309: Resentful of Cheating Dad, Do Men Prefer to Earn More than Spouse, Moving In with Partner but Marriage is Off the Table

In today's episode, Dr. Lisle and Howk discuss the following questions:

1. I listened to your talk discussing whether humans actually have Free Will: If we, as an organism are just doing what we perceive is optimal for the species in survival and reproduction, does that mean that I should not be very angry at my father who cheated on my Mom repeatedly, divorced her, and spent the rest of his life hitting on women whenever one seemed available in front of him? It has bothered me my whole life and as his daughter I hate him for that. But of course, as I am agreeable, I have never told him that but deep down I resent him.
2. Does the average man prefer to make a higher salary than his spouse? And does the average man prefer to have a degree that is at least as advanced as his spouse? How does it affect a man if he makes less money than his wife, or is not as accomplished academically?
3. So I understand that women can't make themselves more attractive by earning more money, but all things being equal, will men generally select a woman making more money rather than less? Also, what about a woman who makes significantly more than a guy -- might that hurt her chances with him?
4. As a man how do I approach my partner about moving in and us signing a cohabitation agreement that everything is separate other than things we agree to in advance? She is very sensitive and think it will be a tough subject to talk about. I have a lot more money than she does and don't want any legal matters to be an issue later if we break up. Marriage is not in the cards.

   Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast

   Host: Nathan Gershfeld

   Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. and Jen Howk, Ph.D.

   Podcast website: www.BeatYourGenes.org

   True to Life seminars with Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk : www.TrueToLife.us

   Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus