Trauma Rewired11 Mai 2021

Learning From Jealousy

In this week's episode, Dr. Joli Hamilton has joined us to talk about the important role of romantic jealousy, and most importantly how we can navigate through it when it comes to our relationships and our health. As a research psychologist, relationship coach, best-selling author, and professor in human sexuality, Dr. Joli has become an expert on shining light on this often neglected emotion. Join us today as we discuss and discover how to see jealousy for what it truly is: an opportunity for introspection and revelation.

In this episode, I share:

How to manage this complex emotion that is rooted in fear, anger, shame, and sadness and turn it into a valuable teacher
What romantic jealousy can help us learn about ourselves
How Joli's life blew up at thirty-three and her key takeaways
Using honesty to keep jealousy from having its way
How to use the tools you already have to deal with the untangled web of emotions that surface when you unwrap jealousy
The essential purpose of jealousy. Why you shouldn't cure it or kill it.
The impact of the imaginable realm
Manifestations of jealousy and the consequences of ignoring it
Conscious conversations and feeling secure in your love bond
Steps to working through jealousy and combating its dark side
Perfect safety in relationship to yourself and the murky territory of control
Boundaries and how they need to start with you
Dealing with the potential of something else entering into your relationship
Finding safety and wellness within yourself
Jealousy can show up anywhere and pop up where you least expect it
Thinking of jealousy as an indicator, identifying how it shows up, and creating a jealousy self-care plan
Using compersion to move into a place of joy and ease

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