62: Making it to Date #2, Political Correctness, Self-Limiting Beliefs

62: Making it to Date #2, Political Correctness, Self-Limiting Beliefs

Listener questions we will try to get to for today: 1. For a successful first date, Dr. Lisle said the goal is to not get ruled out. I'm using online dating and it seems like every time that I've met a girl that meets my standards physically, we'll have a pretty good first date, but then when I try to set up another date I usually hear from them that they didn't feel a connection. Based on what you guys talk about in your podcast it leads me to believe that what they're saying is an inoffensive way of saying I wasn't physically attractive enough myself. But I remember Dr. Lisle mentioning in his advice for guys that we want to take advantage of the repeat exposure effect. How do I take advantage of this effect when I'm consistently told there's no connection from the woman after we've only gone out on one date. And as a side question, has online dating ruined the repeat exposure effect since people feel obligated to judge others for romantic potential very quickly. 2. Why does so much anger exist from groups like Black Lives Matter? What is the evolutionary psychology foundation for political correctness & why is it so pervasive? Why is it so difficult for people to accept political in-correctness without feeling angry or insulted? Is there a way to make someone less sensitive to political in-correctness? 3. What are men and women trying to signal with tattoos? What are women trying to signal by getting tattoos in non conspicuous locations, for example hidden behind the ear, or on the ankle. 4. Is the concept of self limiting beliefs the same as ego traps in evolutionary psychology? Why do these occur? 5. In his session with Olivia, Dr. Lisle alluded to the next phase dealing with disagreeable personalities, but he didn't get into the meat of it. I need the meat. Any chance you could expound?

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