298: National Coming Out Day and Get Out To Vote – Rick Clemons

If I make them happy, then I will be liked. Or even better, if I do this for them then they will do something nice for me. Sound familiar? It's call being a pleaser and as gay men, we have tried to please everyone else, hiding our true self, and then when we come out, it doesn't end, until you confront the pleaser within, and fix that madness. Today we explore who to take your pleaser saboteur and put him in the right place to make you please yourself while finding the right way to please others - in a healthy way. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

9 Des 202214min

Authenticity is one of those words that can be cringe or cult worthy. For most gay men, it is something that we all struggle with as we battle the demon of "that's not what you're supposed to be." Let's end that battle and look at authenticity through the lens of how you define it, and only how you define it. Joining me on the podcast today is Coach Maddox - the authenticity activist and host of The Authentic Gay Man Podcast to give you straight up insights on how to be more authentically you. About Coach Maddox Coach Maddox is a Personal Power Coach, Community Leader, Content Creator, and Host of The Authentic Gay Man Podcast. He has devoted a lifetime to personal growth and freely shares what has learned. With a 40 year history of providing personal services to clients as a beauty professional, he gained an incredible understanding of human behavior and effective listening and communication skills. He has now parlayed that into a thriving coaching practice, where he focuses on supporting gay men to be the most authentic version of themselves, so they can create deep and meaningful friendships with their fellow gay brothers. He is an "Authenticity Activist" and agent for powerful and positive change, and a member of the "Gay Coaches Alliance". Connect With Coach Maddox Podcast Facebook Twitter Instagram LinkedIn Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

2 Des 202244min

Dating. It's either fun or the bane of your existence. Whatever happened to the good old days of waving a magic wand and meeting Prince Charming. LMAO. Yeah, keep dreaming men. It's time to do the work and make those relationships happen. What better way to celebrate the 200th episode of 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk than to have a candid conversation about Cupid's Arrow with Michael Kay, Head of Global Communications at OKCupid, where love and dating are their hearts desire. Take a listen as we explore what really can make your dating life lead you to the man of your dreams. Make sure you listen until the end where Michael offers up an exclusive offer for listeners for 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk. About Michael Michael Kaye is the Head of Global Communications at OkCupid, one of the world's largest dating apps, where he leads PR programming in the United States and for countries across Europe, the Middle East and Oceania. He was previously a Product Communications Manager at LinkedIn and before that, the Senior Global Communications Manager at OkCupid. Michael has been featured in ABC News, Ad Age, Business Insider, Bustle, CBS, CNN, Cosmopolitan, Elite Daily, Forbes, Good Morning America, The New York Times, PR News, PRWeek, VICE and The Washington Post. He’s won several industry awards, including PRSA-NY 15 Under 35 Winner 2021 and more. Connect With Michael Special Offer For OKCupid - subscriptions@okcupid.com Instagram Twitter LinkedIn Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

25 Nov 202244min

Stop whining and start celebrating your milestones of life - age, career advancements, make-ups and breakups, losing weight, gaining weight. They are all milestones that give us the goods to move our lives forward if we use those milestones to kick ourselves in the ass for good instead of moping around like a whiny old man. Here's the goods on turning those milestones into opportunities. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should - careers, finances, sex, love, health, coming out - all that stuff that we think we're talking about but aren't. It's fun, it builds community, and you never know when you just might make a great connection or a friend. Click Here To Join The Calls! P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

18 Nov 202213min

Sex, sex, sex. That's all gay men care about. Not exactly true but even if it is, sex and sexual pleasure can get the best and worst of us as we age...or does it? Intimacy expert, Susan Bratton joins me today for a very candid, raw, sexual chat about everything sexual and how to take care of your cock, balls, and masculine energy around sex. Jump on boys, this is one you won't soon forget. About Susan Susan Bratton "Intimacy Expert to Millions" is a champion and advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. She is co-founder and CEO of two corporations: Personal Life Media, Inc., a publisher of heart-connected lovemaking techniques and bedroom communication skills and The20, LLC., a manufacturer of organic and botanical supplements that enhance sexual vitality. A best-selling author and publisher of 34 books and programs including Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, Ravish Him, Steamy Sex Ed, The Passion Patch, Hormone Balancing, and Hot To Trot. Susan has been featured in the New York Times and on CNBC and the TODAY Show. She makes frequent appearances on ABC, CBS, The CW, Fox and NBC. Connect With Susan Website Twitter Instagram LinkedIn Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

11 Nov 202258min

Aging. Wondering what do I do and where will my life lead me? It's happening to all of us. One of the biggest questions is "When the time comes, where do I find a community that is welcoming to me as an aging, retired gay man, without the fear of having to hide back in the closet?" Loren Ostrow, the founder and developer of Out Palm Springs shares how he and his organization is changing retirement living for the LGBTQ community. This insightful conversation might surprise you of the things you aren't thinking about as you march towards those golden years. About Loren The driving force behind Living Out, Loren Ostrow has an extensive background in large project development and management. As president of Silver Slipper Gaming, LLC., Bossier Casino Venture, Inc., and a principal in KOAR International, LLC. Mr. Ostrow and his companies have successfully acquired, developed, and managed properties that include casinos, hotels, shopping centers, restaurants, condominiums, and other major commercial real estate endeavors. He currently serves as Chief Executive Officer and President of Living Out, Palm Springs. Loren holds a B.A. degree from the University of Rochester (graduating Magna Cum Laude), an MBA in finance and accounting from the University of Rochester, and a J.D. degree from Stanford Law School. Loren is also a well-known member of the LGBTQ community, both as an active participant in LGBTQ causes and as a generous philanthropist. Loren has served on the Boards of Directors of the Los Angeles LGBT Center, the National Gay & Lesbian Task Force, and Congregation Kol Ami. He continues his 20+ – year tenure on the Los Angeles LGBT Center Board of Directors and continues to be a significant financial benefactor for issues important to the LGBTQ community. Loren and his business partner, Paul Alanis, have been in partnership for more than 40 years. Loren and his husband of 30 years, Brian Newkirk, reside in Los Angeles, Palm Springs, and Provincetown. About Living Out Palm Springs Living Out Palm Springs will be an upscale resort apartment community built on nine acres in central Palm Springs, California. It will comprise 122 luxury apartments, in four unit configurations ranging from a 1 bed, 1 ½ bath + den, to a 2 bed, 2 ½ bath + den. Units will range from approximately 1,100 sq. ft to 1,700 sq. ft. with every unit containing a large usable balcony or patio. The architecture of the community will reference the iconic Mid-Century Modern style for which Palm Springs is famous. The project will feature dramatic landscaping, desert mountain views, an upscale, full-service restaurant and bar operated by nationally-known chefs and restaurateurs Susan Feniger and Mary Sue Milliken, movie theater with reclining seats, game room, card room, state of the art fitness center, arts and crafts studio, massage rooms, a hair salon including manicure and pedicure facilities, and an innovative community lounge that will include a coffee bar, prepared food options and work space. The exterior of the property will include covered surface parking for all residents as well as guest and retail parking, an event lawn, BBQ and entertainment areas, a resort-style swimming pool, three separate jacuzzi spa areas, bocce ball courts, a putting green, orchards, rose gardens and walking paths. One of the unique features of the project will be a large pet park, with areas for large and small dogs adjacent to a full-service pet facility, including a retail store, grooming facilities, pet daycare and overnight boarding. Living Out Palm Springs will provide onsite and virtual concierge services to meet the needs of all its residents. Additionally, to provide choices for Living Out residents who are interested in aging-in-place options, Living Out Palm Springs will work with local LGBTQ+...

4 Nov 202238min

You have this burning desire to do your own thing, start your own business, be your own boss. Great. Awesome. Then the challenges arise and instead of walking away from a job, you just built yourself a job that you can't get away from. Stefaan DeVreese candidly shares the in's and out's of being a gay man in mid-life who is building a business, and the resilience it takes to be a titan in your own world. Listen for great tips and advice of how to start that side hustle or full blown business as a gay man. About Stefaan Stefaan, born and raised in Belgium, is Founder & CEO of Titanology. He is a true serial entrepreneur. After more than 2 decades of building his own companies and serving big corporate businesses, helping them analyze and streamline their teams, systems, and leadership… he came out of the closet at 36 years old. He chose to use his knowledge to help people from the LGBTIQ+ Community to start, build and grow their own self-sustaining business around their passion, so they can have that life of freedom we all desire and deserve. As a former basketball coach for 20+ years, it’s safe to say that coaching is his passion. As public speaker and community builder his mission is to show every LGBTIQ+ Business owner how powerful they truly are. He is co-founder of the BGLBC. Check his LinkedIn Profile for more information. Connect With Stefaan Website Instagram Twitter LinkedIn Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

28 Okt 202241min

Living life is messy. Messy, messy, messy. Now add to it being a gay man, and Lord help us, it can get real messy. Helping us undo some of that mess when we think it is impossible is Author Britt East, sharing wisdom from his book "A Gay Man's Guide To Life." Listen up and you just might learn something that you need to. About Britt BRITT EAST is an author and speaker who uses his experience, strength, and hope to challenge and inspire change-oriented gay men to get down to the business of improving their lives. With over two decades of personal growth and development experience in a variety of modalities, such as the 12 Steps, Nonviolent Communication, yoga, meditation, talk therapy, and the Hoffman Process, Britt is committed to building a personal practice of self-discovery that he can then share with gay men everywhere. He lives in Seattle with his husband and their crazy dog.  Connect With Britt Website Twitter LinkedIn Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

21 Okt 202245min