Calm AF | Overthinking, Anxiety & Nervous System Regulation5 Maalis 2025

Why Trying To Control Everything is Keeping You Stuck—And What to Do Instead

If you're the one who shifts the energy in a room, who anticipates what people need before they even realize it, who prides yourself on preventing problems before they happen—this episode is for you.

You believe you're controlling things because you have proof—meetings where you turned a "no" into a "yes," situations you steered to avoid disaster, people you influenced into changing their minds.

But here's the truth: Control was never actually yours.

In this episode, we break down:

How gripping tighter actually makes things worse
Why you're exhausting yourself for an illusion
Why you believe you control the world, but not your own thoughts
What surrender really means—and why it's not "giving up," it's actually the path to true power

Resources:

The Love Letter Subscription: Start your day with a powerful, perspective-shifting message—before the world pulls you back into the grind. These love letters will shift your whole day and they're $9/month. Join here.

Get Regulated: A self paced course that walks you through getting to know your nervous system reactions and helps you create a plan to overcome old patterns and spend more time feeling peaceful and happy.

The Upgrade: If you don't want to DIY it with a course, but you aren't quite ready for the level of private coaching, the Upgrade is for you. On-demand, personalized coaching via Voxer access during office hours.

Private Coaching: If you want me right next to you, accessible and available when you need coaching as you achieve your goals and create the life you love with EASE, private coaching is what you're looking for. This is high touch, bespoke, quick, and by application only.

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