The Ex-Good Girl Podcast1 Jan 2025

Episode 95 - How To Set Goals That Actually Work with Goli Kalkhoran

When it comes to goals and to-do lists, the unrealistic expectations we often have lead to feelings of inadequacy and overwhelm. Whether you want to set a goal for the new year or achieve a task this weekend, today’s guest, Goli Kalkhoran, shares why we often overreach and how to set practical and fulfilling goals that lead to success instead of shame. Here’s what we cover:

How it's possible to change your mindset so you feel good about yourself no matter what you achieve in a day
An exercise to illuminate the unreasonable nature of the level of productivity we often expect from ourselves
Why the perceptions of other people heavily factor into the unrealistic goals of people-pleasers
The idea of “time optimism” and how we use it to punish ourselves by ignoring the context of what is actually going on in our lives
Why focusing on only one goal for the year is an effective strategy
How to choose just one goal by using an exercise to examine areas of insufficiency in your life and asking yourself “What's the rush?”

I can’t wait for you to listen.

Goli Kalkhoran is Master Certified Life Coach, and former attorney, who helps unfulfilled professionals create a career (and life) they actually like. She is the host of the Lessons from a Quitter podcast where she uses her platform to de-stigmatize quitting and provide resources and inspiration to individuals looking to pivot in their established careers. She challenges people to exceed their own expectations and guides them through the initial steps of starting over in order to build a more intentional, fulfilling life.

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