What No One Tells You About Grief After Losing Your Mother

This one is for all the women out there who lost their mothers. If you’ve ever wondered why grief from a mother's death doesn't follow the timeline the world expects, why it surges at 51 when you pass the age your mother died, why menopause brings a wave of loss that has nothing to do with hormones, or why you still don't know how to answer "I'm sorry" decades later, this episode is the one you've been waiting for. Tamsen Fadal lost her mother at 20. For nearly 30 years she didn't talk about it. Hope Edelman lost her mother at 17, couldn't find a single book written for young women who'd gone through the same thing, and eventually wrote it herself. That book, Motherless Daughters, has now reached millions of readers and sparked decades of retreats, support groups, and communities built around the specific kind of grief that never goes away. In this episode, you'll learn: - Why your age at the time of loss is the most defining factor in how mother loss shapes you - What "new old grief" is, and why it floods back the moment you become a mother yourself - Why grief that looked like getting a tattoo, changing your friend group, or throwing yourself into work is still grief - The difference between guilt and regret, and why so many daughters are carrying the wrong one - What "crossing the silent threshold" means when you outlive your mother's age - Why the five stages of grief were never designed for the people left behind - How to rebuild a relationship with your mother's memory even decades after her death - Why women in their 50s are showing up to grief retreats for the first time and feeling relief they haven't felt in 30 years - What perceived vulnerability looks like, and why it drives behaviors people around you can't understand If you like this episode, then you will love: What I've Learned After 35 Years Without My Mom If you want a say on our upcoming guests, fill out this form Stay connected with Tamsen: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get ⁠Tamsen's newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠ filled with free tools⁠ to living better, feeling stronger, and knowing you’re never alone Get Tamsen’s NYT instant bestselling book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠How To Menopause⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠ from Tamsen Watch all the episodes on ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Tamsen Show on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Hope on Instagram Get Hope's book, Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss Learn more about Hope's retreats Sponsors: Make the switch today! Get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/TAMSEN! Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices