238: Rob Gutro – Uncovering the life lessons in the after life

OMG. My penis no longer works, and my prostate no longer feels pleasure. My life is over! That may be the way it seems, but does having and living with prostate cancer mean, your life is over as a gay man? No! Just ask today's guest, Kenneth A. Johnson. He's living his life to its fullest, owning his challenges with his prostate and sex life, and thriving beyond what would cause most gay men to say, "Screw it. No more sex for me!" This is his awe inspiring story and advice. About Kenneth Kenneth is first and foremost the son and only child of Alvin and Nautherine Johnson. Born in Baltimore and raised in Reisterstown, MD, he currently resides in Washington, DC, after living 23 years in Atlanta. Kenneth has worked professionally as an analyst with the federal government for over 34 years. His personal life has included volunteer work with a host of non-profits including the Atlanta Pride Committee, Black and White Men Together of Atlanta, Friends of the Library, and Atlanta neighborhood-based organizations. Since living in DC, Kenneth helped birth and currently leads a support group for gay men with prostate cancer as a positive consequence of his own 5-year health adventure. He was diagnosed with prostate cancer in 2016. For fun, Kenneth enjoys time and roadtrips with his parents (frequently to the family homestead in rural Alabama), reading his bookclub’s monthly selection, and binging on Hallmark movies during the holidays. Kenneth tries to live by his personal motto, “Be kind! Be intentional!” and his tattoo collection includes the biblical verses that guide his life: 1 Corinthians 13:13 and Philippians 4:13. Connect With Kenneth Website Facebook Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on… <img...

14 Jan 202248min

It's the beginning of the year, and what do you want to do with this year? I don't know! What do you want from this year? I don't know! What would make you feel fulfilled this year? I don't know! Fine, then sit on your little victim, wandering in the desert of your lost life, and just keep saying, "I don't know!" Or, break the "I don't know" syndrome and get shit done this year. Take a listen and learn to the possibilities that await you when "I don't know," becomes "I do know!" Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should - careers, finances, sex, love, health - all that stuff that we think we're talking about but aren't. It's fun, it builds community, and you never know when you just might make a great connection or a friend. Click Here To Join The Calls! P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

7 Jan 202210min

Do not set a New Year's Resolution. Do not head out to that party dreading the start of another year. Do not do anything that you do not plan to do without a solid INTENTION. That's my advice for this coming year, and every year. And, here's how you do a new year filled with intentions! That is if you want to up your game and your life as a gay guy in 2022! Download The Manifesto Click Here Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

31 Des 20218min

You're running yourself ragged, trying to get all the right gifts for everyone. But, what have you done for you? What gift are you going to give yourself? And don't go saying, "That's so selfish!" There's nothing selfish about giving yourself a gift this holiday season, and here's a few gifts you should consider. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

24 Des 202118min

Religious trauma. Seems to be the norm for a majority of LGBTQ people that you encoutner. "You're damned to hell!" or "You're a sinner!" Of course most those people hurling those words for get that they're divorced (a sin), have committed adultery (a sin), have eaten pig (a sin), worn woven fabrics (a sin), but all of that is forgivable, but you just can't be a man and lay with another man, or a woman and lay with another woman - well women that's ok because men find that pleasing to their naughty little minds. We listen up sinners, there's a new minister in town and his name is Eric Feltes and he is sashaying his way into your world on Instagram and TikTok show you a new light for accepting yourself and moving past your religious trauma.  And, if you are 40+ and still dealing with these wounds, you will surely want to listen up buttercup. About Eric Through creativity, authenticity, and courage, Eric Feltes cultivates connection and tells stories in order to inspire others to love themselves and the world around them. In his professional life, he does this through acting and life coaching. Through his coaching business, Eric helps other gay men free themselves from Church shame, a topic he knows a great deal about, seeing as he has lived through this trauma himself. In his free time, Eric loves spending time with his dog, his twenty plants, and his close friends in Los Angeles. Connect With Eric Website TickTock Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

17 Des 202148min

What if there were no Grindr, Scruff, Adam4Adam? What would you do? Get out and meet guys? Resort to hooking up in the back of bars or restrooms? Or Isolating? Regardless of what you use the in-your-hand apps for, your world may just come to an end...or would it? That's what we're exploring today on the 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk podcast. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

10 Des 20217min

From a young age, the fear of God caused him to tremble in his boots about his secret. Then, in his 40's he could no longer live within that secret, and he realized he had to be who he was, a gay man. Then he made national headlines by taking a stand as a gay educator, fighting for the right to teach in his classroom, when parents saw him as a threat to their children. All because people judged who he was and who he was meant to love and share a life with. James Merrick shares is truth and his journey about being judged as a 40 Plus gay man. About James James Merrick lives in Bakersfield, California, with his husband Juan. He Graduated from Fordham University with a PhD in Curriculum and Teaching. In 1999, he won a nationally televised battle to keep students in his classroom. Writing has been an essential part of his professional life. Judge Me, Judge Me Not. is his first memoir. He is currently drafting his first novel. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

3 Des 202136min

We're coming into the home stretch of the year and it's - HOLIDAY TIME! Don't freak out, don't put pressure on yourself, and please don't try to please everyone. OK, EASIER SAID THAN DONE. However, you can have a peaceful holiday season in your gay life by following a few of these tips, without being or needing a douche! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

26 Nov 20218min