80: Real Talk, About Being A Male Victim of Sexual and Physical Abuse – Brian Cardoza

80: Real Talk, About Being A Male Victim of Sexual and Physical Abuse – Brian Cardoza

Imagine hiding a secret that made you question who you are, if you did something wrong, and causing you to feel like you are not worthy. Now imagine all of this started for you when you were 3, 5, 12. It happened at an age where you were meant to trust an adult, not fear them. All of this weighing on you as you enter into middle school, high school, college, young adult life, and beyond - without anyone know the depth of your secret - that you were physically and sexaully abused. It' not an easy conversation, and that's why we're having it today.

Brian Cardoza, joins me as the two of talk about our experiences of being sexually and physically abused as young me, the toll it has taken on our lives and how we finally found the power to report and talk about it. We know there are many men out there who still struggle to find their voice in this arena so they can be heard, release their pain, and heal. That's why we're having the difficult but necessary conversation today.

About Brian

"We become a Superhero", writes adult Brian Cardoza in a letter to his 6-year-old self. "We are mighty little one. And we are brave." Brian suffered repeated sexual assault and physical abuse as a child. He left home at the age of fifteen, nearly freezing to death the first night on his own. Brian knows the trauma and despair victims must overcome to survive. He not only chose to survive, he chose to give voice to an unspeakable topic and to challenge the stigma and shame often associated with male survivors of abuse.

Now an inspirational speaker, author, and artist, Brian's message is one of responsibility and hope, and he works diligently to raise awareness and money to fight against childhood sexual assault and physical abuse. A believer in the potential to change, Brian's motto, "Don't let this moment dictate the next moment" is familiar to many he inspires.

Brian and his story are featured in a number of national and international projects including a documentary for the EU, Forced, Promise Place's documentary Ripple Effects, The BristleCone Project, and Huffington Post's HuffPost Live segment for Child Abuse Awareness Month. He has been a contributing poet for Purple Sparks and a keynote speaker for a multitude of events highlighting abuse. And he's a certified OVC TTAC Consultant and RAINN Speaker.

Brian's love for art began with drawing as a child. He experimented with different mediums from charcoal to stone sculpting. Stopping for a number of years to focus on culinary endeavors, Brian picked art back up at a time when he felt most alone. Today, Brian's art takes various forms including magnificently colored refurbished bicycles that he donates to children. He's passionate about learning new techniques and styles and the creative process continues to heal the child within.

Brian founded The Broken Knee Club, a non-profit organization created to provide a safe haven for all sexes to comfortably speak out about their experience of childhood and adult sexual assault. In collaboration with others, Brian is building Survivor Knights, a community healing through creative expression. Survivor Knights' exhibits highlight the enormity of the journey from trauma to healing through dark and bright works of art. Brian's words of encouragement to survivors, "Your darkest moments may be the light for another."

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042: Being Your Badass Self - Lou Bortone

042: Being Your Badass Self - Lou Bortone

He went from introvert to being his own version of a badass. So what caused the change? He realized that being fully expressed was more important than hiding behind a shadow of pleasing everyone else, just to not attract attention. Lou Bortone, the "Godfather of Video Marketing," joins me with a candid talk about not having any F*CKS to give about hiding his badass self and how he stepped out of his comfort zone to do it.About LouLou Bortone is known as The Video Godfather. We’re not exactly sure why and, frankly, we’re a little afraid to ask. What we do know is that Lou Bortone has been a pioneer and thought leader in the video space since the launch of YouTube in 2005. He’s helped thousands of entrepreneurs and companies create and leverage online video to build their brands and dramatically grow their revenues.Prior to his industry leading work in online video marketing, Lou spent over 20 years as a marketing executive in the television and entertainment industries, including stints as National Promotion Manager for E! Entertainment Television and Senior Vice President of Marketing for Fox Family Worldwide in Los Angeles.Lou is a popular speaker, author, and ghostwriter of six business books. He’s also the author of“Video Marketing Rules: How to Win in a World Gone Video.” Connect With LouWebsiteFacebookLinkedInInstagramTwitterYou can also listen to the podcast on… Hey Guys, Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.Take the Unapologetic Life Assessment - Click Here, and stop playing it safe.For a real, deep-dive, one-to-one coaching session where we make things happen to get you out of your own way, check out my "Your Next Move" Strategy Session. Check it out - Click Here!Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologiesP.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/

22 Nov 201918min

041: He Said, She Said – Jackie MacDougall

041: He Said, She Said – Jackie MacDougall

He said, she said. It's a part of life, and a part of this podcast as my sister - Jackie MacDougall - from another show - Forty Thrive - joins me in a true "He said, she said" moment. Well actually more than a few moments as we compare notes about what men and women say in response to various questions we posed to our listeners and communities. This is a rich, insightful, show that shows how similar we are as men and women, and yet also provides some insightful surprises along the way that teach us all to listen and learn from one another. Enjoy this fun, no holds barred conversation where we take you to the depths of how men and women see things. It's really truly a real men, real women, real talk show.About JackieJackie is the founder and host of Forty Thrive, an enthusiastic community of thousands of women from all over the country who are committed to kickstarting the second half of their lives. A true mentor and creative leader, Jackie provides women with the tools and connections they need to take their lives to the next level.Connect With JackieWebsiteFacebookInstagramTwitterYou can also listen to the podcast on… Hey Guys, Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.Take the Unapologetic Life Assessment - Click Here, and stop playing it safe.For a real, deep-dive, one-to-one coaching session where we make things happen to get you out of your own way, check out my "Your Next Move" Strategy Session. Check it out - Click Here!Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologiesP.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/

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Why being a PREP whore is a good thing - Damon L. Jacobs

Why being a PREP whore is a good thing - Damon L. Jacobs

He's a WHORE, for PREP. A wonderful human offering responsible education about the use of PREP to prevent transmission of the HIV virus. He's not afraid to talk about it, the use of it, nor to talk about why he uses it. He's owning his sexual truth, sexual practices, and why feels freedom to be a man, a gay man, taking his daily dose of PREP. Damon L. Jacobs makes no bones about why he believes everyone should no about PREP - pre-exposure prophylaxis - and the good it brings into the world for the world and that's why he and I are address this topic for 40+ men, all men who should take note of how this type of medication for prevention is as important as any other type of medication your Dr. orders you to take.About DamonDamon L. Jacobs is a New York-based Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and HIV prevention specialist who focuses his work on sexual wellness, relationships, and harm-reduction. He is the author of two self-help books titled, "Absolutely Should-less" and "Rational Relating." He is best known for championing the use of pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) in The New York Times, USA Today, MSNBC, NPR, Vice News, and more. He has presented on clinical approaches to PrEP and Harm Reduction at The U.S. Conference on AIDS, CROI, The Harm Reduction Coalition Conference, The CDC National HIV Prevention Conference (NHPC), The International AIDS Society Conference (IAS), and more. He was honored to receive a Commissioner Special Recognition Award for his work through the New York State Department of Health in 2016.Connect With DamonWebsiteFacebookLinkedInInstagramYou can also listen to the podcast on… Hey Guys, Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.Take the Unapologetic Life Assessment - Click Here, and stop playing it safe.For a real, deep-dive, one-to-one coaching session where we make things happen to get you out of your own way, check out my "Your Next Move" Strategy Session. Check it out - Click Here!Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologiesP.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - <a...

15 Nov 201927min

How to align your heart and your art - Rick Clemons

How to align your heart and your art - Rick Clemons

Sometimes stuff just falls out of your mouth and they you think, "Boy that was some pretty profound shit I just said!" Ever felt that? Well I did, just the other day while coaching a client. I said "If your heart's not there, then your art's not there!" Without heart there is no art, and all of life is art, so that's why I decided to riff on this idea, hoping some of you guys will see that there is truly an art to getting your heart and art aligned.Hey Guys, Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.Take the Unapologetic Life Assessment - Click Here, and stop playing it safe.For a real, deep-dive, one-to-one coaching session where we make things happen to get you out of your own way, check out my "Your Next Move" Strategy Session. Check it out - Click Here!Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologiesP.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/You can also listen to the podcast on…

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