Authentically Kinky: Redefining Relationships with Andre Lazarus

Episode Description

What if intimacy isn't about sex, performance, or achieving an outcome—but about learning how to truly connect?

In this episode, we welcome Andre Lazarus, Somatic Intimacy Guide, former U.S. Marine, and relationship expert known for his work on the UK television series Virgin Island. Through his coaching practice, Coming Closer, Andre helps individuals and couples cultivate deeper connection through communication, vulnerability, consent, and embodied awareness.

Drawing from his unique journey from military service to intimacy coaching, Andre shares how courage and vulnerability are more connected than many people realize. We explore the role of emotional expression in relationships, why communication often breaks down, and how societal expectations—particularly around masculinity—can prevent people from experiencing authentic intimacy.

Andre also discusses practical ways to advocate for your needs, build trust through active listening, create safety in relationships, and redefine intimacy beyond sex and orgasm. Whether you're navigating a long-term partnership, exploring personal growth, healing from past experiences, or simply seeking more meaningful connections, this conversation offers valuable insights into what it means to truly come closer.

Show Notes

Andre Lazarus is a Somatic Intimacy Guide and media-recognized voice on relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection. Best known for his role on the UK television series Virgin Island, Andre helps people develop healthier, more authentic relationships through communication, consent, vulnerability, and body-based learning.

In this conversation, Andre shares the story behind his practice, Coming Closer, and explains how intimacy extends far beyond physical connection. He discusses the importance of emotional honesty, the power of active listening, and how vulnerability can serve as a catalyst for deeper relationships.

The discussion explores the impact of cultural expectations on emotional expression, particularly for men, and offers practical tools for creating safer, more connected partnerships. Andre also explains how consent, curiosity, and self-awareness create the foundation for intimacy in both monogamous and ethically non-monogamous relationships.

About Andre Lazarus

Andre Lazarus is a Somatic Intimacy Guide and former U.S. Marine known for his work on relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection. He gained national recognition on the UK series Virgin Island, where he supported participants as a surrogate partner alongside therapists, emphasizing safety, consent, and authentic connection.

Through his practice, Coming Closer, he helps individuals and couples navigate challenges such as performance concerns, trauma healing, and reigniting long-term relationships, as well as exploring both monogamy and ethical non-monogamy. His approach is rooted in the Somatica® Method, focusing on body-based learning and replacing shame with curiosity.