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We’ve been trying to do a bunch of experiments here on this show, and our latest is a weekly newsletter, which you can sign up for here! To celebrate this new endeavor, we’ve put together a whole episode about risk taking and experimenting. We thought this would be helpful and educational while also giving you a fun peek behind the scenes (and also allowing us to be blatantly self-promotional in the process—a win/win!). In fact, this episode itself is experimental in its format, because we don’t have a typical guest. I sat down with the show’s Senior Editor Marissa Schneiderman—who has been collaborating with me on the newsletter—to talk about how we’ve been putting into practice the wisdom from some of our best guests, including Brené Brown, Adam Grant, Rick Rubin, Sarah Cooper. You can sign up for Dan Harris’ Newsletter at: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast It’s a weekly roundup of life hacks, cultural recommendations, pod news, and upcoming events. Related Episodes: Adam Grant on the Science of Potential and Achievement Legendary Record Producer Rick Rubin On: Creativity, Habits, Self-Doubt, Intuition and Meditation Comedian Sarah Cooper On: Humiliation, Perfectionism, and Taking Chances Vulnerability: The Key to Courage | Brené Brown How to Speak Clearly, Calmly, and Without Alienating People | Dan Clurman and Mudita Nisker Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/take-risks

27 Okt 202345min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Plus: Why Lama Rod is "no longer interested in being a good person," why we need to let go of perfectionism, and the selfish case for sainthood. Lama Rod Owens is making his fifth appearance on Ten Percent Happier. He describes himself as “a Black Buddhist Southern Queen” and is an authorized lama in the Kagyu School of Tibetan Buddhism with a Master of Divinity degree from Harvard. His new book is The New Saints: From Broken Hearts to Spiritual Warriors. In this episode we talk about: What Lama Rod means by “New Saint” Why he is “no longer interested in being a good person” Why it's so important to let go of the ideal of perfection The practices and characteristics of a New Saint The questions you should ask yourself about your beliefs His experiences with what he refers to as “unseen beings” and his exploration of the “unseen world” Related Episodes: Meditation Party: Magic, Mystery, Intuition, Tattoos, and Non-Efforting | Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren Lama Rod’s first appearance on Ten Percent Happier Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/lama-rod-owens-new-saints/lama-rod-owens-new-saints

25 Okt 20231h 12min

One of our most frequent and popular guests talks about how to develop the character skills to discover your hidden potential. Adam Grant is an organizational psychologist at Wharton, where he has been the top-rated professor for seven straight years. His books have sold millions of copies, hisTED talks have been viewed more than 30 million times, and he hosts the hit podcastRe:Thinking. His viral piece on languishing was the most-read New York Times article of 2021. He has been recognized as one of the world's ten most influential management thinkers. In this episode we talk about: Why character skills are so important and how to develop them What we learn from seeking discomfort The concept of scaffolding as a way to overcome obstacles The value of acceptable mistakes And How to see the hidden potential in others and champion them Take Adam’s Quiz: Which skill could unlock your potential? Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/adam-grant-hidden-potential

25 Okt 20231h 10min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Understanding the difference between ‘normal’ forgetfulness and actual memory loss, practical ways to stave off Alzheimer’s disease, and meditation’s role in brain health.    Lisa Genova has a Ph.D. in Neuroscience from Harvard University. She is the New York Times bestselling author of several novels including Still Alice—which was adapted into a film starring Julianne Moore who won the 2015 Best Actress Oscar for her role as Alice Howland, Love Anthony, and Every Note Played. Her first work of nonfiction is Remember: The Science of Memory and the Art of Forgetting. Genova’s first TED talk, What You Can Do To Prevent Alzheimer's has been viewed over eight million times and her most recent TED talk, How Memory Works--and Why Forgetting is Totally OK was the sixth most watched TED talk of 2021. In this episode we talk about: The difference between ‘normal’ forgetting and actual memory loss The difference between dementia and Alzheimer’s disease  Meditation’s role in brain health What the Memory Paradox is  The best foods and types of exercise for staving off Alzheimer's The three things happening in your brain while you sleep that are helpful for memory  Why brain games (like crossword puzzles and sudoku) don’t actually improve memory The first necessary ingredient for creating a memory  How memories are formed And the relationship between memories and music Related Episodes: Ten Percent Happier Podcast Sleep Series Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/lisa-genova

23 Okt 20231h 1min

Our friend Dr. Michael Gervais at the Finding Mastery podcast is a renowned sports psychologist who found meditation by happenstance. We wanted to share this conversation he had with Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn about the mind/body interactions for healing and clinical applications for mindfulness meditation training.  Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn is a Professor of Medicine emeritus at the University of Massachusetts Medical School, where in 1995 he founded the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine, Health Care, and Society and in 1979, its world-renowned Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) Clinic.   Order Dr. Michael Gervais' new book here: https://findingmastery.com/book/ Listen to the Finding Mastery podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/finding-mastery/id1025326955

20 Okt 20231h 13min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- The host of On Being shares lessons learned from 20 years of interviews, including: how to live with open questions, counterprogramming against your negativity bias, and getting over the God question. Krista Tippett is a Peabody Award-winning broadcaster, a National Humanities Medalist, and a New York Times bestselling author. She grew up in a small town in Oklahoma, attended Brown University, and became a journalist and diplomat in Cold War Berlin. After studying theology at Yale Divinity School in the early 1990s, Tippett launched Speaking of Faith — later On Being — as a weekly national public radio show in 2003. She has published three books: Becoming Wise: An Inquiry into the Mystery and Art of Living; Einstein’s God, drawn from her interviews at the intersection of science, medicine, and spiritual inquiry; and Speaking of Faith, a memoir of religion in our time. In this episode we talk about: Getting over the God question when it comes to contemplating religion Why Western culture has such a dearth of ways to talk about love Why she thinks the core of relationships is not about agreeing but about navigating differences Tuning into our generative agency Her definition of a wise life as distinct from a knowledgeable or accomplished on Why she believes it is as important to know what you love as it is to know what you hate Learning to love big open questions instead of rushing to answers Why the things we get paid to do may not define whether we're living a worthy life  And getting our intentions straight and then trying not to tie them too tightly to our goals Other Resources Mentioned: Krista Tippett’s TED Talk: 3 practices for a life of wisdom Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/krista-tippett

16 Okt 20231h 4min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- The difference between ADHD and human distractibility, and strategies for managing ADHD that can improve your focus, even if you don’t have it. Today’s guest is Dr. Mark Bertin, a developmental pediatrician who specializes in ADHD and developmental disorders. He’s the author of How Children Thrive, Mindful Parenting for ADHD, Mindfulness and Self-Compassion for Teen ADHD, and The Family ADHD Solution, which integrates mindfulness into pediatric care. For more information, please visit his website at www.developmentaldoctor.com. In this episode we talk about: The difference between ADD and ADHD, and the subcategories: hyperactive and inattentive. Whether ADHD is a new condition brought on by the distractions of a modern world, or one that’s always been around.  The difference between being human and distractible, and having ADHD. Strategies for managing ADHD that can be used even if you don’t have ADHD. Episodes Mentioned: Kryptonite for the Inner Critic | Kristin Neff Self Compassion Isn’t Always Soft | Kristin Neff The Scientific Case for Self Compassion | Chris Germer Join Dan: LIVE! Dan will be in upstate New York at the Troutbeck hotel on Sunday, November 17 — it's a Q and A and live guided meditation, and it's gonna be a great time. You can buy tickets and get more details here: https://troutbeck.com/culture/troutbeck-x-dan-harris/  Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/mark-bertin  Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

11 Okt 20231h 3min

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Here's what might be preventing you from making better decisions and how to know what's even worth wanting. Shane Parrish is the entrepreneur and wisdom seeker behind Farnam Street and the host of The Knowledge Project Podcast. He is the author of the New York Times bestseller Clear Thinking: Turning Ordinary Moments into Extraordinary Results. In this episode we talk about: How to position yourself to make better decisions Shane’s decision making process The difference between decisions and choices Full Shownotes:https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/shane-parrish

9 Okt 20231h 8min