The Weight of Shame: Gay, Latinx, and Finding Your Way Back to Yourself – Lucas Saiter

The Weight of Shame: Gay, Latinx, and Finding Your Way Back to Yourself – Lucas Saiter

Why is it still so hard to just be in your own skin when you’re a gay Latinx man? From religious guilt to macho pressure, the layers of shame and silence can run deep. In this episode, therapist and NYU instructor Lucas Saiter joins us to unpack the mental health challenges gay Latinx men face—and how we can finally stop carrying everyone else's expectations. Lucas brings powerful insight as a clinician, Latinx gay man, and community builder. From healing identity wounds to rebuilding intimate connections, he’s helping men take off the mask and find real belonging—in themselves and in their communities. If you've ever felt like you're too much or not enough, this one's for you. In this episode we:
  • Learn how to close the gap between shame and self-lov
  • Break the patterns of it being rude or disrespectful to discuss mental health in the Latinx world
  • Discover how vulnerability is a superpower

About Lucas Lucas Saiter is the founder and director of Manhattan Therapy NYC and Adjunct Instructor in the Department of Applied Psychology at NYU. In addition to working in a group practice in New York City, he also maintains his own private practice, supervising recent graduates obtaining hours for licensure. Clinically he has interests in many areas, including LGBTQIA+ individuals working on strengthening identity, Latinx individuals and couples, immigrants adjusting to living in NYC, adults and young adults dealing with anxiety, depression, identity concerns, trauma, and relationship and intimacy concerns. Connect With Lucas Website Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

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162: Give yourself a little RESPECT – Rick Clemons

162: Give yourself a little RESPECT – Rick Clemons

As the queen of soul sez: R-E-S-P-E-C-T. It is time to respect yourself and if you don't then that is on you, and only you. Because self-respect is where confidence grows. And as another queen sez (RuPaul) - If you can't respect yourself, how the hell you going to respect someone else. Ok I took some liberties with that one, but you know RuPaul would agree with those sentiments too. Now listen and learn how to R-E-S-P-E-C-T yourself. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should - careers, finances, sex, love, health - all that stuff that we think we're talking about but aren't. It's fun, it builds community, and you never know when you just might make a great connection or a friend. Click Here To Join The Calls! P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

4 Mar 20229min

161: Skin Care, Plastics, And All That Anti-Aging Jazz – J. Shea Terry

161: Skin Care, Plastics, And All That Anti-Aging Jazz – J. Shea Terry

Like it or not, all of us gay men are aging. It's a conveyor belt and there is nothing we can do about it. Nor should we feel pressure to do something about it. Yet, some gay men do choose cosmetic surgery and skin care regimes to make themselves feel comfortable in their aging bodies. Then others do what they do to ensure they take the best care of their bodies in a way that suits them. Rather than be judgy about men who choose skin care, botox, and cosmetic surgeries, listen and learn and you just might be surprised what you might be able to do to be more comfortable in your own skin, without being a cosmetic surgery horror story. About J. Shea Terry J. Shea Terry is a Practice Integration and Development specialist in the medical industry who knows a thing or two about taking good care of yourself and making you feel good about how you look, without going to the extremes in the world of cosmetic surgery. From skin care to botox and natural approach cosmetic surgery, J. Shea Terry guides clients in the best possible approaches for making the most of what they have to work with to love who they are in the conveyor belt of aging. Connect With J. Shea Terry Website LinkedIn Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

25 Feb 202248min

160: Do we really have to play sexual roles? – Rick Clemons

160: Do we really have to play sexual roles? – Rick Clemons

Roles, roles, roles. Everyone wants us to play some role so that it makes it easier to relate to them. We all do it, and don't say you don't. Yet, as gay men, we feel like we have to fit into some constrained role to make our gay lives work...or do we. We're rolling out the roles and saying now more as we explore the sexual roles we play as gay men! Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should - careers, finances, sex, love, health - all that stuff that we think we're talking about but aren't. It's fun, it builds community, and you never know when you just might make a great connection or a friend. Click Here To Join The Calls! P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

18 Feb 20228min

159: Loving Yourself This Valentine’s Day – Steve Disselhorst

159: Loving Yourself This Valentine’s Day – Steve Disselhorst

Valentine's Day is just a few days away. So let's start crying the blues about what sucks about being a gay man and no one to love. Nah. Let's not do that. Let's talk about the challenges of not having someone to love but what we can do to be more in love with our lives and ourselves this Valentines Day. Joining me is fellow coach and gay dad, Steve Disselhorst as we dish it about love, careers, aging, health, and all that jazz before we let Cupid's Arrow hit the target of love in our lives. After all, cupid is kinda cute so why not get a few tips on loving what you got instead of hating what you don't have. About Steve Steve Disselhorst specializes in personal & professional leadership development and consulting for diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) and is the author of the memoir Determined To Be Dad: A Journey of Faith, Resilience, and Love. Before founding his firm, Steve worked for Genentech, a biotech company, and is a veteran healthcare marketer. Currently, he serves on the San Mateo County LGBTQ Commission and is a speaker for the San Francisco LGBTQ Speaker’s Bureau. Steve is the father of two wonderful children who are the center of his world. Connect With Steve Website Get Steve's Book Facebook LinkedIn Twitter Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

11 Feb 202241min

158: Conquering The Confidence Conundrum – Rick Clemons

158: Conquering The Confidence Conundrum – Rick Clemons

How do you as a gay man, conquer the confidence conundrum? we say the last part of that question 3 times really fast, and if you can say that, you've got confidence! Just kidding. But, gaining/finding confidence as a gay man, is about as close as grabbing your middle leg and stroking it to life. Yes, it is that easy to find your confidence if you are willing to do a little bit of work. Listen and learn how! Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should - careers, finances, sex, love, health - all that stuff that we think we're talking about but aren't. It's fun, it builds community, and you never know when you just might make a great connection or a friend. Click Here To Join The Calls! P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

4 Feb 20229min

157: Yup. You’re No Good At Gay Sex! Really? – Rick Clemons

157: Yup. You’re No Good At Gay Sex! Really? – Rick Clemons

The clothes are coming off. Your heart's racing and an appendage is growing, and you can't wait to touch him and have him touch you. Then your head - the one above your shoulders starts creating a story that - you're no good, you're no good, you're no good - buddy you're no good at this SEX thing. Get over it. You're good you just need to figure it out and own it! Let's go have some fun exploring being good at gay sex! Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should - careers, finances, sex, love, health - all that stuff that we think we're talking about but aren't. It's fun, it builds community, and you never know when you just might make a great connection or a friend. Click Here To Join The Calls! P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

28 Jan 202210min

156: How Do You Do Gay – Rick Clemons

156: How Do You Do Gay – Rick Clemons

The biggest question I get asked, by guys coming out of the closet, is not how do you take a big penis, it's how do you do gay? Ok, maybe the penis question comes up to, but today we're exploring how you do gay, whether you've been out since you were a teen or just coming out after 30, 40, 50, 60, 70 years old, or older. Let's go explore how you do gay! Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should - careers, finances, sex, love, health - all that stuff that we think we're talking about but aren't. It's fun, it builds community, and you never know when you just might make a great connection or a friend. Click Here To Join The Calls! P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

21 Jan 202212min

155 – There is Gay Life Beyond Prostate Cancer – Kenneth A. Johnson

155 – There is Gay Life Beyond Prostate Cancer – Kenneth A. Johnson

OMG. My penis no longer works, and my prostate no longer feels pleasure. My life is over! That may be the way it seems, but does having and living with prostate cancer mean, your life is over as a gay man? No! Just ask today's guest, Kenneth A. Johnson. He's living his life to its fullest, owning his challenges with his prostate and sex life, and thriving beyond what would cause most gay men to say, "Screw it. No more sex for me!" This is his awe inspiring story and advice. About Kenneth Kenneth is first and foremost the son and only child of Alvin and Nautherine Johnson. Born in Baltimore and raised in Reisterstown, MD, he currently resides in Washington, DC, after living 23 years in Atlanta. Kenneth has worked professionally as an analyst with the federal government for over 34 years. His personal life has included volunteer work with a host of non-profits including the Atlanta Pride Committee, Black and White Men Together of Atlanta, Friends of the Library, and Atlanta neighborhood-based organizations. Since living in DC, Kenneth helped birth and currently leads a support group for gay men with prostate cancer as a positive consequence of his own 5-year health adventure. He was diagnosed with prostate cancer in 2016. For fun, Kenneth enjoys time and roadtrips with his parents (frequently to the family homestead in rural Alabama), reading his bookclub’s monthly selection, and binging on Hallmark movies during the holidays. Kenneth tries to live by his personal motto, “Be kind! Be intentional!” and his tattoo collection includes the biblical verses that guide his life: 1 Corinthians 13:13 and Philippians 4:13. Connect With Kenneth Website Facebook Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on… <img...

14 Jan 202248min

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