most fun way to discover and buy amazing wine. This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Give online therapy a try at https://betterhelp.com/women and get on your way to being your best self! Get a free 30-day Alo Moves subscription by going to https://alomoves.com and use code WOI30. Go to https://tryviome.com/LISA and use code LISA to get 20% off your first 3 months, and take control of your gut health today! Try AG1 and get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase by going to https://drinkAG1.com/lisa. ***CALLING ALL BADASSES!*** If you really want to level up your confidence game, check out the WOMEN OF IMPACT SUBSCRIPTION, specially designed to turn you into the badass you were born to be! *New episodes delivered ad-free, EXCLUSIVE access to hundreds of archived Women of Impact episodes, and so much more!* Don't settle for mediocrity when you can be extraordinary! *****Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/457ebrP***** Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices