Anger Secrets: Anger Management for Healthier Relationships15 Jun 2025

138 - Four Behaviors That Will End Your Marriage

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into four key behaviors that lead to the end of marriages, based on research by Dr. John Gottman. Alastair discusses how these behaviors often creep in unnoticed, slowly eroding trust and connection in relationships.

He emphasises that criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling are crucial patterns to recognise. Each behavior has its antidote, which can help partners communicate better and rebuild their relationship.

By addressing these issues, couples can create a more loving and respectful connection.

Key Takeaways:

Arguments can often lead to silence, creating distance in relationships.
Small patterns in communication can gradually erode trust and love over time.
The importance of addressing negative behaviors before they cause serious damage.
Four key behaviors that can predict divorce and how to counteract each one.
Criticism can create resentment, and gentle communication is a better approach.
By recognising harmful patterns, you can change the direction of your relationship.

Links referenced in this episode:

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For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

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